Well, some of us if not most of us probably struggle with self-esteem and I've heard that saying positive things about yourself can actually boost that. Trying to think about things you like about yourself will maybe help you to see what you actually do like about yourself!
The minimum is five things but you can do more than that. ^^
I'll go first:
- My copper hair
- My ability to write
- That I can speak my mind
- That I can mimic people and animals
- That I am smart
Your turn! :hug:
...strong sense of empathy
....wonder/imagination
....creative flair
...mindfulness
...idiosyncratic/independent
- being straightforward (being quiet/listening when I can't be comes with that territory)
- inquisitive ("inquiring/curious minds want to know")
- perseverance
- "down to earth"
- I'm an outdoor man. Could well be outdoors in a city though.
- I like a good laugh.
- Since many times people have told me I'm a great 'presenter', I guess I should put "good advertiser/speaker" or something to that effect here. I like doing it, I've been a guide and presented several projects I (we) have been working on to the public. Personally I don't feel it's very special. But a dear friend once told me, in a very pervasive manner: "Don't brush this off! You may think it doesn't mean much, but it's a rare gift you have!"
Those are wonderful things that you are able to see in yourselves! :hug: Woodgnome, creativity is fun to have because you can see things in ways other people can't! So you can come up with ideas sometimes! And Dutch Uncle, laughter is the best medicine as the saying goes!
Um I'll add five more since I have been struggling a bit...
~I am a good artist
~I am good with animals
~I am loyal
~I can sing well
~I can understand things that are sometimes hard for most to understand (part of having Asperger's)
I'm creative
I'm talented
I'm funny
I like to help people
I'm strong
I agree with that, especially the last one! :hug:
hmmm having a very hard time with this one right now..........
good with my hands
honest
hardworking
caring
eh....all I can manage is four http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/Smileys/classic/cry.gif
I'm sending you a virtual hug. :hug: I am sure there is way much more to like about you! I hope you are feeling better as soon as possible!
awww thank you, I'm feeling alittle better, found out some amazng things at work, or scary whichever way you look.
I found another
I'm a very fast worker when I want to be.
talented
kind
open-minded
creative (once you scratch the surface)
egalitarian (not snobby)
This is a good idea, Vrizzy!
1. I have a positive outlook in most situations.
2. I have a good work ethic.
3. I am inquisitive.
4. I am considerate of others.
5. I think creatively in situations that seem to be anything but creative.
I just had to do this assignment in Group therapy. Love everyone's lists. There are so many caring, talented, smart people at OOTS. The 5 things I like about myself are:
1) I am a Good Listener
2) I am Empathetic
3) I am Open-Minded; see the Big Picture
4) I am Honest
5) I love to laugh (except at clowns) - Laughter is the best medicine and it helps to lessen the sadness, hopelessness.
lol :wave:
Nothing to do with me, I would like to tell you that I think you are really great for creating this positive place. Thank you, Vrizzy!
well the smileys aren't wanting to work so Ill just type *yeahthat
Yes, thank you Vrizzy! ;D This is a wonderful, positive thread that you started. It is an excellent place for all of us to help to define our sense of self and work on the path of recovery. To keep our minds off of the past and work to move forward.
DaisyMae :hug:
<squees> Thanks friends! I just thought it would help to look at things about yourself that are positive and that you like. It's helped me with my self-esteem to an extent! :)
This is a wonderful thread. ;D
1. I love 80s sci-fi movies, the cheesier the better.
2. I have green fingers and know a few things about plants.
3. I am hard working.
4. I am kind
5. I look after my pets very well
Hmmmm
1. * I done forgot what I was gonna put lol......I'm good with electrical theory and running wire (one of only a handful who can measure by eye ...without measuring tape.)
2. I'm getting mentally and physically stronger
5 things I like about me
I have lost 3 stone this yr - 42 lbs
I am caring
Good sense of humour
Fun
Down to earth
* I can be silly (I consider this a virtue)
* I am a good writer / storyteller
* I have deep empathy
* I'm a good mother (but I could be much, much better)
* Even when I feel like hiding, I'll face people/things that feel unpleasant
* I can keep secrets (Ok, that's 6, but hey, I figured I'd keep going since this is a good minute)
And, Boatsetsailrose - I think I found one of your lost stone!
