So this is only second post,but I would like to start this with feeling good. Just left therapy and we did some EMDR on feeling good about myself. My parents never wanted me to or supported me in feeling good about myself. They actually put me down so many times when I did with sayings of "Get off your high horse" and etc. I was too prideful if I felt good about myself.
Well I have started to fight that family of origin junk. I was once in Boy Scouts and really embraced the whole "Creed". I was trustworthy,kind and all the rest. This made me feel good. I was doing something that felt right,felt good and I liked myself for it. I wasn't prideful,I was just happy. I was light and felt light. No weight on my shoulders.
So not thru Pete Walkers books and many others and also including my therapist I have started to get back to what I felt then. I enjoy being happy with myself. Do I make mistakes,of course,but I can and will learn. I can be a wonderful husband and father to my kids, unlike my parents. I can support them,have empathy, love and above all just a wonderful attitude. Just enjoy life.
I feel good about myself for the first time in 35 years and it's GREAT.
Hope you all can come to love yourself and have compassion on yourself because life is hard and for the most part our parents suck. Me included,but I can and will get better.