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Title: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on August 25, 2014, 11:17:34 PM
By Dr. C. Courtois -

Complex traumatic events and experiences can be defined as stressors that are:

(1) repetitive, prolonged, or cumulative

(2 ) most often interpersonal, involving direct harm, exploitation, and maltreatment including neglect/abandonment/antipathy by primary caregivers or other ostensibly responsible adults, and

(3) often occur at developmentally vulnerable times in the victim's life, especially in early childhood or adolescence, but can also occur later in life and in conditions of vulnerability associated with disability/ disempowerment/dependency/age /infirmity, and so on.

Child abuse of all types (physical, sexual, emotional, and neglect) within the family is the most common form of chronic interpersonal victimization. Such abuse is often founded on problematic and insecure attachment relationships (between parent and child or others who have primary caretaking responsibilities). Parents and other caregivers who abuse exploit a child's physical and emotional immaturity and dependent status to meet their own needs or do so in response to their own inadequacies or distress, quite often their own history of unresolved trauma and/or loss.

Rather than creating conditions of protection and security within the relationship, abuse by primary attachment figures instead becomes the cause of great distress and creates conditions of gross insecurity and instability for the child including misgivings about the trustworthiness of others.... 

Rather than having a secure and relatively carefree childhood, abused children are worried and hypervigilant. The psychological energy that would normally go to learning and development instead goes to coping and survival.....

Child abuse, occurring in the context of essential relationships, involves significant betrayal of the responsibilities of those relationships ....

The seven categories of additional aftereffects [to PTSD] include the following:

1. Alterations in the regulation of affective impulses, including difficulty with modulation of anger and of tendencies towards self-destructivenesss. This category has come to include all methods used for emotional regulation and self-soothing, even those that are paradoxical such as addictions and self-harming behaviors;

2. Alterations in attention and consciousness leading to amnesias and dissociative episodes and depersonalization. This category includes emphasis on dissociative responses different than those found in the DSM criteria for PTSD. Its inclusion in the CPTSD conceptualization incorporates findings that dissociation tends to be related to prolonged and severe interpersonal abuse occurring during childhood and, secondarily, that children are more prone to dissociation than are adults;

3. Alterations in self perception, predominantly negative and involving a chronic sense of guilt and responsibility, and ongoing feelings of intense shame. Chronically abused individuals (especially children) incorporate abuse messages and posttraumatic responses into their developing sense of self and self-worth;

4. Alterations in perception of the perpetrator, including incorporation of his or her belief system. This criterion addresses the complex relational attachment systems that ensue following repetitive and premeditated abuse and lack of appropriate response at the hands of primary caretakers or others in positions of responsibility;

5. Alterations in relationship to others, such as not being able to trust the motives of others and not being able to feel intimate with them. Another "lesson of abuse" internalized by victim/ survivors is that other people are venal and self-serving, out to get what they can by whatever means including using/abusing others. Abuse survivors may be unaware that other people can be benign, caregiving, and not dangerous;

6. Somatization and/or medical problems. These somatic reactions and medical conditions may relate directly to the type of abuse suffered and any physical damage that was caused or they may be more diffuse. They have been found to involve all major body systems and to include many pain syndromes, medical illnesses and somatic conditions;

7. Alterations in systems of meaning. Chronically abused and traumatized individuals often feel hopeless about finding anyone to understand them or their suffering. They despair of being able to recover from their psychic anguish.

[Brackets mine]



A] Description from Out of the FOG- - This is easy to read and understand, and gives some insight as to why personality disordered behaviour can result in the development of CPTSD

B]  Pete Walker's Description of CPTSD - From the book "CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" (2013) 

"CPTSD is a more severe form of Post-traumatic stress disorder.  It is delineated from this better known trauma syndrome by five of its most common and troublesome features:"

Emotional flashbacks "...are sudden and often prolonged regressions to the overwhelming feelings states of being an abused/abandoned child" and involve "shame, alienation, rage, grief and depression."  These are unlike flashbacks experienced with PTSD in that EFs do not typically have a visual component. (p. 3)

Toxic shame - "can obliterate your self-esteem in the blink of an eye. In an emotional flashback you can regress instantly into feeling and thinking that you are as worthless and contemptible as your family perceived you .... toxic shame also inhibits us from seeking emotional comfort  and support.  In a reenactment of the childhood abandonment we are flashing back to, we often isolate ourselves and helplessly surrender to an overwhelming feeling of humiliation" (pp. 5-6)

Self-abandonment - "As the quest for perfectionism fails over and over, and as parental acceptance and nurturing remain elusive, imperfectionism becomes synonymous with shame and fear. Perceived imperfection triggers fear of abandonment, which triggers self-hate for imperfection which expands abandonment into self-abandonment" (p. 177).

