I really really want intimacy, to get close to someone physically and emotionally. There is nothing wrong with me (as a person, there is no reason i shouldnt be loved and wanted and in a partnership) and there is no reason this shouldnt be ecplored.
However! Whenever I find someone I like reciproactes the liking, my body goes into complete flight/freeze. Its okay as long as they dont like me back. In those cases its just in my imagination, and quite safe. But when the actual possibility of something more than an imaginary partner is on the horizon (even faintly), there is auto panic.
I (the thinking mind) personally really really wants to get close to someone! And when I am not in front of that person, I am quite confident, but as soon as Im near, the auto response happens. I expect its due to so many trauma experiences with males, while in relationship. Now relationship signals danger.
At one point in my life (teenage/twenties) I ony,had sexual relationships, which bypassed a lot of this. But I dont want that anymore. Im not sure how to egt around it. I cant really spill my story to someone I hardly know, just to explain why Im scared to talk to them!
I must find a way. Life is to be a shared experience! I want over this!
I am supposed to have psyche help soon, but still waiting! How to move on? Thank you
However! Whenever I find someone I like reciproactes the liking, my body goes into complete flight/freeze. Its okay as long as they dont like me back. In those cases its just in my imagination, and quite safe. But when the actual possibility of something more than an imaginary partner is on the horizon (even faintly), there is auto panic.
I (the thinking mind) personally really really wants to get close to someone! And when I am not in front of that person, I am quite confident, but as soon as Im near, the auto response happens. I expect its due to so many trauma experiences with males, while in relationship. Now relationship signals danger.
At one point in my life (teenage/twenties) I ony,had sexual relationships, which bypassed a lot of this. But I dont want that anymore. Im not sure how to egt around it. I cant really spill my story to someone I hardly know, just to explain why Im scared to talk to them!
I must find a way. Life is to be a shared experience! I want over this!
I am supposed to have psyche help soon, but still waiting! How to move on? Thank you