SA *trigger*

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LittleBird

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SA *trigger*
« on: January 13, 2018, 03:39:45 PM »
I don't know when, if ever, I'll see what happened to me as "not my fault".


When I've heard what other victims of child SA have shared, my heart breaks. But when I think back - I'm not at the stage yet where I don't believe it was my responsibility.

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Contessa

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« Reply #1 on: January 13, 2018, 05:08:30 PM »
Yeah that's a hard one, but we will all arrive at that point of belief when we are ready.

Until then, just know for now that I know it is not your fault.

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Elphanigh

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« Reply #2 on: January 13, 2018, 05:26:00 PM »
LittleBird, that realization took me a long time. I still battle with it, there are still pieces that I blame myself for on occasion. Everytime I think of them I have to think through the work I have done in therapy, and the reasons I wouldn't blame someone else.

Like Contessa said, we will all come upon thay truth in our own time.

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Blueberry

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« Reply #3 on: January 13, 2018, 11:36:24 PM »
I still battle with that belief about all forms of abuse done to me. All I can say is that the self-blame has lessened with time.

I know it's not your fault you were abused! But I have trouble seeing that for myself.

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Mussymel

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« Reply #4 on: January 14, 2018, 12:58:55 AM »
I understand that. For me it's like a gap between logic and feeling. I logically know that an eight year old cannot be to blame for that but I still feel responsible. I hope that in time, with help I will be able to join the two. I hope you will too.

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Sceal

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« Reply #5 on: January 14, 2018, 06:35:51 AM »
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