about Emotional Abuse

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Blueberry

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about Emotional Abuse
« on: March 24, 2018, 01:03:20 AM »
Link to an old article on emotional abuse which has been revived at OOTF. I relate to a lot of it. I'm posting it here as well because some mbrs have said there isn't enough information or enough posts on emotional abuse.

It's extensive and could be *** Triggering *** for some people.

http://www.vachss.com/av_dispatches/disp_9408_a.html

 

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Fen Starshimmer

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« Reply #1 on: March 26, 2018, 08:24:23 PM »
Thanks for posting Blueberry.  :thumbup:

This is a great article, spelling out some harsh realities. Emotional abuse is so often misunderstood and minimised.

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« Reply #2 on: March 28, 2018, 05:45:08 PM »
Thanks so much Blueberry, I just read it and it's very good. Sad and hard to read... but true.

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« Reply #3 on: April 16, 2018, 06:25:02 PM »
really appreciate you posting this blueberry

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« Reply #4 on: July 12, 2018, 02:19:15 PM »
Thank you Blueberry!

The crux of his article seems to be this:

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Adult survivors of emotional child abuse have only two life–choices: learn to self–reference or remain a victim. When your self–concept has been shredded, when you have been deeply injured and made to feel the injury was all your fault, when you look for approval to those who can not or will not provide it—you play the role assigned to you by your abusers.

It's time to stop playing that role, time to write your own script.

I've been so reluctant to CHANGE my script because I felt that writing my own "happy" (but unattainable) ending and being a caretaker was more important than anything else. I may be a slow learner, but once I "get" it, it's amazing how many physical symptoms disappear!  :doh: