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#21
Conferences/Courses / Re: Amygdala Conference Series...
Last post by Blueberry - April 18, 2024, 05:10:01 PMI've just signed up too. Why not? There might be something useful/interesting.
#22
Recovery Journals / Re: Forging New Paths
Last post by Blueberry - April 18, 2024, 05:00:07 PMQuote from: Blueberry on March 23, 2024, 04:43:52 PMI have started the course. Finally, in earnest, today. That is, I've dedicated a notebook for writing stuff, especially homework / being honest with myself + whatever else comes up and/or occurs to me. I might sometimes write about something on here or more likely on my private Journal
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More importantly for me, doing this course is part of my attempt to improve my self-discipline of doing things for ME, of taking those healing steps regularly, making a habit out of them, getting back up again and setting off again when I've fallen on my nose or just stopped practising for whatever reason.
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Back on the bolded bit again today after idk 3-week break, tho it wasn't a planned break of course...
#23
Frustrated? Set Backs? / Re: Dysregulation around N's
Last post by ednasurvivalmode - April 18, 2024, 02:21:15 PMI see the N behavior in others as confirmation that I don't have to feel guilty for walking away. It's good enough for me. They're digging their own holes, in my book. I struggle with the anger also, Kizzie. It takes me some good verbal bashing/venting to calm it but it's not always that easy. My FOO loves to use their wills and death as leverage. It's unfortunate for them that I don't play games.
I am sorry that you had to deal with that nonsense.
I am sorry that you had to deal with that nonsense.
#24
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: I’m going through the same...
Last post by Kizzie - April 18, 2024, 02:04:57 PMHi and a warm welcome to OOTS SunSpirit. You don't need an 'official" diagnosis here given the APA DSM doesn't yet include CPTSD. It's enough that you recognize it yourself and want to work on recovery alongside all of us.
Glad you found us and I hope the support, info and resources here help you.
Glad you found us and I hope the support, info and resources here help you.
#25
Country Specific Resources / Re: Want to Add Your Country?
Last post by Kizzie - April 18, 2024, 01:55:49 PMI just doublechecked it and it is there. Maybe just refresh your browser and see if that does it.
#26
United Kingdom / Scotland - Inverness, Moray...
Last post by Blueberry - April 18, 2024, 09:00:40 AMFree, confidential, out-of-hours help, run by volunteers
https://www.mikeysline.co.uk/
https://www.mikeysline.co.uk/what-we-do/face-to-face-support/
I came across this on BBC news, no personal knowledge of it.
https://www.mikeysline.co.uk/
https://www.mikeysline.co.uk/what-we-do/face-to-face-support/
I came across this on BBC news, no personal knowledge of it.
#27
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: I’m going through the same...
Last post by Little2Nothing - April 18, 2024, 09:00:16 AMWelcome Sunspirit!!!
#28
Dating; Marriage/Divorce; In-Laws / Re: Don’t know if I should go ...
Last post by Blueberry - April 18, 2024, 08:32:42 AMThis kind of FOO stuff is soooo difficult. At least in my experience.
Is there a middle road possible? This kind of option was suggested to me: turn the invitation politely down but suggest you join them later for an important occasion?
If you have good contact with a sibling, I don't believe that declining her wedding invitation should make her go no contact with you. If it does, then imho very sadly the contact might feel good on your side but isn't so much on hers. "Not going" doesn't have to be understood as a huge statement.
Weddings are important but so is your emotional well-being!
Is there a middle road possible? This kind of option was suggested to me: turn the invitation politely down but suggest you join them later for an important occasion?
If you have good contact with a sibling, I don't believe that declining her wedding invitation should make her go no contact with you. If it does, then imho very sadly the contact might feel good on your side but isn't so much on hers. "Not going" doesn't have to be understood as a huge statement.
Weddings are important but so is your emotional well-being!
#29
General Discussion / Re: Hooo boy... (anxiety about...
Last post by NarcKiddo - April 18, 2024, 06:48:43 AMQuote from: GoSlash27 on April 17, 2024, 11:12:25 PMI'll stick with the plan, let my T drive, and hope for the best.
I am happy to read that sentence. Because to me it indicates that your therapist seems to be a good fit. Of course it is early days. But she has told you something you don't at all like (the depression and critic may return for a while) and you have not run screaming for the hills. If you are anything like me then the word "trust" is way, way too strong to use at this stage, but it feels like there is something there. I hope I'm right.
You're very brave to be doing this knowing there could be change. I mean, we all do it with the hope of some change because if we were 100% happy as we are what would be the point of going through therapy? But imagining change and the unknown is tough and from your posts it seems like you may find future unknowns particularly challenging to contemplate. Maybe your therapist can help you with that. Mine has been good on that front.
You've started on a road that I hope will lead you to happy things. Go, Slashy!
#30
Recovery Journals / Re: Miswired Circuits/Things T...
Last post by NarcKiddo - April 18, 2024, 06:37:37 AMThat's horrid. I hope you have somewhere cozy and safe, even if it's just bed, where you can spend at least some time to regroup.