Vicious inner critic - "The inner critic blames you incessantly for shortcomings that it imagines to be the cause of your parents' rejection. It is incapable of understanding that the real cause lies in your parents' shortcomings" (p. 168).   ".... most survivors spend tremendous amounts of time barely conscious of how incessantly self-critical they are" (p. 172).

Social anxiety - "Many therapists see CPTSD as an attachment disorder. This means that as a child the survivor grew up without a safe adult to healthily bond with.....  When the developmental need to practice healthy relating with a caretaker is unmet, survivors typically struggle to find and maintain healthy relationships.  ........childhood abuse installs a powerful people-are-dangerous program (pp. 50-51)

See various CPTSD related articles by Walker here -

C]  Clinical Description

CPTSD was first proposed as a diagnosis by Judith Herman is her 1992 book “Trauma and Recovery” to describe a cluster of symptoms which results from ongoing or repeated trauma over which the victim has little or no control, and from which there is no real or perceived hope of escape (e.g., children who are subjected to abuse and/or neglect by their parents). It is in this respect that CPTSD differs from the more well-known diagnosis Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) which typically involves a single instance of acute trauma such as witnessing a tragedy or being the victim of an act of violence.  That is, CPTSD is a layering of repeated trauma which results in additional symptoms to those of PTSD. In addition to the recurring flashbacks, avoidance or numbing of memories of the traumatic event, and hypervigilance experienced in PTSD, CPTSD involves five additional symptoms which include alterations in:

•   regulation of emotions (e.g., anger, hair trigger flight/flight responses, suicide ideation);
•   consciousness (e.g., dissociation);
•   self-perception (e.g., fragile sense of self; pervasive sense of shame, guilt, self-blame, of being completely different from other human beings)
•   perception of the perpetrator(s) (e.g., preoccupation with relationship with perpetrator);
•   relations with others (e.g., isolation and withdrawal, distrust of others, relationship difficulties, loneliness and feelings of abandonment/rejection);
•   systems of meaning (e.g., sense of hopelessness and despair, depression). 

For further information see "Judith Herman and the Formulation of C-PTSD" at  (Includes a video of an interview with Judith Herman)

It should be noted that the term CPTSD has yet to be recognized as an official diagnosis, but has been and continues to be used extensively by both professionals (i.e., traumatologists, researchers, therapists) and the public.  The disorder is also known as Complex Trauma, Developmental Trauma Disorder (when the sufferer is a child), and a Disorder of Extreme Stress Not Otherwise Specified (DESNOS). However, given that CPTSD is widely used, it has been adopted so that those of us who are dealing with it -- by whatever name -- can begin our journey out of the storm that is CPTSD, to share our knowledge of and experiences, and to support and encourage one another on our journey.

Note: For a discussion of the various terms/diagnoses used for CPTSD see
Developmental trauma, complex PTSD, and the current proposal of DSM-5 by Vedat Sar Mar 2011 at

Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Badmemories on August 26, 2014, 04:51:27 PM
•   regulation of emotions (e.g., anger, hair trigger flight/flight responses, suicide ideation);
•   consciousness (e.g., dissociation);
•   self-perception (e.g., fragile sense of self; pervasive sense of shame, guilt, self-blame, of being completely different from other human beings)
•   perception of the perpetrator(s) (e.g., preoccupation with relationship with perpetrator);
•   relations with others (e.g., isolation and withdrawal, distrust of others, relationship difficulties, loneliness and feelings of abandonment/rejection);
•   systems of meaning (e.g., sense of hopelessness and despair, depression). 

I do not know how many of these criteria that it takes to be diagnoised with CPTSD but I have these.
Title: Dissociation
Post by: Kizzie on August 27, 2014, 04:19:29 AM
Hi BadMemories:

I found this description of five core symptoms of dissociation (, and  It's a bit clinical still, but it seems like what you describe when you say you feel almost like a spirit looking down on yourself is depersonalization.   

