Cause of my cptsd uncovered

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Rainagain

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Cause of my cptsd uncovered
« on: January 23, 2018, 07:06:29 AM »
Had a breakthrough in understanding why my employer behaved so badly that I developed cptsd.

Turns out that they hadnt realised they had a duty of care in the situation I faced and so they made my life hell for a couple of years.

Helps to understand why.
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Re: Cause of my cptsd uncovered
« Reply #1 on: January 23, 2018, 07:15:29 AM »
I'm glad you've had a breakthrough and that it's helping.
Should is
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« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2018, 12:13:45 PM »
I have a need to understand things, to try to make sense of it all.

Of course, the fact that my troubles were directly caused by stupidity is very sad.

Unnecessary, what a shame.
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« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2018, 12:48:37 PM »
 :hug:
An entire ocean cannot sink the smallest ship unless the water gets inside it. Similarly, the negativity of the world can't bring you down unless it gets inside you.

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Re: Cause of my cptsd uncovered
« Reply #4 on: February 06, 2018, 08:53:23 AM »
After doing some more digging I realise that my huge employer, large enough to have personnel Dept's, legal teams etc. Are ignorant.

They totally missed their legal duty toward me and simply allowed me to suffer workplace violence until I developed cptsd and left.

And they have done it to others in the past, and will do it to others in the future.

Except that they are going to get  :fallingbricks: :fallingbricks: from me in court.

Its not just about me any more, I have a sense of mission about it now.

To quote Disney Pixar's Antz.....

Buckle up spankey!
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« Reply #5 on: February 06, 2018, 08:55:43 AM »
 Give them  :fallingbricks: !
An entire ocean cannot sink the smallest ship unless the water gets inside it. Similarly, the negativity of the world can't bring you down unless it gets inside you.

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Re: Cause of my cptsd uncovered
« Reply #6 on: February 06, 2018, 12:30:06 PM »
I certainly will!

Getting all fired up creates energy for me to get it done.

If I lose the case I will be very unhappy indeed.....better make sure I win!
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« Reply #7 on: February 06, 2018, 01:15:58 PM »
Good luck with this!
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« Reply #8 on: February 15, 2018, 11:34:41 AM »
Go for it Rainagain!  Whether you win the case or not, you still win in a way.... because you are putting them through a lot of work, giving them a few headaches, making them rethink their behaviour. The legal action you are taking could make them review their staff policies, and benefit new staff.

Plus, it could generate some bad publicity for them, and if they value their public image, they'll want to sort it out asap.

I think taking legal action can be therapeutic, because it's empowering. You are not just rolling over and being a victim. Whatever the outcome, you come out a fighter!   :sharkbait::applause: :applause:

Healing is the outcome of reversing longstanding patterns of self-alienation and building the capacity to love and accept our 'selves'.

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« Reply #9 on: February 15, 2018, 01:40:52 PM »
Fen,

You are spot on. They have already done a few things as a result of what they did to me, mostly covering backsides and trying to sound concerned.

But they refuse to look at their actions honestly and accept what they did to me.

So, I will be after them and hope to properly bash them up until they fully accept their actions have dire consequences for their staff.

The adverse publicity could be enormously embarrassing for them, they basically abused an employee until a permanent mental health issue developed.

Shocking.

Just as shocking is their callous attitude of throwing me under the bus to help their own positions.

And these aren't evil people, just a corporate collective of arrogant entitled smug fools. Its the way they blindly support each other against challenge from the likes of me which makes their actions appear malicious.

Tally ho!


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« Reply #10 on: February 17, 2018, 08:19:49 AM »
Rainagain,

I can imagine that they'd all cling together to protect themselves, and deny. If you have proof that their actions caused you xyz then they are in hot water. (Just my opinion, I have no legal quals whatsoever).

Stay strong Rain, we are behind you.

 :grouphug:

Hopefully, you've got a few folks at your end too, for legal advice and for extra moral support.



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« Reply #11 on: February 17, 2018, 09:34:13 AM »

Regardless of winning or not, you are creating awareness.  That is a huge victory in my book!

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Re: Cause of my cptsd uncovered
« Reply #12 on: February 17, 2018, 11:36:30 AM »
I'm not alone in it,

As well as a fellow victim I have lawyered up and have strong witnesses.

I am aware that most of us have no legal redress for What has happened to us.

I'm lucky, in a weird way.

I'd like to win for myself and also for those who can't get back at their abusers.
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« Reply #13 on: February 25, 2018, 02:27:51 PM »
Glad you're not alone Rainagain.

Thinking of you. You're a true warrior  (warrior emoticon)  :yes:


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« Reply #14 on: February 26, 2018, 03:48:54 AM »
Thank you all for your kindness,

Being in yet another confrontation is bad for my recovery.

But I've recently seen it as being a necessary step before I can start to move on.

I've given myself permission to do this, to get myself back into fight response even though its harmful.

I'm treating the aggro as a necessary precursor to beginning whatever recovery I can manage later.

So my obsessive thinking about the case, nightmares, loss of sleep and heightened response to anything potentially negative are the same as 'normal' but I now treat them as a temporary, necessary stage in getting better.

Part of the cure instead of part of the problem.

Maybe there is a lesson with this, maybe the reality depends on our interpretation, maybe changing how we see a situation actually changes the situation, not just our perception of it.

This might be a bit far fetched but Einstein was particular about an observer, he differentiated between observations from different locations as they made time and space appear different. If its good enough for him I will opt in too.
Everything will be alright in the end.

If things aren't alright then it isn't the end.