I picked up "role of designated patient" in somebody else's post today. Sorry can't remember whose. I was responding to the post and then realised I was writing for me not the other person, so removed it. Putting it here instead.
Role of designated patient - that's me! Everybody else in FOO is quite 'normal' thank you very much, just Blueberry causes all the family problems.
Well, I've had it with that and with them!! They're not going to change. So, they lose me. They've lost me.
Up till now I've only been able to think that. I haven't actually been able to write that FOO has lost daughter, sister (niece, cousin) because they're happy to see me and keep me in the role of designated patient, family burden-bearer, scapegoat. I can't yet write it to them in the form of a Recovery Letter (Unsent Letter), writing it in 'you' form, addressing them, but that too will come.
I've had it with them.
The sentence is apt because it was one B1 used in late teens and early 20's. Of course he said "I've had it with you!" and "I've had it with this!" He was listened to, F made M apologise "if she ever wanted to have contact with B again". I won't be listened to, I know that. That's what happens when you're designated patient, family burden-bearer, scapegoat.
So I've written it here at least. They've lost me through their own 'pigheadedness' is the word that comes to mind.