I'm strong, I persevere, i work really hard, I set boundaries, I act with integrity.
I have a good sense of humor
I have excellent style and color sense
I am actively working on improving myself (and succeeding!)
I am a gentle and kind hearted person
I don't give up!
1. My artistic ability
2. My dark sense of humor
3. My Asperger's makes me unique
4. I am loyal (Even though relationships are hard for me, and I feel like I don't have energy for them, you better believe that I will stick up for you.)
5. I am a nerd!
1. My curiosity about all sorts of things
2. My sensitivity, particularly to other people's feelings
3. I can laugh at myself
4. I like people who are a bit different, and I'm bit different
5. I stand up for others when i feel they are being treated unkindly or unfairly, lately I've started standing up for myself
1. People feel comfortable confiding in me, even if they haven't known me for very long.
2. Eclectic taste in pop-culture.
I like that I have room in my library for everything from foul-mouthed punk to Muppets soundtracks.
3. I have a knack for performance. Theatre, improv, stand-up, I even hosted two weekly radio shows at college last semester.
I discount that about myself a lot, but apparently not everyone feels comfortable putting themselves out there like that,
4. Genial, goofy sense of humor
5. Compassion for those who aren't considered "popular" or "cool".
i'm a 60's flower child/hippie soul
i'm giving
i laugh loudly and easily
i believe in the Magic
i'm a wonderful and loyal friend
1. when I've had a hard / down phase, I pick up the pieces of me or my life again and get going again
2. I'm kind to animals (except mosquitos, and flies in my kitchen etc)
3. I'm a helpful person (so long as I'm not behaving co-dependently that's a good thing)
4. I have a good sense of humour
5. I'm good at re-motivating unmotivated children to learn
6. I'm good at breaking information down to teach it in minute steps to developmentally-delayed children, and good at teaching kinesthetically to those who can't learn in a 'normal' academic way
7. I mostly taught myself how to do points 5. and 6. - this wasn't what I studied.
8. I took part in some wild plant/flower excursions, took the time to practise and assimilate the knowledge and now know what I can pick and eat in the wild (or in the garden LOL)
9. I'm making progress in many ways
10. I'm discovering and working more and more with and on my creativity
11. I have a strong sense of justice and fairness
12. I can apologise (I used not to be able to)
13. my critical-thinking skills
14. I'm compassionate for those who have suffered or are in a bad way AND I don't always let that detract from myself / treat myself badly in comparison / give these other people more than I'm giving myself
15. At the moment I like the roll of fat on my stomach, I like the feel of it, and to feel it with my hand.
16. I'm courageous. I feel lots of courage expressing point 15. openly
17. Somewhere deep within me I have the answers, the solutions to my psychological problems, or the healing tools for this injury called C-PTSD
I didn't think I would get beyond point 4, but it all started flowing once I allowed myself to turn the non-verbal feelings behind points 5 and 6 into words and write them down.
I like my green eyes
I like that I have gone back to colouring my hair any colour I want to, (currently looks like a refresher, all orange and pink and tangy) and I like that I'm taking real good care of my hair too to do so.
My wonder of the world (big and small) - Its a beautiful place to explore and I love that quality about me.
I like that I give back to the planet as much as I possible can right now.
I really like my freckles.
I like me a lot more since I've started recovery.
what a nice post to post in, thank you :cheer:
This is very difficult.
I know a little about a lot of things - and that can be useful.
I am loyal.
I am caring to others.
I have tremendous love for my children.
I can cook with the herbs from my potted herb garden.
This was VERY hard. I don't think I like myself. I think I'm depressed. Thank you for this post. I will keep working on me.
Great post! We all need to find things we like and appreciate about ourselves everyday!
1. I am a caring and extremely empathetic person.
2. I love my family and take very good care of them.
3. I have been a great mother.
4. I am honest.
5. I am loyal.
6. I am faithful.
7. I love animals. Mine are so wonderful!
My deepest desire is that everyone hurt by abuse would be made whole again :cheer:
1. Strength and determination
2 compassion and empathy
3 kindness
4 protective brave physically strong
6 attention to detail......oops!
This is difficult, but I feel the need to try this today. I found this thread when I needed it, I guess.
