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Title: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 10, 2017, 02:19:15 PM
I would like to make this the official home of the healing porch.

This is an idea several of us have come up with and want to maintain.

What we already know about the healing porch - first, it is imaginary. But, based on some real facts. It resembles the photo in my profile picture (an actual house I wish I could buy... ahh, if wishes were houses, I'd own it today).

Second, the porch wraps all the way around the house. Those who enjoy sun can sit in the un-roofed section, those who don't so much can even enjoy the screened in section. There are chairs, tables, swings, sofas, easy chairs.

Third, there is a beach and ocean just off the one side of the house. This ocean has crystal blue water, the sand never gets too hot to walk on.

Off another side of the porch is a middle/large concrete area for chalk expression and art. Hopscotch is popular over here.

Forest and lawn are represented off the other two porch sides. This is a magical healing porch, so it can shift as is needed for your healing time with us.

We have board games, bug lights, blankets of healing, peace, comfort, acceptance, rest and many other necessary emotions. They are scattered about the porch and you are welcome to wrap yourself in whichever blank you need. Fear not, this is a magical porch - if everyone needs acceptance, there will be enough to go around.

Refreshing beverages are always available - sorry, folks - one thing I feel strongly about, no alcohol. It blocks healing. Otherwise, all drinks are just waiting, cold or hot as is best for that beverage.

Snacks and light meals are also all around - fruit bowls, vegetable trays. Any vegan can be as well fed as the omnivores (including me) on this porch. If food is part of your challenge, there will always be a 'food-free' side to remove that as an issue during your time on the healing porch.

We've just had the suggestion that my puppies join us on the porch. I think it's a wonderful idea. In fact, if anyone has a pet, please bring it! We have shelving to hold aquariums, window jambs that would hold 20 pound cats, places for puppies to run and fetch, and whatever your pet wants or needs. Because this is a magical porch, messes clean themselves and no pet would DREAM of harming another pet.

All suggestions are welcome!! This is a place for all of us. It started as a mental image to help some of us remember to relax, breathe and enjoy each others' support. It's a great place to get acquainted with your inner child - everyone is safe here. There are games and friends to play them with. There are journals that nobody would ever dream of reading. There are phones and friends waiting on the other end to hear from you.

It is a place of healing. And community (I hear hopscotch is THE game this summer). Welcome.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 10, 2017, 03:01:40 PM
I will add my cat Thalia to the mix of animals. She is so soft and cuddly. She is the perfect comfort animal when you are hurting, but so playful when you want to play instead. She likes to bask in the sun, so she would belong on the sunny side of this porch. With her tuna treats  :hug:

I would like to camp out on the porch today if anyone wants to join me. I need a blanket of comfort and peace today. Them maybe a bit of Hopscotch or beach time for my inner child.

Thank you again Wife#2 :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on July 10, 2017, 07:02:20 PM
wife#2, that's lovely!  :cheer:
Various of us on here have been using the idea of the healing porch, but never in my wildest dreams had I imagined how big and varied the porch is and how many healing properties it encompasses! Just wow!

As soon as I get over my cold, I'll be going paddling in the ocean.  :)

Whenever I do come by, I'll bring my little furry critters and put them in their run on the lawn. They're cute to watch, but they do take a while to get to know other people. I'm also happy to provide any little nibbles out of my own garden, like red and black currants atm.
But I don't think I'll be joining you today, Elphanigh, still too many things to do.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 10, 2017, 07:26:56 PM
That's okay Blueberry. We will be on the porch together at some point. Honestly the time alone isn't so bad :) I just needed the warmth this morning, before I could get back up and going
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 11, 2017, 02:02:12 AM
wife2, this is amazing, you are amazing.  i love this porch and the people on and around it.

i would love to start a garden.  all my attempts in mexico ended badly except for one orange tree, which also ended badly at the last because the kids next door picked all the little oranges and threw them away.  i used to have a garden, and i miss it so.  getting my hands in the dirt, seeing the fruits of my labors when the seeds sprouted, grew, and bore fruit.

because of the magic, i know that i can begin tilling the soil right now without working up a sweat.  i'm planting tomatoes (big and little red and yellow ones), corn, different melons, and broccoli.  that'll do for going on with.  anyone is welcome to add to it. 

gardening has always been grounding for me, so i'd also like to plant flowers around the porch.  some will grow in the shade (lily of the valley, hosta), some in the sun (roses, dahlias, daisies), some will come up first thing in the spring (tulips, daffodils, crocus) and some will last well into fall (asters, mums).  the subtle scents will help soothe us and calm us.

thank you for this, wife2.  it is the perfect place to regroup and re-coup.  i'm in a big ol' rocking chair, just being, watching my gardens grow.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on July 11, 2017, 02:57:41 AM
This reminds me of the peaceful feeling I get from viewing the pic on the home page. You sense the storm, but it's behind, and there's nothing but beautiful natural vistas (and possibilities) in the foreground and beyond.

And so it is with the porch. My white cat Mystic will have some romps with Elphanigh's pal Thalia.

Save at least one rocker for me; I'll need it next week as at the end of this week I'm due for knee replacement surgery and then comes the recuperation--and the porch will be ideal.

Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 11, 2017, 04:11:49 AM
I love that we have this mutual safe place that we can build and accept as ours.

San, I love your gardening idea. Flowers and fresh food makes me super happy.
Woodsgnome, Thalia will be super happy to have a friend
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 11, 2017, 02:33:02 PM
Peanut and Bear - my puppies, had to get a dog run of their own also. They're friendly, but sometimes play with their teeth. When they take to better training, they can come out. Peanut is huge for a puppy, but wants to be a lap dog. Bear likes to lick chins and ears, so careful any who want to hold him and feel his ultra-soft fur.

Yesterday, typing out that first post in this thread helped center me. At home, hubby noticed my being better centered. It was a great evening.

I was 'on' this porch, smiling as I watched the waves lap the sand, San planting her flowers - knees magically comfortable on the dirt. I watched the cats get to know one another and decide each is a cool cat, except when they're basking in the sun near each other. I had been speaking in my heart with Tea and Elphanigh, praying comfort and soul-ease.

I noticed my husband approach. At first, I tensed and San and Candid put their hands on my elbows, calming me. He smiled, waived at everyone and took the stairs in two easy lopes. Instead of just waving me off the porch, he gave a small bow in front of me and extended his hand. I was shocked, flattered and just a little more back in love with him in that moment. When I accepted his offered hand, he whisked me away for the rest of the evening.

Today, I am back on the porch. I'm checking cups and glasses to ensure all are full and fresh. I'm watching a gentle rain fall on the gardens, but not the pets! There's a small rainbow forming near the horizon, maybe a double rainbow! Yes. Today will be a good day.

Any who need hugs, I'm here, offering hugs. The many emotion blankets are fresh from the dryer, still just a little bit warm. I'm wrapped in a contentment blanket today. I'm just absorbing and sending back into the universe wave after wave of health and love and joy.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on July 11, 2017, 02:44:54 PM
Quote from: Wife#2 on July 11, 2017, 02:33:02 PM
San and Candid put their hands on my elbows, calming me.

Glad to have been there to help.  ;D Is there any flexibility on the alcohol rule? I'd like a round of bubbly to celebrate Elphanigh's triumph today.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 11, 2017, 02:57:40 PM
Wife2, as always you have such a beautiful post. It is such a wonderful place to think of. I am not there today, but will come back tonight when I get the chance. This girl has to get lots of work done this morning/afternoon. Busy season in my department.

My cat is loving the company and will stay there while I am hard at work. She is there for any warmth and comfort anyone may need. She is the softest tri-color cat I have ever met
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 11, 2017, 03:02:11 PM
Quote from: Candid on July 11, 2017, 02:44:54 PM
  ;D Is there any flexibility on the alcohol rule? I'd like a round of bubbly to celebrate Elphanigh's triumph today.

Ok, yes. I forget that not everyone who drinks is an alcoholic and that a toast for a friend means more with bubbly.

If I stay on the porch and don't drive, I may join you all. It's been so long since I enjoyed any alcohol that even a small glass of champagne is likely to leave me tipsy! Those who enjoy laughing, stick around!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 11, 2017, 03:07:23 PM
Oh goodness, Thank you for toasting Champagne in my honor. I will gladly join you for a small toast. You are all so amazing to celebrate me so much
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: songbirdrosa on July 11, 2017, 03:23:25 PM
 :wave:
This seems like a lovely place. I'll bring my two old girls. They're no longer with me in reality, but since this place is magical I'm sure they'll can find a way to hang out. There's Hope, who is a black lab and definitely has 'big dog who thinks she's a lap dog' syndrome. She's very playful and loves everyone, though  she does love to "lick you to death", as my mother would say. Amy is a Maltese, and despite the reputation of her breed, she's a very quiet and sweet little girl. She always knows when you're upset and need a little love, and she'll come sit her head on your knee and cuddle you for as long as you need. She can be a little shy at first, but give her some Weet Bix or peanut butter and she'll be your friend forever! They both like to sit in the shade, so they'll chill in a pen under a tree if anyone wants to say hi to them.

I'd like to make a small food offering, if I may. I used to be a patissier, and I loved to experiment with unusually flavoured cakes. So today, I'm bringing some rose cupcakes with orange blossom buttercream. They're gluten-free and vegan for anyone who needs them to be :)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on July 11, 2017, 03:32:10 PM
Oh, that does it! Both my dogs are coming, too.

Pippy was "mostly poodle" (vet's verdict on a stray) and my Significant Other for nine happy years. Shelley was a maltese and silly as a wheel, hard to adapt to after Pippy's high intelligence but very lovable. Both of them snuggled in bed with me at night.

Rose cupcakes with orange blossom buttercream and glasses of champagne all round!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 11, 2017, 03:55:19 PM
Count me in!

Candid -  yes! This is our magical Healing Porch. Bring them!

And thank you so much for joining us, Rosa! The cupcakes sound absolutely wonderful! They do sound as if they'll go excellent with a light champagne. You are welcome among us, we look forward to growing friendships with you!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on July 11, 2017, 06:39:53 PM
Oh dear - do you mind if I bring all my dogs I've ever had? Don't worry, they'll mostly be down on the beach running and playing with each other, and when they do come up to the porch they'll be magically clean, and very well-behaved. There will be Bruno, Molly, Licorice (who had/has a black tongue), Boomerang, Niki, and Ben. Ben is especially helpful because he has cptsd too! He'll curl up with you when you're sad. He has the best hugs! And his eyes are so loving.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 11, 2017, 07:59:58 PM
We don't mind a bit! On the Healing Porch, all are welcome. And, since it's magic, no allergies!

Step on up here, Three Roses. If you'd like, join us in a toast to Elphanigh - our latest reason to celebrate!

Relax in the rocker, chair, swing of your choice. Wrap up in a blanket of welcome and ease. Thank you for stopping by and bringing the pack with you!

:rundog: :rundog: :rundog: 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 11, 2017, 08:11:52 PM
All of you have made me smile so much! My beautiful friends on this forum,  you are all so good to me. It astounds me a bit everyday
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 12, 2017, 01:28:29 AM
i will join the toast, elphanigh, but i'll stick to pink lemonade.  i've got to honor my alcoholism, even in a magical place.  still, i raise a glass to you, and to you wife2 for this lovely idea, and to all the rest of you joining in this caring, healing place.  it's the best.  i'm on my rocker with a flower in  my hair, just smiling at and with all the rest of you.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Kat on July 12, 2017, 03:20:10 AM
Aww...I'm so in for this!  It sounds like the loveliest of places.  I'm not sure which blanket to choose just now.  I think I'll take a barefoot walk around and meet all of the animals.  My cat Shaun who passed a couple of years ago has made his way to the porch and is dozing in the shade.  If you listen carefully, you'll hear him snoring.  He's a crossed-eyed, so don't be surprised if he bumps into things.  He'll be fine once he's used to where everything is.  He's the kindest little gentleman and loves a good belly rub. 

The cupcakes were amazing, and so are all of you here!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 12, 2017, 02:46:02 PM
San, Thank you for joining in the toast. Also for honoring yourself and choosing pink lemonade. I might share that with you this morning. It sounds great for such a hot day here.

Kat, I am so glad you found this forum and the healing porch. Your cat sounds truly adorable.

