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« Last post by Rainagain on Today at 11:19:32 AM »
Isolation could be a valid response I think, almost healthy if it didn't bring other problems.
If you can't manage emotional boundaries then physical ones are a replacement.
If you've not had your fight/flight response wildly over revved for years then its hard for people to grasp what it is like.
And why would they even bother to understand? Why learn a language that only one person speaks?
That's the value here, true understanding.
Not often encountered really, some mental health specialists and us.
Been reflecting on miscommunication today in recent relationships. One person recently threw back at me a fact I had shared with them years ago, they did so as a passive/aggressive push back. They felt I was diminishing their keenly felt issues by sharing something so extreme. They had remembered the fact all that time then brought it out as something I had said to invalidate their situation.
I was genuinely trying to explain myself in my own context and it wasn't a negation of them or their situation (at least I hope not, it was so long ago). But they heard something else.
Another belittled my cptsd by saying her uncle had PTSD from active service. This person had the facts but not the understanding.
As if some people are more deserving of compassion than others.
That's basically saying get over it, pull yourself together, grow a pair, dry your legs. Be great if determination was a cure. But It isn't.
These people aren't hurtful or stupid by nature, they just don't understand what the facts mean.
To withdraw and isolate might be a symptom of cptsd, or it might be a normal protective response based on harsh experience of the way others view and judge you.
People don't get it, they often seem to fit the facts into a framework they understand but it doesn't work like that, our realities are so very different.
Its not a choice, its a trauma reaction.
Since I can't seem to fit my trauma reaction into their world I will just stay in mine.
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