What Triggers Your EFs?

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melere

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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #30 on: November 19, 2017, 05:28:09 AM »
Mine:

-The faintest whiff of criticism.
-If someone even disagrees with an opinion sometimes (though this has improved thank gods).
-Yelling/outbursts of anger.
-Crying, unfortunately.
-Being cussed at/made fun of in a friendly or non-friendly way.
-Making a mistake.
-Not knowing what to do.
-People who remind me of FOO/toxic people in general/my actual FOO.
-Trying to get medical treatment. Even if they're nice I'm still left in pieces but apathetic doctors or people who don't understand the severity of the problem (because I'll find myself downplaying my problem automatically) are huge, huge triggers.
-THINKING I'm not liked. If I find I'm not liked for real, I'm not particularly bothered. It's just the threat of it!

I'm sure there are more to discover but that's off the top of my head.
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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #31 on: November 25, 2017, 10:05:42 AM »
~ Toxic people  :aaauuugh:
~ Being misunderstood
~ Being blamed for something I didn't do
~ Seeing people act in a selfish way
~ Listening to people who aren't compassionate
~ My own personal critic
~ Having to do someone else's work
~ Being bullied
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Move within, but don't move the way fear makes you move.”
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ah

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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #32 on: November 26, 2017, 11:44:14 AM »
Have been giving this question more thought, and I noticed my list of triggers keeps changing.

Something that wasn't triggering yesterday can easily become triggering today, all it takes is for it to be paired for a moment with self hatred, or a moment of trauma or new abuse, and voila! I got a new trigger.
It's like it gets "stamped" and my mind recognizes it as a new trigger, and adds it to the ever growing pile of neutral, innocuous looking objects and experiences that have each suddenly exploded and turned into new triggers.

And sometimes I can desensitize myself so a trigger becomes less hurtful and I can become less involved in it. It turns back from a trigger to just an ordinary object or experience.

I'm not sure what's at the basis of all of that pile of triggers. Self hatred, maybe?


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Shankara

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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #33 on: March 20, 2018, 04:04:42 AM »
Dominant/ aggressive people ( Especially those with certrain traits that give me the feeling of being inferior).  I usually react vy either being aggressive or simetimes giving in. Because I fear that someday I will be punished

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James

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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #34 on: April 10, 2018, 04:50:41 PM »
Angry people
People specifically angry at me - this is probably my worst trigger to an EF
When someone finds out I've done something wrong
Pretty much all authority figures
Knowing that friends or family are out doing something and I'm home alone
Feeling like I'm a burden to people
Having to ask for help
Having to admit that I have emotional/anxiety problems

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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #35 on: May 05, 2018, 07:16:43 AM »
More often than not, I wake up with an EF from sleeping. I don't remember any actual 'nightmare' most times, but occasionally I will wake up in full-blown frustration, anger, rage or in a complete shut-down mode where I am afraid to make myself known so I don't really speak - only when required - I don't volunteer anything. My desired super power is invisibility on those painful mornings.

Having read many of the triggers below, I can relate to many of them... but find it very hard to articulate them, let alone identify them for myself.
It's almost like someone somewhere has dictated that I don't have a right to notice my own feelings.

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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #36 on: May 29, 2018, 02:54:15 PM »
Any contact with adults in FOO whatsoever, including thinking about them, especially when thinking about how to explain to them how badly they damaged me.

Explaining same to other disbelievers and/or sceptics.

 
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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #37 on: June 13, 2018, 04:11:48 PM »
Hi  :wave: and welcome, Seeking Solace.

Been 41 years and not free yet. Most recent 21 years in abusive relationship/marriage...trying to escape

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Rowan

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Re: What Triggers Your EFs?
« Reply #38 on: August 05, 2018, 02:20:25 PM »
Triggers
Antiseptic
High frequency sounds
Being late
When FOO call me
When FOO don’t call me (Stockholm)
Being ignored
Feeling ignored/disregarded/unheard
Seeing emotional abuse occurring
Anything (literally) to do with medical/dental professions or concerns that they may need to be involved
Feeling judged/criticised/blamed
Feeling that I should have done something and self criticising
Seeing someone else being judged/criticised
‘Death talk’ - partly because of the professions involved, partly because of unresolved grief by littles.
Dysphoria.
Public showers/bathrooms.

My, what a list...

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