I spent my day away from the porch yesterday, and really buckled in to do some life things. I am going to spend a bit of time walking down by the water today, and playing in it some. I think the warm healing sun is something I deserve today. Accepting is hard work, so a bit of play and relaxation is perfect
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 13, 2017, 02:25:58 AM
this is the best place with the best people.  EVER!!! 

i love the magic that brings us all together here.  one of my mantras over the years has been 'trust the magic'.  it will never let us down, and will be here for anyone wanting to believe.  yummy cupcakes!  what a lovely idea.  this must be what heaven is like.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 13, 2017, 01:45:37 PM
Thanks so much for making this place magical. I can't stay on the porch today, but for anyone that needs them I am dropping off some of my favorites for the day. My special blueberry muffins, minty coffee (warm or cold), as well as decaf green tea with lemon and honey for anyone that doesn't like coffee  :hug:

Have good day on the porch with my kitty today
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on July 13, 2017, 05:31:21 PM
Even if FOO got onto here somehow, I think it's pretty unlikely that they'd read this thread, so I feel safe to post what my animals are that are joining us. My guinea pigs. I have 3, and they'll be sitting on the lawn in their run, eating. Sometimes they'll race around as well. They can be fun to watch. Not so interested in other people if they don't know them. If they hear anything that sounds like plastic bags crinkling or people chopping vegetables, they'll get very excited and squeak loudly for attention. In that case they don't care who it is, they just want the food.

The run will have a magical physical repellent which simply won't allow any curious cats' paws to poke through or dogs to jump onto the top.

I'll also be bringing the dog we had when I was a teenager. In some years she was the only member of the family who greeted me nicely instead of yelling at me about my appearance or my character or all that kind of stuff. She also caressed me the way dogs do, by licking me. She knew my body hurt with psychosomatic pain and she'd lick my legs for instance, or my arms. She was a black Lab and for our purposes here I'll call her Blacky. She'll understand. She'll love to run down onto the beach too and play in the surf, and play with the other dogs and even try to make friends with the cats.

Meanwhile I might be sitting in a quiet corner doing my trauma-processing. And then after that I might do a little work in the garden with san. Or just look at and smell what's growing. I'd like some rose bushes, especially wild ones, they smell so good.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 13, 2017, 06:43:45 PM
I may have left the house this morning an hour earlier, and got my goal of working some overtime this week... but my determination for that is waning. I realized in that great accomplish I forgot my meds.. which has resulted in this great crash at work.

I think  I am going to join you all on the porch when I get back. Hopefully there is a magical hammock by the tress where I can enjoy a cat nap before getting back to doing things zzzzzzzzz
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 13, 2017, 06:51:54 PM
OH, we could do a potted rose garden! My mother had one a few years back for her big porch. They looked wonderful.

I will plant some wild roses, some Abraham Lincoln roses - those are stunning, especially in early morning or late afternoon light. Thank goodness this porch is magical! The pots are huge, but they sit nicely along the concrete bannister.

I will also plant a peace lily. At least on the magical porch they may still bloom after the first year.

On the beach side, between the ocean and the porch, there is a fire pit. One of the sitting logs around the pit is actually plastic and has a compartment inside. The compartment will always be full of working pens/pencils/crayons and paper.

From time to time, I will be seen going to the writers' log. I will write down some memory or feeling that I need to forgive or end or close. Once written, I will dash it into the fire, releasing it at last.

Afterwards, I will treat myself with a hug with my son (hopefully, one day husband) and with the telling of a happy memory.

If, sometimes, you see me smiling on the porch and my smile looks a little sad, it's ok. I'm clarifying my thoughts and feeling all of my feelings. I'll soon be able to let the sad, painful ones go. Not that I'll ever forget, not completely. But, that the emotions will lose their power over me. I will still feel all of my emotions, just not in the blinding, binding way I sometimes do now. I'll be down by the fire soon.

My cat Punkin will be joining us. He's white & orange and all male (except that he's fixed). He helped me get through high school. He's a great listener and is generous with his 'mark you/love you' rubs.

Oh - Elphanigh, I'm so sorry that happened! Yes, of course there is a hammock. Which two trees do you see you'd like it between?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 13, 2017, 06:56:51 PM
Wife2 that fire sounds amazing. This place is wonderful that you are helping create so much. I am truly glad you started this.

It's okay,I was just sleepy and didn't even think about it. I think it is due to the extra hours I have worked, and the fact I have had some obligation to be somewhere every night since Monday... Will get a break come Wednesday, just not until then.

For now, I think the trees that bloom the peaceful white flowers would be a perfect spot for a hammock. Those grow out here a lot, and remind me of some of my favorite spots to just sit and be still in college
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 13, 2017, 08:13:57 PM
I'd love to see the white flowers you see. Yes, between them. That is the home of your hammock.

By the way, I'm in the land of Magnolia trees. None are right by the porch - the leaves are HUGE and a hassle. But, they're in the tree line just past the lawn. And the middle branches are still blooming. I've got my long-handled hook and I'm going to pull down those branches until I can reach and pluck those blooms. Then, I'm setting them in a shallow bowl of water. They'll scent the front porch with a lovely, thick, beautiful fragrance for at least a couple of days.

It's too late in the season to plant tomatoes, sadly, IRL. But, here on our healing porch, I've planted three plants. We won't need more. On magical porches, the bugs and worms won't damage our plants.

Peace to all my friends tonight. You have been prayed over. You are loved.  :bighug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 13, 2017, 08:29:59 PM
They are beautiful small, soft blooms all over the tree. They remind me a bit of the Japanese trees that grow with the small pink flowers. living in the Midwest has it's perks, the plant life can be so beautiful.

I love your plan for those blooms, they will smell beautiful. Also I meant to tell you how much I love the healing lillies you planted. Lillies are my favorite (I have a tattoo actually) the bring such brightness in my life sometimes. I could smell them for hours.

The tomatoes will be so wonderful. We should also have a plum tree. I can take care of that one :)

Thank you for the peace, friend. It means the world  :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 14, 2017, 01:21:28 PM
I am going to hang out in here today. With a warm mocha on the porch and a blanket of safe feelings. Maybe some love on a cat or two, and when I feel better playing with the dogs. Today is hard and healing porch is going to be my safe place, if anyone wants to join me, I would love the hug or someone just to sit next to.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Lingurine on July 14, 2017, 01:55:46 PM
Oh, this sounds just wonderful wife#2... Imagine rocking in a hammock, staring at the stars at night... drinking an ice tea while watching the dogs and cats playing and dozing off. Can I please take my cat and the neighbour cats and all the cats I've ever knew? It will be a zoo of great animals. Love to imagine a pink blanket wrapped around my feet and singing some beautiful songs. Dance a bit too, African dance moves, barefeet, the sounds of the ocean and after that, swimming at night with the dolphins...

Heaven

Lingurine
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 14, 2017, 02:03:57 PM
That sounds so amazing Lingurine. Definitely bring the cats, and your dance moves. Barefeet is always the best, especially on the beach with dolphins
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on July 14, 2017, 02:05:58 PM
i'll be joining you a bit Elphanigh because today hasn't been the easiest work day for me. Setting limits and making demands in more cases than just Troublesome Client. So I need to stock up on some energy and be in a safe, beautiful, calming place for a while. Especially where there are people to cheer me on, like Lingurine on the topic of Troublesome Client.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 14, 2017, 02:07:21 PM
Sorry your work day has been rough. I have read through that thread a few times, and am glad for all the support you receive. I hope the porch is the perfect place for you today
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on July 14, 2017, 02:12:58 PM
Thank you Elphanigh :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 14, 2017, 02:34:08 PM
Anytime Blueberry  :hug: :hug:

I think I am going to spend my day metaphorically reading in the sun
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Lingurine on July 14, 2017, 02:52:02 PM
Blueberry, you need the hammock more than I do, I'll rock you softly...

Lingurine
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 14, 2017, 02:54:02 PM
I'll be stopping by, but just for a short visit today. It's a busy day early, then off early when the work is complete.

I need the slightly sun/dryer warmed blanket of assurance. But, that can wait until after San, Lingurine and I finish with our dance.

I love the barefoot dancing. I may look awkward, but the smile gives away that I don't care how I look, I am enjoying the friendship, companionship and movement of my body. The record player is just inside the door and to the right. We can set the speakers in the window, so that we can catch that breeze while we listen and dance! It'll be fun watching the kitties weave between our feet sometimes.

Elphanigh, I'll join you after the dancing, with a tall, cold ice tea. We will continue to surround you with caring support.

Blueberry, may the sight of a middle-aged, overweight woman dancing to a wonderful African musician soundtrack with cats wandering between her and the other dancers' feet make you smile. It's not easy being in charge and having to defend your rights, but you've been doing just that! Overcoming our fears to do what is right is ALWAYS worth celebrating. Is there any champagne left? It may be time for a Continental Breakfast! I'll go check the stock of cold melons in the fridge. Let me know if you'll join in or if another form of support can help you remain calm today.

:bighug: :bighug: :bighug: TO all the porch dwellers, here and off doing their thing. Thank you all for making this more wonderful each day!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 14, 2017, 02:55:37 PM
Thank you Wife2, after my night last night I am going to need all the support I can get (see my other post if you are curious). This porch will be a place of peace for me today. :hug:

Your dance looks beautiful in my head today. Good luck with your busy day of work!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 14, 2017, 04:43:09 PM
here's a hug, elphanigh    :hug:.  i'll be on the porch after all the doc stuff today. 

just wanted to let you all know that this place has become the pusher-outer of all those horrid ruminations that would keep me from falling asleep, all the tension that those neg. thoughts about the past people in my life and what they did that would strangle what should otherwise be a peaceful journey into the land of nod. 

i now bring the porch to mind when i lay my head on the pillow, and i can see all of you doing whatever it is you are doing from my rocker, covered in a blanket of just the right temperature, color, and softness to induce a lovely sleep.   this image is only a heartbeat away for me now, and i absolutely love all of it.  see you later.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 14, 2017, 04:47:37 PM
Thank you for the hug  :hug: Good luck with doctor stuff. I will "see" you when you return
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on July 15, 2017, 04:20:30 AM
Quote from: Wife#2 on July 14, 2017, 02:54:02 PM
Blueberry, may the sight of a middle-aged, overweight woman dancing to a wonderful African musician soundtrack with cats wandering between her and the other dancers' feet make you smile. It's not easy being in charge and having to defend your rights, but you've been doing just that! Overcoming our fears to do what is right is ALWAYS worth celebrating. Is there any champagne left? It may be time for a Continental Breakfast! I'll go check the stock of cold melons in the fridge. Let me know if you'll join in or if another form of support can help you remain calm today.

Wife#2, this getting on for middle-aged, overweight woman will come and join you on the dance-floor and forget all about her own weight, as well as the stresses of the day and feeling of anxiety about the magpie 'break-in' (see my latest post Three Good Things A Day)! I'll be allowing my body to express the celebration and release some tension. Afterwards I'll be happy to have some of that cold melon! I recently discovered that watermelon tastes good with mint leaves, so I'll look forward to that after lots of dancing / freestyle body movement / expressive body moves. I'm dancing IRL in my seat while I write and it's helping already.

Thank you too Lingurine for the offer of rocking me gently in the hammock. I'll gladly take that too.

And once again thank you to everybody including myself  ;) for working on this image of The Healing Porch and making it seem like a real place we can all access when we need it. It is a wonderful tool, getting more wonderful by the day!  :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: to us all
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 16, 2017, 10:01:26 PM
funny you should bring up mint leaves, blueberry.  a couple days ago i thought of growing some mint in pots and placing them at the corners of the porch.  spearmint in one, peppermint in another.  lovely pots of everyone's favorite color.  for me, one will be a rusty red with a pale creamy yellow abstract design, while the other is a pale, creamy yellow with rusty slashes making a belt around its middle.

help yourselves. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 17, 2017, 12:37:42 PM
Oh, fresh mint! I haven't had that since my brother shared my house.

I will bring planters and plant some herbs for healing, cooking, refreshment. I love the dirt under my fingernails and the smell of healthy soil wet with rain. Knowing that what I planted is soaking up that rain and the sunshine that later bakes the watered Earth. Knowing that the wonders of life are happening inside those seeds, soon to be sprouting fragile yet powerful tendrils of life through the soil to the sun.

Watching those young sprouts grow, strengthen and eventually produce the leaves we will use. Knowing that we can harvest the leaves and keep the plant healthy. There is little as rewarding as watching an herb garden grow. Especially since it gives quick rewards for our efforts! Just a few weeks and viola!

We'll have fresh Rosemary, Sage, Thyme, San's Mint variety. There will be others, I've forgotten some of the names. I see the leaves and know the properties, but the names escape me.

I need this time in the soil. I thank you all for reminding me how much. Weeding in real life is not nearly as enjoyable, though it did get me on my knees, digging in the rich, dark Earth. I think I'll enjoy planting this garden and perhaps starting one at home as well.

Cooking is fun and a delight to all the senses when using fresh spices and herbs. That we planted and nurtured and maintain so they'll last a long time.

Thank you all again! I needed this today. I really did.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 17, 2017, 02:18:42 PM
The mint leaves and other herbs sound like such a beautiful idea! Thank you both for growing them. I need this place today as well. To be able to visit it when the stress gets to be too much as my day goes. I think I will allow myself to come and go as I need today. Bringing treats or other good things with me.

