Hi,
I'm in my sixties and knowing my childhood trauma history is not news. I've done therapy and hard work to build a good life that now seems to me to be dissembling because my husband is in crisis :fallingbricks:. I am struggling between my healed self and my wounded child remembering the hopelessness I learned when I was kidnapped at nine. Currently, I feel frightened by impending destruction of my cherished life. I want to run, to hide. I push forward but I am sad. Suffering a broken heart is one thing but suffering a loss of hope for me is devastating.
Is there anyone out there who was kidnapped as a child by others or family? I would like to share with you about your experience of losing hope and accepting the unacceptable circumstances you lived through.
I was not kidnapped Canada but I just wanted to say hello and welcome you to OOTS :heythere: We have had a few members who were kidnapped so hopefully they are still active and will reply.
Do you know anything about Elizabeth Smart who was kidnapped at age 14 and held for 9 months? She is now a speaker and advocate for children and has a web site here - https://www.elizabethsmart.com/. I watched a documentary about her and was amazed at how she came through the ordeal. A lot had to do with the love of her family and her faith which may not be the case for you, but it is a hopeful story of healing you may want to look into.
I am sorry to hear your H is dealing with a crisis - do you (and he) have any support available?
Hi Canada,
I was not kidnapped but I was held hostage by a terrorist group as a child while they decided who in my family they wanted to kidnap. I was 5 at the time, I am now 23. I don't have much to say about accepting that which you cannot change. I just ignored it and instead became the bubbly girl for the past 18 years so I'm just now actually realizing how much work I have to do regarding this. I first realized how much this incident affected my life last year when I was admitted to a psychiatric hospital. During the events leading up to that and the year since I have felt very hopeless and helpless. I don't have any advice on how to handle it, just wanted you to know you are not alone.