Depersonalization: a feeling of detachment from yourself or your body or your emotions; feeling like a robot. This is perhaps the most recognizable form of dissociation, often described as "zoning out", "checking out" or "being foggy". Some people describe feeling as if they are not in their bodies, but are observing things from a distance.

Derealization – a feeling of detachment from your environment, feeling like what used to be familiar is now foreign (including people).

Derealization is the sense of the world not being real. Some people say the world looks phony, foggy, far away, or as if seen through a veil. Some people describe seeing the world as if they are detached, or as if they were watching a movie.

Amnesia: the inability to account by memory for a specific and significant block of time.

… often an important event that is forgotten, such as abuse, a troubling incident, or a block of time, from minutes to years. More typically, there are micro-amnesias where the discussion engaged in is not remembered, or the content of a conversation is forgotten from one moment to the next. Some people report that these kinds of experiences often leave them scrambling to figure out what was being discussed. Meanwhile, they try not to let the person with whom they are talking realize they haven’t a clue as to what was just said.

Identity confusion – a feeling of uncertainty or conflict about who you are and how you define yourself.

Identity alteration – a shift in role or identity, accompanied by changes in your behaviours that are observable to others.

I don't know about the last two, but I do experience the first three.  For me dissociation is a sort of emotional numbing, a zoning out or getting away from feelings that are too strong or when I am stressed.  I also have a lot of amnesia about time - I don't have a clear sense of individual years unless a major event happened (e.g., the year I got married or my son was born, that kind of thing). When I have an emotional flashback I often feel like the world kind of tipped on its side or something - hard to describe in words, but things don't feel the same so that sounds like derealization. 

Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Annegirl on August 27, 2014, 04:50:46 AM
I thought all these things were normal what everybody experiences.
I can relate to all of these.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Badmemories on August 27, 2014, 06:33:57 PM
boy this is some pretty heavy stuff. I don't know I am going to have to read it a few time to understand it all.

My last experience of this problem happened in church. MY NPD sis, granddaughter and I were in church. I always sit in the front of the church. My Sis was sitting in the middle the church behind me. My grandaughter was sittin one pew ahead of My Sister with the Sunday school teacher.She was coloring and the SS teacher told My grandaughter to be quite. Grandaughter started crying in church (because she was not getting Her way.) the SS teacher say she could go sit with either me or MY NPSis  She came and sat by me.  She was crying uncontrolably. I was hugging her and trying to sooth her. I got her to the point where she would cry a little bit and then stop. She was looking around.
MY NPSis was saying that My grandaughter was looking back and making faces at her I did not see it. Finally quietly got GD settled down and she wanted to go and sit with her friends and collore again. So I walked her back to sit with the SS class so she could collor. I walked her back to the per ss teacher was sitting in, and I got he in the Pew.
 NPD SIS started telling me HOW GD was making faces at her. How rude it was and acted like I was promotting her NOT liking NPDSis. letting her make faces like that. I did not even see GD making faces.To me it seemed like NPDSis was talking very loud. (later on SS teacher said she did not hear it) It was more of her jelousy (NPDSis) She is so displinanarian to the kids.( (think Mean IMO)

I was upset. I felt like everyone heard it and she was talking loud. I felt embarrassed,angry, hurt. I went and sat down again in my pew. i know I was doing all the things in church like praying, singing, but I felt trapped. i wanted to get out of there. I sat there feeling numb. I felt like I was looking down at myself. Physically I felt small... I was going through the motions.

Another thing a little different for me mentally is a day My husband was going through rages. this was a bad one. He was mad because lightning struck all our electronics and we lost 2 flat screens and out phone system. he was starting to rage and so I went into the bedroom. I was sitting on my side of the bed. a tenant came to the door. I hear him tell the tenant Not now B. the tenant tried to push his way and tell him he had lost circuits in him trailer. NPDH started raging and throwing stuff. He threw something at our stand alone cupboard in the kitchen. He came into the bedroom and was looking for his wallet he couldn't find it, so he threw a ditto bag at the window and broke the window out.

In that instance i was sitting there but I felt more like a small mouse in the corner. he left after I had heard the glass break. I don't know really how long I sat there and I finally laid down and feel asleep. (I sleep a lot when I get stressed out!). I did not even notice until hours later that the glass was all over the bedding, and yet I was sleeping next to it. It surprised me. I had not looked at where the glass had broke and thought it was a glass cologne bottle or something like that. anyway..