I think I will work on the plum tree that I wanted to plant earlier in this thread. The plums should be delicious at this point. I could also just use the time to climb a tree this morning. Life is stressful, and I can feel it trying to get at me. I need to ground, and this place helps me do that
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Kat on July 17, 2017, 08:52:14 PM
I had such a lovely time walking the dogs down to the open-air farmers market this morning.  The dogs are all so well-behaved!  I was stopped quite frequently by children wanting to give the dogs some love.  Of course, I didn't mind.  It was so fun watching the kids find delight in the dogs and the dogs in the children. 

I picked up some halloumi cheese--calorie-free of course--at the market.  I'll grill off a few chunks to go with the watermelon and mint.  It's a surprisingly good combination.  I hope you all like it as much as I do.  If not, we can use the the cheese to make nagasaki--Greek flaming cheese!

I'm off for a quick workout now IRL, so I'll catch you all a bit later.  Great to see everyone!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 18, 2017, 01:21:41 PM
Kat, what a great post! I can see the dogs not even requiring their leashes to behave, the children's smiles and the dogs looking like they're grinning back at the children.

I've never had halloumi cheese, but the combination does sound wonderful. The watermelon was cut into small, manageable wedges. What color is the halloumi cheese? I'd like to make colorful plates for everyone - We'll have the red of the watermelons, the deep green of the mint, the cheese, some blueberries or raspberries and/or grapes in every color.

My mouth is watering talking about this. I think a trip to the store for some more fresh fruit is in my near future IRL.

I'm glad I made the sun tea yesterday, it's too stormy on my side of the porch today. Oh, how I love sitting in the safety of the porch rocking chairs, blanket of comfort and happy nostalgia wrapped around me, listening to the thunder and the patter of raindrops. Watching the flashes of lightning and the puddles grow to ponds. ::: Nods :::  Yes, enjoying the fruit, cheese and mint with my fresh sun tea and the Earthy sounds of the storm. This is a good day.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 18, 2017, 03:06:53 PM
Can I come hang out with you on that side of the porch Wife2? Watermelon is one of my favorites! It sounds delicious. Also I love watching storms from a safe spot, the sound of rain and thunder is perfect. It makes for a great day to read, and chat with a friend. I need this safe spot for my heart today.

IRL I should also go get some fruit. I might go buy a watermelon when I go grocery shopping tonight
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 18, 2017, 06:17:05 PM
Elphanigh, I'd be honored to share time and porch with you! I may miss reading, but right now, it's nice to just rest my head back on the rocking chair, close my eyes and just listen.

The watermelon is cold and seedless (unless you prefer having little 'seed spitting' contests - I like those, too!). I even snuck a salt shaker if that's something you like.

The smells include some of San's incense, some of Kat's special cheese, the animals (fresh from baths and toweling dry), the fresh smell of the fruit and the indescribable scent of fresh, wet earth.

The textures are soft, clean fur, soft, warm blankets, wicker strands on the chairs, the hardness of the rinds and grape stems, the soft pulp of the watermelon and grape, (don't know the texture of the cheese... Kat?).

By the way - thank you to those who brought cats, this lovely little fellow stretched out on my lap is a purring delight. He has gray eyes and enjoys making eye contact. Though, he may be after the cheese! LOL.

Ahhh, a good long stretch, a walk around the porch to see how everyone else is doing. Back to Elphanigh on our safe storm side and that delightful cat companion.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 18, 2017, 06:36:28 PM
Thank you so much Wife2 for letting me join you.  Your imagery as always is amazing, just reading that is calming for me  because I can put myself there.

I am going to switch to a warm cup of tea (it's a magic porch so I can have my favorite chamomile mint brew). Then go grab one of our wonderful feline friends to enjoy giving some love to will listening to the rain.

This sounds like a perfect afternoon
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Kat on July 19, 2017, 12:28:01 AM
Halloumi is a semi-hard, white cheese.  I don't know that it has much of a smell.  Oh, and by the way, it's SAGANAKI that the Greeks make with this cheese, not nagaski.  Bad mistake to make considering I was writing about it flaming. 

I could use a little cat cuddle and a nap right about now.  My big boy Shaun is always up for a nap.  His favorite spot is up at the top of my head.  Of course, he'll have to style my hair first--he doesn't make biscuits on my belly like other cats might; he prefers to knead my scalp.  Once he's got my hair in the perfect mess, he'll settle in and begin to purr.  Pretty soon that'll give way to some soft snores and I'll be off to sleep. 

Wake me when the hopscotch games start up.   
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 19, 2017, 07:51:24 PM
Your cat sounds so amazing. Thalia is mine, and is odd all around. She does like to just knead wherever she can. She likes to groom my hair sometimes..  but like a mother cat would to her kitten, not with kneed her claws, it is adorable when it isn't the thing waking me from much needed sleep.

I have stayed away from this post to make sure I got everything done today. I am most of the way done with my work day and would like to come join the porch for a little while. I am bringing none fattening muffins, pastries, and my favorite cheesecake. I make perfect one with lots of fun toppings!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 20, 2017, 06:38:19 PM
I want to come stay on the porch until my heart doesn't hurt anymore. Cuddled up with a blanket of comfort, and maybe not happiness that's too far.. maybe just comfort and peace. Cuddle up with one of my dogs from my family home. His name is Milo, he is a 5 year old chocolate lab who is the sweetest most loving dog you will ever meet. He has nothing but kindness to give, he also came from abuse so he is like me. He is a big dog that loves to play fetch and will swim in the water for hours if you let him. Even play fetch in and out of the water he adores everyone that will play.

However, he is such a great dog to cuddle with. A giant lap dog, but sit next to me on the large chair with part of his body weight on me as a comfort. He is always good at reading when I need him, or am hurting. I miss him a lot somedays. I haven't seen him in almost a year, but he always goes right back to loving me.

I need to feel loved today. SO he is perfect. This porch full of magical things, and people coming and goes as they need it is brilliant and good. Hopefully no one needs it as much as I do today, but I welcome company as well. I can whip us up some tea. Sitting watching another storm like I did with Wife2 the other day.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 20, 2017, 09:01:40 PM
I'm back here with you today, Elphanigh. I've got my fly swatter out - ready to swat any ugly thoughts away.

Comfort, love, worth, beauty - these are the themes on the porch today. For these are the emotions and attributes that surround your name.

Yes, another storm just far enough away to be totally safe. Just close enough that the cooling rain sometimes gets on the breeze and joins us on this porch.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 20, 2017, 09:26:40 PM
Thank you Wife2. It is a huge comfort to read that. I need someone to swat them away sometimes.

Those four themes are perfect, and exactly what I need today. It has been a long one, I mean it has been a long few weeks but today has been a true challenge.  Sitting on the porch with those in mind, and knowing someone is with me is such an amazing thing. Your kindness always amazes me.

I love the rain, especially when irl it is supper hot and humid.

Thank you  :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 21, 2017, 02:31:52 AM
i've been away from here too long, and it's wonderful to be back.  been so busy, but am resting here, watching the storm - thunderstorms have always been some of my favorite things - and some berries to snack on.  those themes are perfect for me, too.  i feel like i've been torn a bit this week, and i just need a blanket of mending.

i forgot how lovely it is to be here.  you all are so wonderful.  trust the magic - it will always take care of us.  love and hugs all around.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: songbirdrosa on July 21, 2017, 09:32:31 AM
I need a peaceful place to be today, and nice porch watching the storm seems just perfect. There's a storm in my mind that needs to be quieted and I've always found rain to be very calming. I'll sit on the ground with my two girls.  :umbrella: :rundog:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on July 21, 2017, 11:17:47 AM
I think I'm going to climb into the hammock, wrap both edges over myself and rock gently to and fro.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 21, 2017, 01:04:24 PM
San! So glad you're back - the garden is coming along nicely. The rain has been helping, I think I see growth there.

Elphanigh, how's your tea? Do you need a refresh?

SongbirdRosa, welcome again. It's fun watching the animals play, even in the rain. Nothing like soggy paws and soggy kisses as they run back to us. I have one who gives hugs, his name is Bear. He's still a puppy, so very full of energy.

Blueberry, that sounds wonderful. May I get you anything? Your favorite beverage, snack? Some of this lovely fresh fruit?

Kat - I'd love to play hopscotch even in the rain. It's a gentle enough rain to play in. I used tape for this 'board', so the rain wouldn't wash it away. Dibs on the shiny black stone!

Everyone - thank you for letting me bring this porch to life. Thank you for allowing me the joy of 'serving' you. Until this healing porch got going, I had no idea how important reaching out to others and being positive in their lives helped me focus and be positive in my own life. I've missed that for a long time. You've helped me bring that back into my soul and I feel so very at home inside my own head and skin right now.

THANK YOU!!!

Oh, and those sitting in rockers? My puppies finally mastered climbing up on furniture. And they LOVE, LOVE, LOVE being lap puppies - and Bear really does give hugs while he licks your ears.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 21, 2017, 01:35:11 PM
San it is great to have you back. I will join you hear today. I may be busy at work, but it gives my mind an escape from the paperwork.

Wife2, could definitely use more tea, thank you. I think I am starting to get a cold from working so much.. The tea helps so much. As does just sitting back and watching everyone enjoy this peaceful place. It is nice to have somewhere to go mentally when I am so worn out.

I am glad to have helped make this place come alive with you Wife2. It is amazing that you have created such a place, and I am glad to hear that it is helping you so much to have this
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on July 21, 2017, 04:37:28 PM
I've been very quiet here too, lately, sort-of skulking in a dark corner cuddled up with Pippy and listening to what you all are saying.

Quote from: Wife#2 on July 20, 2017, 09:01:40 PM
Comfort, love, worth, beauty - these are the themes on the porch today.

Nice. I know it's okay for me to cry here, with those who understand.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 21, 2017, 05:37:27 PM
holding your hand while the tears come, candid.  i'll probably join in.  learning of my imperfections is part of the grieving process for me.  it's good to be here. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: texannurse on July 21, 2017, 07:02:47 PM
Can I join the porch? I'm alone and scared and need to not be alone.
Texannurse
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 21, 2017, 07:40:14 PM
Definitely come join us all. There are so many wonderful possibilities. I will sit with you or play games etc.  :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: texannurse on July 21, 2017, 09:00:59 PM
That sounds nice! I like this porch idea. It's good to just step away from it all and relax sometimes. Trauma has taken so much of my life, i want to learn to start keeping some for myself - and not feel guilty about that. Right now I'm sitting by the fan - it's HOT where I live!
Texannurse
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Lingurine on July 21, 2017, 09:17:37 PM
Stretching my legs and hold my dear cat Bobbie close to me, I had to leave him today, so he needs comfort. I took him from the care asylum five years ago. He had lived there for five years and was in really bad shape. He scratched his fur open and was in so much distress. We saved him from that life and he saved us and developed as a beautiful, life loving companion. It took years before his C PTSD left his body and mind a little and he is a happy go lucky child now.
Like us all, he will hold his past in his body forever, but he has lots of hope for recovery.

So, I cuddle him and stare at the see with him.

Lingurine
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on July 22, 2017, 07:39:31 PM
Quote from: Wife#2 on July 21, 2017, 01:04:24 PM
Blueberry, that sounds wonderful. May I get you anything? Your favorite beverage, snack? Some of this lovely fresh fruit?

Thank you so much for the offer, Wife#2, but I'm quite happy just rocking gently to and fro in my hammock. When I remember to think of it IRL I have a nice sense of rocking. Not a disturbing sense. I know that I'm not actually rocking, it's more like a memory of rocking.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 24, 2017, 12:54:58 PM
TexasNurse - of course you are welcome. Here, we have allowed all of our favorite pets to join us, so that we are never alone. They don't have to be walking Earth to be welcome here. That is part of the joy of this magical, healing porch. Bring your favorites, whatever they are. We'll keep them healthy and/or stocked (pets healthy, food/beverage/games stocked).

We have hopscotch and jump rope and a playground for the inner children to relax and be safe while they play. We have various blankets warmed to just the right comfort temperature for you to wrap yourself.

I may not post every day (I only post at work, and that's getting tougher lately), but my mind and heart are often here. I enjoy being granted the pleasure of helping others here. So, join us, please!

We let our journals and other post threads handle the hard stuff. Here is where we come to be with others in quiet or noisy community. The joy of magic is that it can be both as everyone needs. We welcome you. How may I help you feel calmer and safer today?  :bighug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 24, 2017, 01:32:47 PM
I am going to hang out here today for a while too. It is a hard one this morning. There are just a lot of feelings, and I can't sit with them all today. I think the hammock with my favorite journal, some nice coffee (that won't make me jittery in this magical place) and some homemade scones are perfect today.