1. I am kind, and full of ability to care/nurture
2. I get enthusiastic about many things
3. I am passionate and full of fire
4. I like my blue eyes
5. I am strong
#1. I have a bunch of creative hobbies.
#2. I feel happy when I'm helping others.
And I don't have three others. lol I tried.
1. I try my best to be kind
2. I'm very creative and I can sing
3. I'm highly intelligent
4. My hair gets a really pretty golden red shine in sunlight
5. I'm determined
This is a great thread, I wish I had come acrosss this sooner.
1. I am intelligent. Especially when it comes to anything related to computers and how they work.
2. I am resourceful.
3. I am a good father to my little girl.
4. I am creative.
5. I have to make a conscious effort to remind myself of this one as often as possible, but I am resilient.
1. My creative or artistic side.
2. My self caring side that is fairly new to me, but is growing.
3. My financial independence, after so long having it used to control me by the FOO
4. The moment, and my use of it-I havent yet mastered living in it, but I can sometimes, and it does help calm things for me
5. My ability to journal or post on this forum, and how it sometimes helps
One of the things my therapist pointed out to me that I do when saying something nice about myself is that it always comes with a caveat lol. Like, "Yeah I'm smart, but maybe not really :blahblahblah:" So I'm gonna give this a go...
- My intelligence
My resilience
My investigative nature
My creativity
My patience
1. Trying to look after my health
2. I have a feww good skills with music
3. I can help others in small ways.
4. Hate myself far less than before
5. I keep going to my therapist
1. I am compassionate and empathetic
2. I am very resilient
3. I am very creative
4. I am pretty friggin' weird ;D
5. I have pretty hands
I love this - thank you :hug:
The feel of my skin
Being able to connect with anyone when I smile
Having the ability to stretch my body deeply (flexible)
Photographic memory
My voice *its calming to others, I have been told; I use it to self soothe
1 my gentle spirit
2 humourous nature
3 the growth i have achieved
4 strength of character
5 creative gifts and skills
1. I'm dedicated-- I work hard and I don't give up.
2. I'm a good listener
3. I've had the strength to make it this far and set myself up for success.
4. I've written 4 full length manuscripts, and I'm not even 20 years old.
5. I'm a good leader and teacher.
1.Im creative
2.I care about others and our world
3.I do my best
4.Im learning to value myself and care for myself
5.Im learning to reach out (gradually!)
Resilient
Creative
Caring
Self-aware
Practical
I see a lot of similarity in the responses and I wonder how much of these traits are CPTSD related, or for me possiblt spectrum related.
1. I try my hardest, am constantly learning, trying to be more sensitive to others, and bettering myself. I want to do better.
2. I empathise with all suffering. I can imagine.
3. I am aware of my own quirks.
4. I am honest, some would say to a fault, but I disagree. I don't mask my feelings well, and I want to know how others are truly feeling too.
5. I want to listen. I am not good with sympathy as an act, and I'm not good at conversation, but I want to hear others' stories and experiences. I truly want to. I am interested in the lives of others.
Quote from: Bermuda on December 22, 2020, 05:44:13 PM
I see a lot of similarity in the responses and I wonder how much of these traits are CPTSD related, or for me possiblt spectrum related.
1. I try my hardest, am constantly learning, trying to be more sensitive to others, and bettering myself. I want to do better.
2. I empathise with all suffering. I can imagine.
3. I am aware of my own quirks.
4. I am honest, some would say to a fault, but I disagree. I don't mask my feelings well, and I want to know how others are truly feeling too.
5. I want to listen. I am not good with sympathy as an act, and I'm not good at conversation, but I want to hear others' stories and experiences. I truly want to. I am interested in the lives of others.
Bermuda, I relate to this. This could be my list, too. I think these are great qualities and that they are uncommon. I have often wondered why my having these qualities seems to be what gets me into the most trouble in my interpersonal relationships. I don't know very much about the spectrum and no one has ever said anything about me being on it, so I don't know about that part of it. Perhaps I should read up on that.
1. I am honest
2. I am reliable
3. I am conscientious
4. I am considerate
5. I am creative
1. I am creative
2. I like to study
3. I am kind to people
4. I deeply love my family
5. I haven't given up