Hello All,
I am working on the exercise outlined at the website below and wanted to share the link in case it was supportive to anyone else.
https://neuroclastic.com/who-am-i-printable-resource-for-connecting-with-your-core-self/?fbclid=IwAR2lDM9yqysAEHRgloKu6PqCgfI39QjOhiCy99A5KRn1VfARHN3QjcrLugU (https://neuroclastic.com/who-am-i-printable-resource-for-connecting-with-your-core-self/?fbclid=IwAR2lDM9yqysAEHRgloKu6PqCgfI39QjOhiCy99A5KRn1VfARHN3QjcrLugU)
Hi rainy,
Thanks for sharing that. I tried doing it and found it really difficult. I couldn't finish the worksheet even once. But I haven't been feeling well and my general mental state is pretty negative at the moment, so I'm going to try it again at another time when I have a different attitude and see what happens. It might be interesting. I have almost no sense of who I am that actually belongs to me. I am only defined for myself by what people who are important to me want or need me to be, and that's really uncomfortable.
I appreciate you sharing about your experience with this.
I am most interested in this as identity is something very confused for me. I tried doing it with my family in mind and the answers that came aren't really things I actually identify with. That made me feel a lot of things.
I am thinking of you.
thanks for sharing this rainy :grouphug:
I've printed a few copies. I can't think of a single thing to note, but I'm going to try.
Maybe with practice, I'll eventually get there ... seems like a very worthwhile exercise to try!
Thanks Phil - it is really hard. I am currently grieving how long I've gone without understanding my own identity.
I am also reflecting that having so many steps to complete as outlined on the website may be overwhelming.
I also find the worksheet a bit confusing.
But I think it is a possible way to check in with oneself on this topic.
Cool.
I used to do a lot of masking. Now barely any. I do have switching moods, with switching attitudes and values. But I think that's not masking.
I had to swallow some tears. I would feel perfectly safe showing every one my true idea of who I am. From date to friends, from colleagues to neighbours.
But when "family" came up, my only thought was: I do not want to show them anything at all. Zero. They will only wreck it. And tell me I am nothing. That everything positive associated with me, is not true. They did not see me for five years, twenty years. And still tell me, or others about me: she is like this or like that.
No. I'll show everyone my unmasked version. And my family nothing at all.