Then maybe a walk down by the water just to have some time to breathe and feel at peace. Away from everything that is going on for now.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Kat on July 24, 2017, 07:15:29 PM
Wife#2--You are wicked good at hopscotch!  So fun to laugh so hard and just goof.  I can see why you called dibs on the smooth, black stone.  It feels nice in the hands.

I'm feeling a bit like being alone today, but not too far from the action.  I'm going to my favorite spot up in the strong, old oak.  Its strength comforts me.  And sometimes, it's almost like I can feel it breathe with me helping to calm me.  The bark at the spot I like most has been worn smooth.  It's nice to run my hand back-and-forth on it.  It's nice and cool to the touch.  There's a gentle breeze blowing.  I love wind and breezes.

Steve, the most boisterous and naughty squirrel of the bunch, is actually quiet today.  I can see him up high above me keeping himself occupied with a nut.  He just gave me the most adorable wink.  It's like he knows what I need today. 

It's so nice to just lean against this old tree that's seen so much and offered so much and just swing my legs.  You all look so peaceful and content down there.  Texannurse, I'm so glad you found that shady spot out of the sun where you can cool down.  I'll join you all in a bit.  For now, I'd just like to sit here swinging my legs.  See you soon.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: texannurse on July 24, 2017, 09:49:51 PM
Wife#2 - I don't know what appeals to me more, just swinging on the porch swing doing nothing or sitting in the corner, with good book.... It's nice here. Calm and quiet. I can just be. It's quiet, maybe everyone is inside taking a nap.  ;)

Texannurse
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 26, 2017, 01:30:26 PM
I am going to come here today. I think this is a magical place where I can rest until the symptoms of withdraw subside. I will hang out in my hammock, between the flowering trees that are even more beautiful this time of year. I have a nice breeze to feel, and a warm cup of coffee with the perfect balance between the espresso taste and a bit of vanilla to calm the soul. Also it magically does not make any of my symptoms worse.

Napping after that cup of coffee with my little Thalia will be perfect today. This place is a great mental space away from everything going on.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 26, 2017, 02:15:55 PM
I'm at the porch today as well. I'm lighting some incense to waft through the house and over the porch and yard. It's two sticks, jasmine and lavender.

I think we could all use the relaxing notes today. So, hello, comforting odors, hello comforting blankets. I'm tuckered out from that fun game of Hopscotch - I forgot I wiggle so much at my age! Phooey to gravity. I'm going to stretch out with the rocking chair and ottoman. Seeing each of you relaxing and enjoying the peace of this healing porch is actually helping as much as the blankets!

Oh, my DS is curled up in my lap, all 80 pounds of him. Today, it's my son who is bringing me comfort more than anything or anyone else. He's a chatter, so unless you want an hour long conversation about the benefits of certain weapons in certain video games, let this sleeping boy lie.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on July 26, 2017, 02:18:53 PM
Your son and I can go play video games together! We'll talk about the benefits of a longbow as opposed to a recurve, and whether or not to apply fire magic. :D
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 26, 2017, 02:23:49 PM
Wife2 and Three Roses, I would gladly speak with him about the benefits of certain weapons over others in games. I have played quite a few and love getting to be nerdy in that way. It doesn't happen often.

I love the lavender and jasmine Wife2. It is so perfect for today. I hope you continue to find comfort in this porch, and all of us being here together trying to heal and be calm.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 26, 2017, 03:40:22 PM
I release him to you both! My legs fell asleep and he was getting restless anyway. Overhearing your posts about enthusiastic players of video games, he's drawn to you like a moth to a flame. Just remember, he's only 9 and I'm severely overprotective of him. Poor kid. He'll eat up this attention, conversation and game time.

And I'll eat up watching him flourish around grownups who don't think badly of him for his love of games (Dad). Adults who even know what he's talking about - because Mom is so out of date and out of touch that she still plays candy crush! LOL.

Now that you two have my hugging, cuddling, PVP 1PS fanatic of a son, I think I'll take a nap. A long, deep nap. Thank you, ladies. I know he's in good hands with you two.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 26, 2017, 03:46:23 PM
Wife2 I am so glad you trust that he is in good hands. I adore getting to give kids that attention when they need it. There is nothing wrong with liking games. Also, candy crush is still fun to kills some time, so you are perfect even if outdated a bit. Get a much deserved nap.

Btw, irl I watch a 7 year old who absolutely adores games, so it is such a great thing to show interest in what they do. I know from experience
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 28, 2017, 01:43:31 PM
Think I will come here today. Irl I am going through a pretty bad EF and having to come off of it so I can make important decisions.

I need the escape into calm today. So I choose a blanket of peace, because every bit of me is just craving peace.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 28, 2017, 01:53:20 PM
Don't mind me. I'm on the porch this morning for courage and steadfastness of purpose. I'll be quiet as I can - my way to build courage is to pace, do things (so if your drink runs out, it will be refilled quickly today).
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 28, 2017, 02:12:55 PM
Thank you Wife2. I never mind having you around. I do appreciate the quiet today though  :hug: Hopefully you can get the courage that you need today. I am here if you need anything, just need a short time of quiet
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 28, 2017, 02:29:07 PM
 :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 28, 2017, 02:39:56 PM
Lots of hugs  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Is there anything you need on the porch today, Wife2?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on July 28, 2017, 02:46:18 PM
While you curl up in your favorite resting spot, let yourself be taken care of for a change.

I'll make sure you have the right view, garden, sea, whichever. You'll have the beverage of your choice and a snack to go with it, one that satisfies your cravings but is magically healthy. 

I'll light two sticks of incense, and place a lit candle near you. A cozy blanket or shawl is next and the best, most comfortable slippers.

Last touch is some music to help ease the pain and ground you.

Now all that's left to do is to breathe deep and soak in all the love around you, for you are loved by us here, dear woman.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 30, 2017, 04:17:25 AM
yes, indeed, you are, you sweet soul.  rest, relax, absorb all the caring and support.  a few crickets tonite for a musical treat against the surf hurtling to the sand. 

i am in my rocker tonite, a shawl around my shoulders, just rocking and listening and being with you and anyone else here.  it's a good nite to be loved.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 31, 2017, 12:07:31 PM
Thank you, everyone. Your love sustained me through a long, sometimes difficult weekend.

I'm here today, but in the background. Busy day at work and not much time for posting. Your love, and the love of my young son as I left the house today will carry me through this day.

This mother's heart melted when I was already at the car and my 9-year-old son burst out the front door, insisting I couldn't leave until I'd given him a hug and kiss. THEN, he was content to be inside, waiving as I drove away. Yes, my day has begun well. Thank you, son.

And, thank you everyone here on the porch today.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on July 31, 2017, 03:15:45 PM
you deserve it, every last drop of love coming your way.   love and hugs always.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 31, 2017, 03:43:29 PM
I am going to come here today, at least for the next hour or so. IRL I am waiting to hear more so I need to be in this place to just stay okay until I can know more.

I think I am going to sit in one of the rocking chairs curled up with a blanket of comfort, and good wishes if we can encompass that into a blanket here. I will probably down a lot of calming chamomile peppermint tea, and constantly have a cuddly animal with me
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on July 31, 2017, 04:52:58 PM
I'm in the midst of heavy post-surgery physical therapy, but as we know sometimes the emotional side doesn't respect boundaries, and we end up with a combo platter. Today was one of those; end result--it intensified the hurt (worst is you can't explain the emotional parts; physical therapists are trained to stick with what they know, which is good in its own way but leaves out a chunk of what's really affecting things by all this bodily manipulation).

So it's to this porch for the true rehab part of the day. May the peace be with.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on July 31, 2017, 05:21:51 PM
Bringing chamomile tea and Bear the puppy to Elphanigh and whatever would help Woodsgnome most today.

All the blankets have been sun-warmed and can be multi-purpose as needed.

I'm here because I'm using the porch for calming again. The only way to calm my mind most days is to do for others, so thank you for being here and giving me purpose!  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 31, 2017, 05:33:55 PM
Thank you so much Wife2. I just need the space to get back to calm. my anxiety got quite the spike htis morning..
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Kat on July 31, 2017, 06:17:03 PM
So good to see everyone.  Hugs all around.  I'm not in the mood to talk too much today.  I think I'll sit on the steps and watch the birds for a bit--so many different songs and sounds from them.  I'm so thankful for this space and for you all. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on July 31, 2017, 07:08:33 PM
Coming off the adrenaline and anxiety finally. I think a nap in the hammock between my favorite trees is in order again. Just a calm place to lay and recover. It is good to see everyone on the porch today
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on August 01, 2017, 01:08:20 PM
hangin' out here today.  feeling pretty paralyzed.  just gonna rock and enjoy all of you.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 01, 2017, 01:53:52 PM
I will be there with you today Sanmagic. I will bring you a candle that is your favorite scent to sit next to your rocking chair, and supply any comforting drink you desire.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on August 02, 2017, 12:21:26 AM
thanks, sweetie.  i just got the news about the mri being 'normal' so i'm just p.o'd right now.  going out to the trees and throw eggs.  and yell and scream obscenities.   nothing for the rest of you to worry about, it's magic, it won't bother you.

then i'll take that candle, gardenia, please, and relax for the rest of the night.  right here with the rest of you lovely people.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on August 02, 2017, 06:22:40 AM
Popping in at the porch with your favourite songs from teenage years and some headphones, to remind you your wild and free spirit is still strong. When you just can't help yourself getting up to dance, we'll all surround you and do likewise.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on August 02, 2017, 01:39:27 PM
Hey, throwing eggs and cussing sounds like a fun, healthy release. I hope it helped.   :hug:

Yes, a dance party! Not that I can dance. It's the fact that I have more unintended jiggle than I did even 5 years ago - there's an entertainment factor in that LOL.

Though, you tell us what you want, San. If cussing & throwing, then count me in.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 02, 2017, 06:26:55 PM
San, I really hope that was helpful for you. I am good with the throwing things, that is therapeutic for me. I may not join you in the cussing at the moment. Eventually I think but I am not there yet.

Wife2 the dance party could be fun. I don't dance well but it is fun to do sometimes

Whatever every one needs I am up for! Today I find that I have more energy, and a mix of things that would be therapeutic for me. This place is a great one to come to occasionally just to feel surrounded by such wonderful people. And to feel like I might be able to help someone while here
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 04, 2017, 01:19:44 PM
Think I need to place to rest this morning. I have had a crazy few weeks. Today is the last day at my job, and I made some really questionable decisions last night..

I think a rest on the porch, watching the birds fly around and then playing fetch with my chocolate lab Milo is perfect. I am bring warm muffins of every type and coffee (decaf if you can't have caffeine) with every type of flavoring you could want. It makes this spot on the porch small delicious
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: texannurse on August 04, 2017, 05:44:42 PM
I just need to hang out today - stressed and tired of working on therapy. Can i just sit in the corner and just "be"?
Texannurse
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 04, 2017, 05:57:00 PM
Texasnurse, you can certainly sit and just "be". Pick your favorite spot and just let me know if you need anything  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: texannurse on August 04, 2017, 07:15:01 PM
Elphanigh - Thanks :hug: I think I just need someone to sit by me and support me as I learn to let my emotions thaw. They are doing that right now. That's why I came out to the porch - i needed fresh air and some companionship!
Texannurse
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 04, 2017, 07:17:42 PM
I will definitely come sit next to you as you do that. It is a difficult thing, glad you are doing it here  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on August 04, 2017, 08:32:12 PM
::: Waiving from the pond :::

If you need more company, TexasNurse, just let me know. Otherwise, I'll be over here by San's garden, adding rocks to the pond waterfall.

The ocean view is wonderful for a slow, easy wave sound and breathing and just being. It's nice, sometimes, just to feel the bricks behind one's back, close one's eyes and breathe. May peace, calm, comfort and safety surround you today. You have permission to feel as you want to feel. No matter WHAT you feel. On the porch, we are allowed to be our authentic selves. You, included.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: texannurse on August 05, 2017, 04:07:40 PM
Thanks wife#2. Today is more peaceful. I think I'll venture out to the garden to see how things are coming along. Then I'll snuggle with a blanket and maybe a stuffed animal and just sit quietly and refresh my soul.
Texannurse
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 05, 2017, 04:17:54 PM
Seems I can't catch a break.... can I come join you in the garden?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: texannurse on August 05, 2017, 04:46:03 PM
Absolutely!!!! I need company right now. Memories are the enemy today.
Texannurse
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 05, 2017, 05:44:41 PM
I am glad to keep you company. I am sorry your memories are being so hard on you. Hopefully, this helps lessen them. For now it is more just general life things giving me issues..
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on August 07, 2017, 12:50:04 PM
::: Slips in, takes a rocking chair and a blanket of soothing and comfort. :::

I hope y'all don't mind. I need the porch today, but I'm really deep inside my own head and need to process some things quietly. Long weekend.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 07, 2017, 04:16:27 PM
Let me know if you need anything at all Wife2. I will be in and out of this place today, but akways here to help.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on August 09, 2017, 01:51:33 AM
aaahhhh, it's good to be back.  rocking chair, blanket of calm and soothing, keeping you all company in the way you need, and you are all giving me exactly what i need, too.   love and hugs.  i do believe we will love this beast to death eventually. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on August 09, 2017, 01:51:44 PM
Now THAT is a dream I can relax and enjoy, San. Beautifully said. Thank you!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 10, 2017, 03:19:34 PM
Definitely going to be here in spirit. Found out my dads diagnosis and without a car my days have been12+ hours long... it is difficult but I am managing.