 I know I have been under a lot of stess lately. I am sure that I have not felt those ways at least recently, or maybe I have just become aware of it and I am just now recognized it?

Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on August 27, 2014, 06:56:11 PM
HI BadMemories - I mentioned this in another post but it's worth posting it here too I think.  I think what the above more clinical descriptors add up to is an emotional flashback which Pete Walker describes on his site

I have come to call these reactions, typical of David and of many other clients over the years, emotional flashbacks—sudden and often prolonged regressions ("amygdala hijackings") to the frightening and abandoned feeling-states of childhood. They are accompanied by inappropriate and intense arousal of the fight/flight instinct and the sympathetic nervous system. Typically, they manifest as intense and confusing episodes of fear, toxic shame, and/or despair, which often beget angry reactions against the self or others. When fear is the dominant emotion in an emotional flashback, the individual feels overwhelmed, panicky or even suicidal. When despair predominates, it creates a sense of profound numbness, paralysis and an urgent need to hide. Feeling small, young, fragile, powerless and helpless is also common in emotional flashbacks.

I see a lot of this in your post, especially the part about feeling small and numb. It is as though the present stress/trauma ignites the trauma from when we were small children, the fear, anger, shame we never were able to express or work through and it becomes overlaid on the present.  Is it any wonder we feel overwhelmed?!   

But now the good news, we can help ourselves:

When clients get that their emotional storms are messages from an inner child who is still pining for a healthy inner attachment figure, they gradually become more self-accepting and less ashamed of their flashbacks, their imperfections and their overall affective experience. They understand that the lion's share of the energy of their intense emotional reactions in the present are actually appropriate but delayed reactions to various themes of their childhood abuse and neglect. As they learn to effectively assign this emotional energy to those events and perpetrators, they metabolize and work through these feelings in a trauma-resolving way. This in turn leads to a reduction of the emotional energy that fuels their flashbacks, and flashbacks in turn, become less frequent, less intense and less enduring. Eventually flashbacks can even begin to automatically invoke a sense of self-protection as soon as the individual realizes she is triggered.

See Walker's 13 Steps to Managing EFs here - 
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Annegirl on August 28, 2014, 12:22:32 AM
That lady should have left you grand daughter alone, she was fine to colour, talk in church. Children cry for a reason, they are right.
Having said that Kizzie saw the real picture in what you were writing.
It also helped me because I have memories all the time and I get intense feeling with those memories and sometimes wish I could somehow block them all out and never think of them again.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Badmemories on August 28, 2014, 03:47:53 AM
I think I have blocked a lot of my life out. I don't remember many things about My childhood, and actually many things about my years in My Marriage with NPDH.
One thing I I don't cry much.. I mean I can watch a sad movie and cry, but I don't cry for myself. a few times I have cried at posts on out of the fog.

Hoping that all of this is opening my mind to change patterns and grow.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Annegirl on August 28, 2014, 07:31:14 AM
Yes it will, crying is healing.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Badmemories on August 29, 2014, 03:20:29 AM
i have been going through the link you gave me right now the one that is can process is this one. (

I have read it twice and I still need to process it more...I am thinking about some of the responses I have. i will write more when I get more processed.  :)
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Annegirl on August 29, 2014, 06:03:31 AM
I ordered his book
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on August 29, 2014, 06:47:57 PM
That's great that you've order the book AnneGirl.  It's so comprehensive and compassionate, and really it's the only one available right now that's written for us, the rest are for therapists and researchers. 

I added Walker's description of the symptoms of CPTSD in my first post in this thread so that we will have less clinical terms to use when we talk about our experiences.   

For anyone that missed it here is Walker's web site:
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Annegirl on August 29, 2014, 08:38:12 PM
 :) that's good I'm looking forward to receiving it.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: emotion overload on August 30, 2014, 02:33:47 AM
I've read Pete's book.  I just ordered Herman's Trauma and Recovery. 
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: KAF on September 06, 2014, 02:51:54 PM
I have a question and wonder if anyone else experiences I read some of the resources, espcially Mr. Walker's site postings, I get overwhelmed by how much I can identify with what is described.  I have to stop reading....  Does this happen to others?
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on September 06, 2014, 08:03:52 PM
Definitely KAF.  I only read a chapter at a time, put it down and let it sink in before I started reading again.  There's a lot to take in and when you're relating to most of it it can be quite tiring.

Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: PureJoy on September 07, 2014, 07:56:59 AM
KAF - Yes!  This happens to me even when reading posts on this forum.  I can only read a little at a time and then stop.  Usually I play a game or two online and then come back to the forum or info on CPTSD.   Wow, I thought it was only me that felt this way. 
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on September 07, 2014, 06:42:37 PM
It's "ground zero" for most of us and what we struggled with for many years so slow and easy really is the way to go. 

Walker talks quite a bit about this in his book and at his web site. We are going into those places we couldn't or wouldn't go before and to do that we need to learn self-care and self-protection skills that we did not develop in childhood. These help us look at and recover from the childhood trauma, but like anything they takes time and practice. 

You are free now as an adult to develop peace of mind and a supportive relationship with yourself. A self-championing stance can transform your existence from struggling survival to a fulfilling sense of thriving. You can begin right now by inviting your instincts of self-compassion and self-protection to awaken and bloom in your life (p. 27 of his book)
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Badmemories on September 08, 2014, 01:38:09 PM
Yes, it does. Last night I was reading on OOTF and really just had to quit... I could not process anymore. I went to bed nd like my nature fell fast a sleep. It is like peeling an Onion. I can only handle peeling of the layers at a speed that I can handle. I mean really living with UnpdH  for 17 years and neglect and abuse as a kid, I have a lot of things to sort through. 60 years worth to be exact. For me the goal is to keep on keeping on.

For the first time in MY life I am working on me! Since I am also codependent,That is a BIG step for me. I have always put myself last! It seems MY brain seems to know HOW much I can take of gong into my past and forgiving MYSELF for all of the mistakes and problems I have. Some things I have to read and study over and over before I really get it. I mean I am an intelligent person... but my brain does NOT let me process things TOO FAST. Sometimes I can read something, and I just don't get it.  Then later on I can read it and I understand MORE of what I am reading. Every time I read the same thing over and over I get more of what I am trying to learn.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: woodsgnome on May 16, 2015, 09:03:48 PM
I'm still new at negotiating all the topics here, so hope this is the right place to critique some of the terminology, in particular the use of the tag "disorder" to describe our condition.

This actually kept me from realizing some of my problem over the years--either from denial or retreat or just plain fear of what else lay lurking in the fog/storm (those terms I can relate to for sure!).

Chronic? Yup. Traumatic? For sure. Stress? Spot on. But Disorder is, well, harder to swallow, in my experience.

I don't know, I just felt so out of whack to be described as having a "disorder". It sounds somewhat demeaning, or sinister, and almost places the blame back in one's own lap--"if only you weren't...fill in the blank". And try explaining what's going on to someone else and use the word "disorder"--on come the "poor you" stares or the knowing looks of "oh, we understand" (you poor diseased schmuck).

Personally, I've come to disregard the "D"; it's bad enough without a word that defines you as something or somebody less than worthy because of the dis- word.

I know, mental health clinicians need a label, and it works for them. Meanwhile, I think part of our work here is to work with the labels and this may just affect me--I want words to mean what they mean (so many people in my early years, and unfortunately later, never said what they really meant and/or used them to manipulate, etc. I'm sure many of you can relate--hypocrisy is an apt description, I think.

So while I accept the term in its clinical use, it would be so cool if it didn't sound so demeaning. But then what do I know? I'm a disordered person, by definition.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kubali on June 22, 2015, 02:26:20 PM
I agree Wg.

I'm a huge fan of accuracy. Words have to be an exact mirror of the Truth.

We are not Disordered. We are wounded or injured.

We didn't start life like this. It happened to us. The terminology should reflect this truth.

Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on June 23, 2015, 06:20:45 PM
I don't like disorder designation either WG and Kubali. I like to think of CPTSD as an injury although there's enough going on in CPTSD that I don't know if "injury" quite does it justice. Complex Post Traumatic Stress Injury - not bad though and it does give the sense that it can be treated (versus something like a personality disorder which tend to be treatment resistant).

I do know that many  clinicians are referring to it simply as "Complex Trauma" now which I'm not sure about either.  I guess it's like similar to saying "I have diabetes: but it sounds like there's a word missing at the end - I have complex trauma .....  what?  Injury, disorder, syndrome ......?  I suffer from complex trauma is OK, but still not quite right to my ears anyway.