In this place today I can take a good rest in a chair, on the porch. Can eve rhave a good cup of tea and read a book. Maybe curl up with an animal even. I miss you all so much, so I am here with you today
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on August 10, 2017, 04:17:46 PM
I just got an invite.  Can I come in and bring a good book and some crocheting? 

And oh, by the way, is there lemonade?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 10, 2017, 06:33:17 PM
Definitely bring both of those. Lemondade is my favorite! Do you like it flavored or traditional? I can get both 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 12, 2017, 02:05:09 PM
I need this place today.. more than I have ever needed it.. this will be my escape for my mind. I can't bring myself to eat or drink today..

So I want to hang out on the porch, watching a rain storm from a comfy chair. Drinking my favorite tea,  with smells of bergamont (my favorite calming oil)

Ignoring all the hurt and the ef I am in right now
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 15, 2017, 02:12:09 PM
I may have to work all day but in spirit I am going to be on the porch all day. My anxiety is having a hay day with me and it is only 9:11... I am going to sit in my hammock with a good book and try to get a nap in as well.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on August 16, 2017, 01:46:06 PM
Today, I do need to work; but I'm going to bring my hammock later and relax.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on August 16, 2017, 06:39:14 PM
allie, so glad you're joining us.  i knit, and as the weather gets colder i do believe i'll be doing needlework right beside you.

i'll be going to my d's tomorrow for an overnite, so i'm resting up for it here today.   i'm enjoying the fall flowers that are beginning to bloom - i see some wild asters, pink, white, and purple, and the mums that are getting closer to popping open.  ooooh, some dahlias - love all those colors.  they've always been one of my very favorite flowers, and i just learned lately that they are the national flower of mexico.  i guess i've had mexico in my blood all along.  right now, tho, i'm near my d, and it's right where i belong. 

asters in my hair as i rock and feel so warmly toward all of you.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 17, 2017, 04:45:20 PM
I am going to come join you here today. Definitely struggling. Can I just come sit next to you and admire the flowers San??
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on August 18, 2017, 08:03:29 AM
Squiff over, I need a little sit-down today, too.  It's lovely to see you all here!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on August 18, 2017, 09:51:03 AM
Hi Candid! I see the Tortoise is taking over in your life instead of that crazy Hare.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on August 18, 2017, 10:05:19 AM
Oh, well put!  :applause: I tried to turn a photo of my own many tortoises into my avatar, but this jaunty fellow steppin' out (and grabbed from a google image search) works better.

Yeah, the hare died of exhaustion.  Gather round, my friends, for just 30 seconds.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m7NuVjpi72c
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on August 18, 2017, 03:37:24 PM
hilarious!  thanks for that. 

hangin out here today with my peeps.  feels good. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 18, 2017, 03:42:20 PM
Definitely hanging out here this morning. I need a break from everything just for a little while.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on August 18, 2017, 04:59:17 PM
I don't really know what I need this morning.  Maybe some chocolate and a gentle breeze.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on August 19, 2017, 06:07:17 AM
you got it, allie.   i'm going to sleep thinking of all you and just enjoying you being here and in my life.  i'm already smiling.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on August 19, 2017, 04:40:06 PM
Can I have a hobbit hole this morning?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on August 19, 2017, 06:29:16 PM
Most things are possible on the Healing Porch, so I'm sure a hobbit hole is too.  ;)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on August 22, 2017, 10:57:10 PM
i'm here all day today.  pretty burned out right now.  it's nice to take a day off, just sit and do/not do whatever feels right. 

i think the eclipse got to me somewhere inside.  something is turning over.  i just want to relax and let it happen.  i'm happy to be surrounded by flowers - they always make me feel good.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on August 26, 2017, 11:00:52 AM
I'll be on the porch today, I need some hugs and gentle, kind people. Some non-rambunctious dogs - so the elderly ones - I could do with too. As explained in my Journal I made the decision to give my 2 guinea pigs back to the Guinea Pig Rescue Society. I don't want to overburden the Healing Porch with a written form of what all that entails, but if anybody is interested, you'll find it in Blueberry's Journal. Well, I'll just say I'm very sad.

All my guinea pigs, past and present, are in the vicinity of the Porch. They prefer to be in a big run on the grass, than actually on the Porch. A wooden porch?? How boring is that?? You can't even eat it!! But grass - what bliss! You get to lie in/on your food and choose each delicious juicy blade of grass yourself. Some do smell and taste better than others!

Maybe I'll rock a bit to and fro in the hammock.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 26, 2017, 05:57:17 PM
I will sit here with you today, with hugs and support as you need them. Always gentle and kind. :hug:

For myself, I will go on a walk down by the water and just feel the water in my bare feet. It is relaxing
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on August 26, 2017, 08:36:03 PM
Thank you Elphanigh!  A walk down by the water sounds lovely too. I will probably do so another day. I do it lots IRL like after T in the nearby lake.

I came onto the porch specifically because there are kind, gentle, and understanding people on the porch, which isn't always the case IRL. Even if people don't mean to be unkind, they don't always understand the depths of our pain over things that seem minor. I hope nobody on here thought I meant people on the Porch might be otherwise.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 26, 2017, 08:56:15 PM
Blueberry, I can't imagine anyone would think that is what you meant. Don't worry at all.

I am glad to be on the porch with you tonight. Think it is time for tea and maybe a good book
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on August 27, 2017, 04:20:35 AM
I was on the porch with you yesterday afternoon, Blueberry.  We weren't talking, just sitting beside each other.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on August 27, 2017, 07:15:11 PM
Thank you Candid,  :hug: I hope you managed a little shut-eye while I was absorbed in my own thoughts.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on August 27, 2017, 08:00:53 PM
Wife ... You are missed ... :grouphug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on August 27, 2017, 11:14:10 PM
Three roses I agree. I miss her dearly as well
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 01, 2017, 11:38:36 PM
I am going to sit here tonight. I need to breathe and rest in every way possible. I think I may sit on the porch with a few blankets, a cuddly animal, and a view of the water. Might even allow myself to nap since everyone here is a safe person.

Life is exhausting and this place is my getaway today. Things have been too much
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: AphoticAtramentous on September 01, 2017, 11:45:52 PM
Quote from: Elphanigh on September 01, 2017, 11:38:36 PM
I am going to sit here tonight. I need to breathe and rest in every way possible. I think I may sit on the porch with a few blankets, a cuddly animal, and a view of the water. Might even allow myself to nap since everyone here is a safe person.

Life is exhausting and this place is my getaway today. Things have been too much
That sounds really nice, Elphanigh. :) Please do all that! It sounds like a really calming well-needed break.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 01, 2017, 11:48:35 PM
Thank you, Aphotic. I really need the break
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on September 02, 2017, 05:49:12 PM
i join with everyone in missing wife2.  always so steadfast and grounding.  no pressure to return till you're ready, just letting you know you're thought of a lot.

will be harvesting here, today.  tomatoes, corn, peppers are available for everyone.  we could roast corn in the firepit, make veggie kabobs, and black raspberries are ripe and delicious.  eat to your heart's content, and enjoy.

then, it's the rocking chair with flowers in my hair, channeling my inner flower child, long skirt, bare feet, contentment in my heart.  lovely little breeze wafting the smell of our roses over us.  dahlias are blooming, along with black-eyed susans.  zinnias in their rainbow of colors.  it's so beautiful here.  lovely people to round out the beauty i find here.  it is indeed a safe place.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 02, 2017, 07:09:00 PM
San I am here with you today.  Can we have fresh watermelon with all of that as well? It should be grown in the garden perfectly this time of year.

I will join you in being barefoot, it is perfect.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on September 03, 2017, 02:36:52 AM
absolutely.  watermelon sounds yummy.  seed-spitting contest anyone?  lol!!!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on September 03, 2017, 05:19:18 AM
Spitting here beside you, san.  :chestbump:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 03, 2017, 12:11:01 PM
Lol thanks you two. I will help judge the contest. I am pretty atrocious at the actual seed spitting part
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on September 03, 2017, 04:05:27 PM
so am i, el.  they usually just dribble down my front, lol!  still, i get a kick out of trying.  and one never knows, candid, i might have a fluke, so watch out - hahaha!!!

by the by, i love your flowers, el - water lilies?  some of my favs.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 03, 2017, 04:09:57 PM
lol this would be really amusing to watch irl. I can envision it though. Thank you for the smile  :hug:

Yeah, water lilies. They are my favorite and I found that picture of them this morning. I have always connected to them (it is why when I wrote my story for the website that I used that as my picture). I also have a tattoo planned for it when I can finally afford it. Along with one of my grandmother's native american dream catcher. I kept it and it is always with me.

Long explanation to say thank you, I am glad you like them as well
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Candid on September 04, 2017, 05:19:33 AM
I usually swallow watermelon seeds, so I'm going to need a bit of practice.  This could get messy.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: AphoticAtramentous on September 04, 2017, 06:30:50 AM
lol If I tried spitting watermelon seeds, pretty sure I'd just send a glob of drool dribbling down my chin and onto my shirt.  :whistling:
So yeah, I'll just watch. Haha

Quote from: Elphanigh on September 03, 2017, 04:09:57 PM
Yeah, water lilies. They are my favorite and I found that picture of them this morning. I have always connected to them (it is why when I wrote my story for the website that I used that as my picture). I also have a tattoo planned for it when I can finally afford it. Along with one of my grandmother's native american dream catcher. I kept it and it is always with me.
Water lilies are quite beautiful. :) Where would you get the tattoos? Just a friendly curious question, don't answer if it's too personal. XP

Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 04, 2017, 10:40:36 PM
Candid, I would be in the same boat.

Aphotic, it isn't too personal. I already have two small tattoos. The dream catcher will go on my thigh where I can hid it when I need it, but where I can do the dream catcher justice since it means a lot to me.
The water lily, I am not sure where yet. I have a couple of design ideas which will determine where it goes
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 14, 2017, 04:36:20 PM
I am going to sit here today. Enjoying a cup of tea that Three Roses made for me. Maybe take a walk in the garden as the day goes on. This magical place is peaceful for my heart
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 18, 2017, 01:42:31 PM
Quick visit today. I haven't even been able to read posts for a while lately. I'm so very glad to able to at least read, and sometimes even post again.

I have missed all of you so very much! My sisters and brothers who have touched my life and my heart. Thoughts of you have sustained me while I was away, but can never replace actual communication, interaction and community with each of you!

I see we also have some newcomers to the porch! Welcome!!! We are always glad when new people find this resting place for your soul.

After I've wandered around and made sure the windows were open so the cross breezes could pass right through the house, I'm going to join in the watermelon spitting contest - my brother made sure I was an expert <silly grin>. And I've never minded when my best effort didn't get farther than my watermelon juice covered chin. It's like getting roasted marshmallow on your nose - at least you know you were having fun and around friends! I'd honestly take a cream pie to the face just to relax and belly laugh with friends.

I have my piece of watermelon... this is SO cold and delicious! Thank you for all who ensured our garden grows these as well!  <pthoot>  Hey!  I cleared the banister!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 18, 2017, 08:18:26 PM
I will watch you spitting watermelon seeds. Maybe that will inspire me to join in. If not, I can giggle at least maybe.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: AphoticAtramentous on September 19, 2017, 01:02:37 AM
Welcome back Wife#2. ^-^
It's a pleasure to meet you.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 19, 2017, 03:05:39 PM
I'm going to spend some time here today. Wrapped up in a blanket, drinking a big mug of nice hot tea. And watching the animals, particularly my own that I decided to give away because I didn't have the strength to look after them any more  :'( :'( I know this is meant to be a healing place, but tears are healing. Maybe somebody else will come and sit with me a while. You don't have to say anything, just be there. I'll enjoy looking at san's flowers. I think I planted some roses too, which are magically still blooming and sending their scent over the porch.
I have a magic mug too, it refills itself so I don't even have to get up today  ;)
Some of my pets from the past, those who are in Heaven, are coming along too. Maybe I am singing through my tears, or maybe there is music. I like Sanskrit mantras (something you get in yoga). They do me a lot of good
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 19, 2017, 03:14:55 PM
I'll sit silently with you, Blueberry. No pressure to talk, I'm comfortable with silence.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 19, 2017, 06:19:18 PM
Also sitting with you, Blueberry. Hoping you'll find some measure of peace today.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 19, 2017, 07:57:52 PM
Thank you for sitting with me. I've been off for a few hours suddenly remembering old ways I used to heal, like just swaying right-left-right to music, children's music e.g. lullabies, with a stuffed animal under my chin. Haven't done that for a long time, but it was good.

There's a sense of calm in me anyway, if not quite peace. Depression's gone. Once I'm no longer holding my feelings in, the depression disappears off too. It's good to spend time on the porch!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 20, 2017, 04:59:29 AM
 :cheer:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: AphoticAtramentous on September 20, 2017, 12:14:23 PM
Good to hear about your little sense of calm Blueberry. :)

I've had a bit of a stressful day at work, yelling customers, customers not making sense. I'm just going to sleep right here on the porch if that's cool. Haha, I'm so tired these days. I've already fall asleep once today whilst trying to reply to a post here.  :whistling:

QuoteI have a magic mug too, it refills itself so I don't even have to get up today  ;)"
I wish I had a mug like that...
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 20, 2017, 12:18:11 PM
Hello Aphotic! I'm sure you can have a mug like mine. Just imagine it, it'll come. The porch is a nice safe place for sleeping. I'll sit with my sadness rather than pushing it away.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on September 21, 2017, 03:03:35 PM
I'm bad at asking for help, but I'm very forlorn today and need to just drop my "I can do it myself" self-talk (self-sabotage?). So the deal is, I've wandered onto the porch, and however anyone would care to express it, I hope you'll feel okay to help me see that it's okay now, I'm safe.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 21, 2017, 03:10:35 PM
If you're okay with it, can i give you a great big welcoming hug first?  :hug: not threatening, not anything but genuine happiness at seeing you and feeling camaraderie with you.

you know there are lots of different views here, while you look around at which you like (or think about creating one that's not already here), i'll get a cup or glass of your favorite beverage. coffee, tea, or ... ? tell me what view you decide on. (i think today there will be a warm fire in the chiminea at the end of the porch, and some quiet music. that's where i'll be.) ;)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on September 21, 2017, 04:06:55 PM
3Roses said: "i think today there will be a warm fire in the chiminea at the end of the porch, and some quiet music. that's where i'll be."

Sounds good...this is what I said in my first post on this forum:
"It's like settling down before a comforting fire on a long winter's night.  We all know so well how vulnerable and lonely this path is...I can sense you, though, through the tears; squeeze my hand and don't go away."
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 21, 2017, 04:37:16 PM
*squeezing your hand, WG*
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 21, 2017, 08:59:34 PM
Hi Woodsgnome  :heythere:  I'm happy you're joining us.

I was on the porch today in my imagination, the way I used to go to an Inner Safe Place in my imagination.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on September 21, 2017, 09:21:43 PM
Im feeling a bit lonely right now,  so if its okay with you guys Ill join you on the porch
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 21, 2017, 09:48:30 PM
Everyone is welcome on the porch! And magically, there's never a crowd. ;)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on September 21, 2017, 09:53:50 PM
That sounds lovely
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 22, 2017, 04:16:05 PM
Welcome to our newest folks. We're glad you've joined us on the healing porch.

The picture on my avatar is of an actual porch I've visited. It's a wraparound with roof over most (not all - some like sunshine) and screened in at one section.

Here, it wraps fully around the house, one edge is at the beach, another edge is by a forest, a third by a garden tended by several green-thumbed (at least here) members, the fourth changes to the needs of the visitor.

All drinks are healthy and healing (alcohol is allowed, as this is a magical place and we're not driving from here). All food is delicious and filling. Scenes can change as needed, music and other ambient elements can and often do change per the person willing it.

I keep a trunk of warmed blankets. My favorite blanket wraps me in a sense of peace and acceptance. They are always slightly warm. Today, mine is shaped like a snuggie (or whatever that thing is called) and I'm in the hammock on the beach side of the porch.

I can see everyone else, because all windows are always open to allow breezes through the house. You are welcome here. All pets are welcome, those here and on the rainbow bridge. As this place is magic, no animal even growls or hisses at another.

Bring with you whatever you need to help you feel safe and relaxed. You and your things are safe here. Welcome.

WG - a special welcoming hug to you. It's so huge when we first start to realize we need each other. Really need each other. I'm honored to be here with the others, supporting you.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 22, 2017, 04:27:25 PM
Wife, I would like your permission to start building a tree house in the forest.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 22, 2017, 06:25:25 PM
Let it be so! I can help with handing boards up, but don't put a hammer in my hands if this is a safe place  ;)

I like the sounds of hammering, the smells of boards being cut to length, the easy camaraderie of friends pitching in together, so count me in to help build it.

It can be your sanctuary as you need, 3R
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on September 22, 2017, 09:21:17 PM
Is there a fireplace, or a fire pit somewhere? I would love to sit and just stare into the fire tonight.  Or potentially stare up at the starry sky (if it gets nighttime here)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 22, 2017, 09:56:41 PM
There's a chiminea at one end, feel free to reposition it to your liking! :)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 22, 2017, 10:00:17 PM
This place is magic, so I'm sure your bit of the sky can have stars. If somebody else is frightened of the dark, they won't see your bit, they'll see daylight only.

Besides the chiminea, I'm sure a bonfire down on the beach would be possible, if that's more to your liking. We've been known to gather on the porch and sing. But I know a bonfire can be a nice place for that too.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 22, 2017, 10:02:37 PM
A bonfire! Why didn't I think of that  :cloud9:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on September 22, 2017, 10:38:04 PM
I need something chocolate.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 22, 2017, 10:53:51 PM
There's probably even a chocolate tree, invisible to those of us who would go overboard on the chocolate, like me. BTW chocolate tastes good with real mint leaves and might with lemon balm too. Both those herbs are in the garden.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on September 22, 2017, 11:39:58 PM
Fireplaces and bonfires need wood, so I'll volunteer for the wood-splitting duties. If that sounds more like work than therapy, it's more akin to venting and releasing pent-up energy while serving a good cause everyone can benefit from. It's healing, and it'll help me give back to this amazing community.  :bigwink:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 22, 2017, 11:49:51 PM
Nothing like a bit of vigorous exercise for getting rid of pent-up anger or rage. Not to mention the allowed destruction part. That block of wood can turn into anything you like. Chop. I might join you.

Also while ThreeRoses is building her tree-house, there may be some bits of leftover wood that can go on the bonfire.

Maybe some of us have other rubbish for the fire? It can be cathartic to see various papers go up in smoke. Or other burnable detritus.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on September 23, 2017, 12:02:17 AM
I'll volunteer for wood-splitting duty and look for debris while I'm at it.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 23, 2017, 01:30:33 AM
I'm coming back to sit here, wrapped in a blanket, after writing a letter to a FOO member. Not to be sent of course, just for here.  :'( :'( off and on while writing. Cathartic, healing. It's time those tears came out. And yes, my T was right  - I've been making time and space for this part of my healing process.

Anybody else around, whether it's 3 AM or a more normal time in your part of the world?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 23, 2017, 03:28:13 PM
It has been so great to read through about 7 days of posts here. I will be absent for a few more days as work and life have been taking all the energy I have, and more this weekend.

Wife2, it is so good to see you posting s bit. Have missed you dear friend.

I will be on the porch in spirit, so even if my body is not getting rest my spirit can be.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 25, 2017, 03:50:32 PM
Forgive me. I'm being selfish today.  I'll be quietly sitting by the fan, staring into the turning blades, feeling the wind on my face. My blanket today has many properties: Forgiveness of self, comfort, acceptance. I need a chance to empty my brain.

I may still be here at nightfall and will help drag sticks and logs down to the beach bonfire pit. I'm carving names into some of the logs. I'm carving memories into some of the others. I may not be strong enough to cut these down, but I can drag with the best of them. I also kind-of like the idea of carving my hurts into the wood and watching them burn away in the fire.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on September 25, 2017, 04:21:32 PM
Taking a break from splitting logs.

Wife#2, this is fantastic: ..."I also kind-of like the idea of carving my hurts into the wood and watching them burn away in the fire."

I used to do this with slips of paper...write down what and/or who I need bid farewell to, then burn them in the fire. The log-carving is even better--it's not instant like the paper slips, takes some thought, time and effort to accomplish.

When you burn them, you derive an extra bonus--those self-same hurts send warmth back from the fire; warmth that you created out of the old wounds. Result: an even cozier bonfire than first imagined.  :bigwink:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 25, 2017, 06:38:16 PM
WG, you are a genius. I didn't give it that much thought. I like where you went with that. A truly wonderful idea.

:: Reaching for my chisel and hammer ::: These are going to be deep because the wounds are deep. Maybe I'll reach a knot and the fire will whistle as it burns away some of this pain.

I'm looking forward to sundown tonight, now.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 26, 2017, 02:42:34 AM
Definitely been on the porch with you today. With me being physically ill, I have just needed a place to rest and feel better. I need to go to work tomorrow so I am hoping two days of rest will be enough..
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 26, 2017, 01:04:12 PM
Healing prayers and hugs being sent your way, El. Here is some just-hot-enough tea to help sooth the nerves and ease the stresses you're feeling.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on September 26, 2017, 04:04:37 PM
so good to check in here.

i love the idea of carving old wounds/hurts and throwing them into the fire.  i know mine will send off sparks, which i always love to see. 

el, i hope you're feeling better.  still got soup if you need it.

wife2, so glad you're back.  i know you've had your own stuff going on, but i've missed you sorely nonetheless.

this is a porch day for me.  i'll be gathering my strength to see the new t in 2 days.  just wanna veg out, listen to the waves, enjoy the presence of everyone here, sick or not.  you all give me strength and soothing.  will rock, flowers in my hair, eyes closed, smelling the fragrance around me.  yes, i lovely day.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 26, 2017, 04:09:53 PM
I think I'll spend some time sitting on the porch steps, playing my guitar in the sun. I need some porch time. I may even wander off to my newly completed tree house.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 26, 2017, 04:32:57 PM
Your treehouse is done already?!? That was fast, 3Roses!  :thumbup: :thumbup:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on September 26, 2017, 05:45:16 PM
Magic!  :cloud9:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on September 26, 2017, 08:21:23 PM
I'm going to curl up in a blanket with a cup of hot chocolate. I'm up for some boardgames though, to distract the thoughts if anyone's game
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on September 26, 2017, 10:08:57 PM
I love boardgames! (With a few exceptions.)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 27, 2017, 12:00:09 AM
Thank you Wife2, and San for your loving healing help. I am still really ill, but went to work for the afternoon anyways, at home and regretting that a bit this evening. I will rest on the porch tonight with that tea from Wife2 and soup from San. Love you both dearly


I love your tree house Three Roses!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on September 27, 2017, 06:08:10 AM
Quote from: Blueberry on September 26, 2017, 10:08:57 PM
I love boardgames! (With a few exceptions.)
Same! Not all are fun, but most are!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 27, 2017, 01:30:35 PM
Count me in for the board games. They are wonderful distractions. I'm a huge backgammon fan. I also enjoy multi-player games of all sorts. Even Scrabble! I stink at it, but I love it all the same.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on September 27, 2017, 02:56:46 PM
Coming here so I can sit on the porch, in the shade, and take a few long drinks of lemonade. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 27, 2017, 03:08:00 PM
I would love to play some board games too! They are the best :)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on September 27, 2017, 03:25:21 PM
Yay! The more the merrier for the board games :D
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 28, 2017, 03:32:38 AM
Going to come and be on the porch today. I will lay in my favorite hammock, between my flowering tree and watch the stars. Hearing everyone else and the animals lightly in the background to soothe my worn out heart, and remind me that all will be okay.

It is a nice night on the porch, mildly weather with gleaming stars. But I have a magical heavy blanket that I can feel full of comfort and peace, that doesn't make me overly warm. The weight of it is perfect for my inner child thst is reaching out tonight, and for the adult me that is struggling with my own brand of grief and fear.

Hoping to find some peace and comfort here tonight as I try to sleep. My body needs me to find sleep and peace tonight
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 28, 2017, 12:28:00 PM
I'm in a place today where I need to give to others. This may sound strange, but my strong mother streak is wanting to give long, rocking, hair-petting hugs. My shoulders are equipped to be covered in tears. Soothing, comforting words are at the ready. Think of those hugs you see on TV of loving mothers comforting their daughters after a crushing breakup or failure to achieve some long-sought-after goal.