I like Complex Post Traumatic Stress Injury.   :thumbup:
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Multicolour on October 31, 2015, 03:17:59 PM
I think CPTSD is an ok description except for this idea of 'affect regulation' issues. It's nonsense. Survivors have been subjected to extraordinarily painful experiences, causing distressing emotions that no-one could regulate. It happened to us as children, meaning that there is no way we could possibly have developed any way to cope with them. Adults with good childhoods and excellent 'affect regulation' skills are horribly affected if they are raped. They can't control the intense feelings that the trauma causes. They then suffer from 'affect regulation' and self-hating feelings too.

It has always felt like a terrible judgement to me to say that survivors lack the ability to regulate emotions. No. Just like any human, the feelings from rape or other child abuse are so strong and painful that like any human we couldn't 'regulate' them and we can't now, same as if we were assaulted now as adults we wouldn't be able to.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on October 31, 2015, 06:33:37 PM
Hi Multicolour - When I read your post I thought of a web site Dutch Uncle posted -  here in this thread -     

There is one line on the site that resonated deeply with me and is along the lines of what you are talking about:

 “I am not ill. I’m normal compared to the life that I’ve lived”  One man explains why he rejects the labels of mental illness.

I love that.  We didn't react abnormally, it was absolutely normal for what we went through I agree with him and with you. I do think though with CPTSD we get a bit stuck reacting as though there is ever present danger, which is not to say we lack the ability to regulate our emotions.  We just need to retune them to our new normal.

Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Multicolour on November 01, 2015, 12:55:34 PM
Hi Kizzie,
Thanks so much for that, I relate to it very much and the writer expresses himself beautifully.

Yes the hyper-vigilance is awful. It's my understanding that it's evolutionary- because of the abuse our brains are now trained to believe our habitat is a dangerous jungle- it's our brains just trying to protect us. I still have heaps of terror but I have found that doing regular relaxation exercises has helped me recognize what's happening quicker and I can try and tackle the terror more often these days. Which is very nice:)

Thanks again for the link. Every time someone affirms that my trauma responses are normal and I am okay I feel a little bit more in control and a little less powerless. I feel a little less worthless and a lot more valid. It's so important.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: arpy1 on November 01, 2015, 02:45:36 PM
Every time someone affirms that my trauma responses are normal and I am okay I feel a little bit more in control and a little less powerless. I feel a little less worthless and a lot more valid. It's so important.[/quote]

Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Oakridge on March 25, 2017, 01:08:10 PM
I read in another blog on this site recently a statement that stood out. The blogger counseled someone that CPTSD was not just the episode or terrible bout. It also included the fall out as the days pass and one has to overcome the embarrassment and self-loathing for not catching the trigger before the event. I guess that is where i am today 4 days after the incident due to trying to numb the attack with alcohol and then texting some folks about the pain i was in. Once again, I start over but must face the fall out and the painful embarrassment that is. Sadly, this always causes me to become more and more isolated in hopes of gaining some control again. The cycles of these attacks and fall out may be getting less frequent now that i have a clear diagnosis, but they are also getting much more painful due to the fall out.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on March 27, 2017, 05:48:04 PM
I'm glad you posted Oakridge, this is a good thread to re-read.

FWIW, I have found that as I have plodded along on this road to recovery, I am getting better at catching triggers before they happen.  It does take practice like anything though so I wouldn't waste time beating yourself up.   :no:

When I am triggered and have an EF (less and less nowadays), I try to focus less on being compassionate with myself, accepting that I am hurt, angry, shamed, whatever the case may be by whatever/ whomever triggered me, and then trying to calm and support myself. Again it takes practice  :yes:  but over time it seems to have reduced the intensity and duration of the fallout.  So FWIW, maybe be patient with yourself until you can get the hang of supporting yourself   :hug:
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Oakridge on March 28, 2017, 11:59:43 AM
Thanks Kizzie. Wise advice. Yes. this is a good thread. It's been discussing the setbacks as one starts making progress with their therapy and hit bumps in the road. I guess that what i mean about the setbacks now are less frequent but feel worse. Ironic.
Title: Re: So What is CPTSD?
Post by: Kizzie on April 02, 2017, 06:28:17 PM