I will be here today, IRL in bits and spurts, but all day on this healing porch. Fear not that you will crush me - dainty is not in my adjective pool. I also know how to hold my fist so that you can squeeze without breaking me - squeeze as much pain out and into my fist as you need. I also own a set of fine ear plugs. These are IRL truths, so much more true on the magical healing porch.

It's a day of reaching out and allowing each of you who want this to voice the unfairness, scream if you have to. Cry the bitter, heart-deep and soul-wide pain out. Don't fear that others will be put off - this is the healing porch. Being magical, nobody will be disturbed by your truth here. Even when it's messy and loud.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 28, 2017, 02:03:13 PM
Wife2, I adore all of what you just said. I could use one of those really great hugs right now. I am not much for being overly loud but I could use a magical hug... and a shoulder to cry on for a while. It has been lonely crying by myself the last few nights.

My system is so overrun by grief and fear right now. Little me is yelling at me too and I don't know why. Would be good to have a person to let all that out to.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 28, 2017, 05:33:33 PM
El, I'm wrapping you in my chunky arms, squeeze as hard as you must, you won't choke or hurt me. Let Little El get in on this hug. I'll hold and rock you until you begin to feel the release of this fear. Little El needs an outlet, I suspect. She may need to shout. That's ok. We have tea standing by for soothing sore throats after yelling and sobbing.

We'll sit over here, where you can look over my shoulder at the garden. Cry, pound my back if that helps. Yell if Little El needs to. You and she are my whole priority right now. You don't need to say a word unless you want to. Feel the warmth, love and concern for you both. Know that I'm enveloping you with this love and caring. It's always there, but today, I'm wrapping you like one of the comfort blankets. You are loved because you are loveable. You are cherished because you are worthy of being cherished. I have hope and encouragement and comfort for Little El as well.

Life has not been fair or kind. Still, it's worth living. My life would be less had you not wandered into it. Because YOU are precious and gentle and kind and full of love as well. You are worthy of being loved and cherished and honored and respected. I am thankful to have the opportunity to let you know this.

Guests of the Healing Porch - this message is for all of you, not just our sweet little sister Elphanigh.

My arms are around you, my heart is open to you. Let this out, whatever it is. There is NOTHING you can say or do that will end my love and caring for you. I don't have to like everything you do to keep loving you just as much or more today than I did yesterday. You are a precious person. That pain you feel is real, is recognized. I validate it and ask if you are brave enough to hand it to me for a moment - just so you can rest from it for a bit. If it's too scary to leave it with me, I understand. Sometimes we feel vulnerable without it, it's so much a part of who we are. Still we are not pain. We were never designed to be in pain so long. So, if you are up to it, when you have received my hugs and loving kindness, leave some of that pain behind when you get up. Shed some of that fear, if shedding it will help.

You don't have to type a word. No response is expected. Just know that I am here for you. All of you. Allowing me to be here is your gift to me and it overwhelms me that you allow it.  :hug:

Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 28, 2017, 08:17:01 PM
Wife2, if I hadn't been sitting in a very public place when I read that I would have legitimately cried. Thank you dear sister for all of that. I have a couple hours between my split shift today.. thankfully because I got beyond nauseous like two or thre hours ago. Need to push through it.

Glad I won't hurt you when I squeeze you in the tight hug. Little Me, and adult me both need that so much right now. I know little El needs and outlet, she is screaming at me inwardly and has been for a few days. I am not sure why. However, I have never been one to physically shout unless in a crowd where thst is the acceptable thing. Little me never learned to be loud.. even when she wanted to be. I was the quiet kid outwardly.

Thank you for reminding me I am lovable and worthy of being cherished. That makes me tear up a little, along with knowing I have added value to your life in some way. You have certainly added to mine, Wife2.

Lots of hugs and maybe some words among the tears. Trying to cleanse my soul some, and maybe figure out why little El is struggling so much under all of the adult worries.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 29, 2017, 12:32:42 PM
Quote from: Elphanigh on September 28, 2017, 08:17:01 PM
However, I have never been one to physically shout unless in a crowd where thst is the acceptable thing. Little me never learned to be loud.. even when she wanted to be. I was the quiet kid outwardly.

This I understand all too well. It's why I enjoyed going to hockey games, or any professional sports arena - shouting is ENCOURAGED there. It was so cathartic to just go and be loud. All I had to do was make sure I didn't say 'Hurray, Opposing Team' and all would be welcomed as enthusiasm.

Thank you for the hugs, bear hugs and tight hugs. I'm a hugger, big time IRL. Being a 'peasant stock' built person means I can withstand quite a bit. A fact my son takes advantage of often.

Little El needs something and I wish I could help you identify it. I have ideas, but I'm no therapist. Just know that you and Little El are in my thoughts and welcome in my hugs. Some days, getting through them an hour at a time is asking a lot - so good on you for making it through yesterday. <big bear hug>
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 29, 2017, 02:09:17 PM
Thank you for understanding. I love sports games and big concerts for things like that as well. It is cathartic to be able to be loud.

I am a big hugger irl as well, although not built to withstand a whole lot. I can do more than I look like though. Tight bear hugs are the best sometimes.

Little El does... and I really wish I could figure it out. Not having my T any more is really difficult. I can go back to her but have to have a way to get there. It isn't a thing I have right now, or will anytime soon. Your ideas are welcome, because I am coming up short. I know you are a therapist, but you understand so ideas are always welcome. Whether or not I take them always depends.

Thanks, I made it through and got some good sleep. I feel better this morning, with just some left over cold symptoms. Maybe I can deal mor with the emotional ones today.

I will be on and off of the forum today until dinner shift, but I will be on the porch all day.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 29, 2017, 04:09:23 PM
I have spent my morning sitting on the porch coloring. I have this ocean themed coloring book, and a set of 50 different colored pencils. It gives a nice variety.

It is calming adult me, and little me at the same time. I know little El needs something else, but this is helping her some. If nothing else connecting me to her a little more strongly than I was.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on September 29, 2017, 05:22:40 PM
will be spending the rest of the day here, and tomorrow as well.  d's surgery is mon. morning, and i'll be going there sun. nite for 3 nites.  it'll be exhausting, and i need to rest up for it.  no better place than here.  love you all.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 29, 2017, 05:32:01 PM
Glad to be here resting with you. Let me know if you need tea, or snacks. I feel the need to wander around and be of some help to everyone today
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on September 29, 2017, 08:14:13 PM
I'm ready for a board game if anyone is up to joining me. I'd love some chamomile tea if that's being offered, thank you El  :hug:

Dialing back the intensity, ready to just be and try to remember the rules to this board game..... Any takers on backgammon?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on September 29, 2017, 08:33:34 PM
I will definitely bring chamomile  :hug: I make a great cup of tea. Also, will gladly in you for that broad game. I don't know the rules anymore though.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on September 30, 2017, 03:55:51 PM
Wife#2, I'm ready for some backgammon! And a magic potion to get rid of headaches  :)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on October 01, 2017, 06:01:31 PM
I'm going to come and sit out here, wrapped up in a blanket. I'm not feeling very well physically, though really it's nothing much. But nice to sit outdoors and maybe not be so alone. I've been drinking sage tea today, so I'll continue that out here too. It's a medicinal tea for me.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on October 01, 2017, 06:13:35 PM
I'll be here today. Wandering down by the shore, and later have a cup of chili-apple non-alcoholic cider. I'm feeling a little melancholic today
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: goblinchild on October 01, 2017, 08:26:51 PM
I find a spot on the healing porch facing the forest, with a blanket that banishes anxiety completely. I imagine the porch and forest are lit with late afternoon half-light. There are fairy lights hung on the porch and the warming glow of tiki lights in the lawn. I enjoy the coolness rising from the forest on the winds coming from the ocean.  From the forest, there is birdsong and grasshopper chirping mingling with the distant sound of crashing waves. The fireflies are just starting to float out from the trees and rise from the lawn.
My blanket smells strongly of minty Tibetan lavender. I have a large rustic mug that seems deep and endless with whatever drink takes my fancy. Aromatic steam curls up from it unceasingly. I feel comfortable, confidently at-ease and deeply rested. The seat I'm curled up in is cushy and there is catnip on the porch for wandering furry visitors.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on October 03, 2017, 01:24:57 PM
Welcome, Goblinchild. What a wonderful expression of the porch and the peace and healing it's meant to bring. I would love to enjoy your vision - to just breathe in the lavender, feel the timelessness of the ocean, feel the calm of the forest and the beauty of the fireflies. :: nods:: yes, this is the type of healing I envisioned when I thought of the healing porch.

Welcome and thank you for the beautiful description of your porch experience.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: EliseB on October 04, 2017, 05:28:57 PM
Thank you for this place of healing.  I like to think there might be a chance of real fairies out there in the trees, along with the fairy lights on the porch. I would like to come sit here with a cup of hot tea and a warm robe around me, facing the ocean and feeling the clean breeze wash over me. There will be no allergies and no headaches and no muscle tension. My cat will sit snuggling beneath my feet, while I listen to the waves.

I think I might shed a few tears while I watch the ocean, but it wouldn't last for long. I think my grandmother would join me at some point, and we'd sit together like we did so often during my childhood. She was an anchor of goodness for me back then, and I still think of her often even now, long after she passed on.  Then I would like the people I love in this world to join us, my family and friends. A board game would be nice, or maybe some singing like we used to do.  A bon fire after sunset sounds nice... watching the eternal fascination of the flames, and the smoke rising up towards the stars.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: hank on October 04, 2017, 06:10:00 PM
I am assuming that the porch is a wrap-around porch, so I will be missing the winter and looking up to the snow capped peaks hoping for a fresh snow, to dampen all the noise of the city. Wrapped up in fur and with my dog roaming the grounds, there ain't anything that will disturb me in such a setting. All the worries of the world stop at the edge of of the lands of healing.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on October 04, 2017, 10:57:59 PM
Welcome Hank! If you've been reading, then you know this place has all the magic you need to create your relaxing place on the healing porch. Yes, it does indeed wrap around. Some sections are screened in, others don't even have a roof. The porch is deep and wide, accommodating all who want to join us.

I am glad you remembered to bring your faithful pet. He reminds me of my own 50lb, 6 month old bull/collie mutt. He's claimed me as his human and he is precious to me, with those sad, loving eyes.

Enjoy the snow-capped mountains in the distance, and the warmth of the many healing blankets strewn around this porch. We're glad you're here.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: alliematt on October 05, 2017, 01:41:10 PM
I need a hammock with a healing blanket.  And chocolate.  And a long, restful sleep.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on October 05, 2017, 06:57:38 PM
There's definitely a hammock, alliematt, because I've been in it before! But it's free for you because you need it. There's even a tree that grows chocolate the way other trees have leaves. Have a good  :zzz: :zzz:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on October 05, 2017, 07:25:48 PM
I am doing to wander off into the forest and play with the foxes. I've had enough of demanding and prodding people for one week.  :disappear: :disappear:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 12, 2017, 03:03:39 AM
I am going to sit on the porch, on the steps over looking the side with water. Nice to be a bit mor grounded in that spot. I will be warmed by a blanket hugging me around my shoulders. This blanket is one of comfort and peace, tw things I am finding difficult today.

My cat Thalia is going to come snuggle next to me on her own blanket (she rarely lays anywhere that doesn't have one). Think when I am feeling better I might try playing music here, very quietly. The porch is magical so it won't be able to be heard if you don't have want to. Also its magic may help me to play with peace for once.

I am also going to make some good chamomile tea if anyone wants anything  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: plantsandworms on October 12, 2017, 03:24:42 AM
So glad to be here at the porch because I have been traveling for such a long time. It's night and it's warm and I am laying on a blanket in the grass nearby so I can look up at the stars. I plan to spend a long time identifying constellations and making up the ones I don't know until I fall asleep. I count the satellites as they ghost by.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: rbswan on October 12, 2017, 03:53:24 AM
I just found the porch and it made me cry.  Its just such a beautiful creation and feels true to my healing process.  I've been thinking of constructing a safe place in my mind for my inner child after all the grief work we have been doing.   Thank you, and everyone else, for building and adding to a perfect haven.  I'm in.  Right now my kid is sitting on soft pillows against the house wrapped in a blanket, feeling safe and looking at the ocean.  He's still very shy and careful but he will bring something special to the porch soon.   :hug:

Also, it sort of reminds me of my favorite childhood book, Andrew Henry's Meadow by Doris Burn (written in 1965).  It's a beautifully drawn story about a boy and his friends that leave their town and build their dream houses (tree house with wrap around porch, underground house, river house, circus house, etc.)  I read that book until it fell apart.  I would stare at the pages for hours at the homes that Andrew Henry built for those kids and wished so much that I could be one of them and have a house and real family of my own.  The ending is hopeful and happy and makes me morn for what I never got.  This has moved me more than anything I've found so far.  Thank you so much.  I needed this today.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on October 12, 2017, 04:28:39 AM
Quoting rbswan:  "He's still very shy and careful but he will bring something special to the porch soon."

Wonderfully said, to which I'll just suggest that you've already brought something special to the porch just by your presence. Thank you for being here.  :hug: 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: rbswan on October 12, 2017, 04:34:41 AM
 :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: M.R. on October 13, 2017, 03:45:38 AM
As I was going through the posts tonight I came across our porch and as I read posts of people bringing their own unique talents and gifts it made my eyes start to water. Not because I am sad, but because there is such hope here. I have not known hope. And I wish so much to be there on the porch staring out across our world seeing the beauty we have created. I wish to turn around and see all of you there with love and smiles and me being terrified not knowing what is going to happen, but at the same time knowing nothing bad will come of it. I don't have to speak. I don't have to interact. I can sit in silence wrapped in a warm blanket and just feel, just be, with dogs and cats and puppies and kitties all around me and a hand wrapped in warm fur knowing that I am surrounded by people that feel the same way. No silence I have to fill. No expectation I have to live up to. Thank you for giving me that space even if its just in my imagination.

By the way, I haven't read all the posts, I skipped because I wanted to make sure I wasn't too late to post. I will have to take time and read about our porch.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on October 13, 2017, 04:35:49 AM
Beautiful post, MelodieRose!
QuoteI wish to turn around and see all of you there with love and smiles and me being terrified not knowing what is going to happen, but at the same time knowing nothing bad will come of it. I don't have to speak. I don't have to interact. I can sit in silence wrapped in a warm blanket and just feel, just be, with dogs and cats and puppies and kitties all around me and a hand wrapped in warm fur knowing that I am surrounded by people that feel the same way. 

You've eloquently captured what I'd feels like for me here, too. Thank you.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: AphoticAtramentous on October 13, 2017, 06:41:45 AM
Sitting here on the porch wrapped up in a sleeping bag... I find them cosier than blankets, it's a shame they're only brought out for camping though.
It's the first time I've left work mid-shift, just suddenly started feeling sick so I'm just going to lie here and chill for a bit. No work, no thinking, just relaxing and resting... well, even if I tried to do something that involved thinking I wouldn't be able to, my cognitive ability has just gone  :thumbdown:
Hope everyone's day has been good so far.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on October 13, 2017, 12:14:41 PM
MelodieRose, what a beautiful description of all I wanted this porch to be.

Today, I'm taking some quiet time on the porch. I'm watching the waves lap up onto the beach, wrapped in a blanket of reflection and acceptance. It's my new blanket - one of those super-soft-like-butter ones. My puppy, the 50 pound, 100% love bull dog, is across my lap. My son, though he's really in school, is playing at the ocean side, smiling and running in the sun.

Your smiles, like my son's smiles, warm my heart and bring me comfort. Thank you.

Tomorrow, I may deal with many things. Tomorrow, I may do nothing. Today, I build my strength for what may come. Here, on this porch, I can build.

PS - whoever made the coffee, it's GREAT! Soothing and delicious. I really need this never-ending cup today.  :hug: to those who enjoy hugs.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on October 13, 2017, 12:54:42 PM
It's great to see so many new people on the porch and see, hear and sense all what you bring!

I'll be on the porch today too. I'm so indecisive that I'll possibly drive you all round the bend as I wander from one area to another, maybe sitting down and then suddenly jumping up to go somewhere else. Maybe I wll find what I really want and where I want to be.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: M.R. on October 13, 2017, 02:43:52 PM
As I layed in bed last night, trying to fall asleep, as you all know that doesn't come easy, I finished reading all of the posts that make up our porch. This was a brilliant idea that somehow encompasses all of our safe spaces into one.

But, as for me, I am in a time of my life where I think the porch will end up being my perminate space for a while. That is okay though, I think. Maybe it will bring me much needed calm.

So I come to the porch and to you all. I'll walk to a corner of the porch and sit with my back against the railing, unsure yet curious as I look out and watch all of you do what it is you do, getting your own much needed calm. I'll feel the warmth and softness of the blanket wrapped around me as well as the calm from the dog that followed me and played its head in my lap.

Melodie
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: I like vanilla on October 13, 2017, 03:44:22 PM
How BEAUTIFUL Wife#2 - THANK YOU!

I am so glad this posting came up on my feed.

I have just decided to visit the porch. I have cuddled up in a comfy chair with one of the blankets on the shady, forested side with my cat, some herbal tea, and my paints. And Oh! A lilac bush has just sprung up nearby! I can see the bees joyously visiting the flowers and smell the flowers' wonderful aroma wafting over me in the soft, warm breeze. Ahh...

Thank you!!!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on October 13, 2017, 04:09:49 PM
I'm in a hammock today, lazily swinging in the sunshine, the sweet scent of flowers wafting on a light breeze and the sound of the ocean in the background.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 13, 2017, 04:49:14 PM
I love this place so much. It is phenomenal to see everyone here.

Wife2, I am enjoying that same coffee, it is delicious. Welcome to all the new people on the porch as well. I am so glad to have everyone finding this peaceful place.

Today I am sitting in a chair in the porch, with coffee and a book. Enjoying a bit of sunshine without it being too warm
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on October 13, 2017, 08:00:30 PM
I wanted to write poetically of our talents blending into one amazing panorama of beauty, peace, welcome, acceptance, joy and hope.

Each of the residents of the porch - brief visitors or long-term residents alike - make this better than any one of us could alone.

While our friends are away, we tend their gardens, maintain their tree-houses, feed their livestock (yes, a working farm is part of the porch grounds). The magic of this place allows those who love gardenia to smell that flower in bloom all year around - or whatever is your preference. There is sand between toes only when that is what one wants.

Each of us who visit this place have made it so much more than any in the beginning could have imagined. That is your beauty and your gift to the rest of us. Thank you!
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: M.R. on October 13, 2017, 08:38:35 PM
When I wrote earlier that I am at the porch never did I dream how much I would need it today. I just got back home after being at urgent care. I am in the process of being taken off a medication and I have been having what I thought was side effects. It turns out to be what is called discontinuing syndrome. I might go in more detail with another post. I haven't decided yet. But I really need this place today. If you were still offering hugs wife#2, I could really use one. And a warm blanket, and maybe even a long nap.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on October 13, 2017, 09:18:30 PM
 :hug: just for you, MRose

My shoulder is waterproof, so if you want to shed a tear as you cope, feel welcome. Wafting from the house or garden is your favorite scent, that scent that always meant something good. The blankets all have magical powers to sooth, comfort, bring peace or whatever it is you need at the moment.

You don't have to say or type a word. We're here with you. We care about you. You are surrounded to the level you are comfortable with people who only want the best for you. Or, you can have that hug, and then have the porch to yourself as long as you need it. Whatever brings you the most comfort, friend.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on October 14, 2017, 03:46:07 AM
I've had a 'monkey mind' sort of day and need to head for the porch. I'll be shoreside, actually, where I intend to build a nice fire to warm my soul as the night cools. Then--nothing--maybe chop and split a few more logs, if needed, but then settling in for the peace I crave tonight.

Peace doesn't mean I won't welcome friends, as you all are. So if you want to, wander down, warm some tea or just enjoy the fire, and relax into the night, alone but with each other and a canopy of stars as the stillness washes over us.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on October 14, 2017, 04:10:08 AM
::wanders down to stare at the fire and breath in the night with Woodsgnome::
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 14, 2017, 01:22:37 PM
If that fire is still going, I will come a wander down next to it. Just going to sit and breathe in the air, with the warmth of the fire next to me.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: M.R. on October 14, 2017, 05:56:24 PM
Today I am in a better light and am able to enjoy the porch. While I am still sitting by myself just observing, I have brought my sewing kit. No need for a big noisy sewing machine here. :) And as I am sewing I am enjoying the warmth of the sun on my skin with a faint breeze that brings all the smells of the porch to me. The scent of our flowers, the smoke from the fire pit and of the ocean. I hear quite chatter from those of us here, the scurrying of animal feet as the play and the whistle of the tree leaves as the breeze passes through them. And as I register all of what is going on around me, I feeling of contentment settles. I have no idea what I'm making. I'm just letting my hands do what they may.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on October 15, 2017, 09:45:13 AM
Sounds lovely MelodieRose, what are you sewing?

I'm feeling pretty empty and in need of some love and comfort today. So I'm wrapping myself up in a big blanket for security, and just stare out towards the colourful autumn landscape.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: rbswan on October 15, 2017, 07:02:32 PM
I need the healing porch today.  In the midst of some identification earlier, I'm "feeling" my story again in that unnamable ball of emotion in my chest and stomach.  My very young, innocent inner child is very anxious and scared.  Hot cocoa and wrapped in a blanket near the back of the porch on the sunny side.  Watching safe people have fun.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: M.R. on October 15, 2017, 08:43:53 PM
Sceal, I don't really know. The repetitiveness of the needle going back and forth through the cloth just helps me. I actually haven't made anything recently IRL, and I should get back to it. I've made pillows, shorts, pj pants, and quite a few costumes for when I was involved in my theatre department at my college. Mainly I just like the little projects of repairing something. (:

Melodie
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 16, 2017, 09:21:00 PM
Going to sit here tonight. I think for starters I am going to have a walk down by the water, it always has a calming affect on me. Right now I just need some inner peace and comfort
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 20, 2017, 01:50:17 AM
I am going to rest here tonight, with a view of the stars and moon above my head. It hasn't been a scary and triggering day with my dad in surgery (he came out okay). I think I will lay in my hammock, between my favorite tree, with a little place in the tree that holds my cup of tea. Then will just listen to the water, sounds of nature, and anyone else that happens to be on the porch tonight
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on October 20, 2017, 02:43:13 AM
I hope it's okay to add a little something to the porch? It'll be placed as unobtrusively as possible, but it might be of use to some who venture here for comfort and relaxation.

I've built a little "treasure box", if it needs a name. It's just a little container for those who might want some tactile object or some soothing objects while they're here. I know there's already some items like these around the porch, but there's something intriguing about pulling some things out of a special place.

So in it there'll be some items like crayons and colouring books, painting supplies, little notebooks to write in, some puppets or teddy bears to play with, treats for pets, tea supplies, candles, incense, other simple items. Maybe some musical instruments even.

Did I say "treasure box"? Maybe "Magic Box/Imagination allowed" works better, as the box's contents will hopefully allow the rational mind to take a rest, and the porch's visitors will find only and exactly what they need in the box...the wonder and magic will do the rest. And finally, the creativity that many of us were denied or had to hide will find the freedom of expression as our true selves emerge.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on October 20, 2017, 05:13:22 AM
What a great idea! Thanks Woodsgnome  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 20, 2017, 02:20:21 PM
I love that idea! Thank you woodsgnome  :cheer:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Kizzie on October 20, 2017, 03:09:23 PM
I'd like to add some Lego  :yes:   My son and I used to build our own versions of things like country fairs with rides, car washes, neighbourhoods, etc., and we had so much fun.  I know it was younger me there just having a good time with my son, relaxing and being creative  :)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 22, 2017, 04:08:08 AM
Going to be hear tonight with anyone that is around. I would like to not bw comepletely alone, but still in a calm setting. Not a lot of talk, just someone I can know is near by.

Think I will sit on the porch with a wsrm blanket of comfort, and security. With my dog Milo, from my families home at my feet. Oh, and some nice chamomile tea with honey.

I love thay this place exists. Even just writing this out can help calm the fragments of an ef that I am fighting
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on October 22, 2017, 04:50:27 AM
::sits beside you with two mugs of tea::

I could use some company, too. Quiet is fine with me. ;)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 22, 2017, 05:49:24 AM
Thank you. I greatly appreciate your company, and the tea. It doesn't have to be silent I promise, just calm. Need a place of peace and comfort. I am glad you are sitting with me tonight.  :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on October 22, 2017, 10:47:30 AM
Quote from: woodsgnome on October 20, 2017, 02:43:13 AM
I've built a little "treasure box", if it needs a name. It's just a little container for those who might want some tactile object or some soothing objects while they're here. ....

So in it there'll be some items like crayons and colouring books, painting supplies, little notebooks to write in, some puppets or teddy bears to play with, treats for pets, tea supplies, candles, incense, other simple items. Maybe some musical instruments even.

It's a brilliant idea, woodsgnome. I used to have one on paper, called Trauma First Aid Kit but I lost it. Now I have a Life Basket (like Life Jacket / Life Ring). It's a real little basket I made with symbols for everything that can be helpful for me during EFs. Using the senses is a big part of that, for me especially nice smells and tactile. It's good to have everything in one space.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 25, 2017, 04:19:00 AM
Sitting here tonight, in a blanket of comfort and safety. I am struggling tonight, and am glad to have the porch to go to. I haven't slept well, so if I dose off I know I will be safe here. Surrounded, even at a distance, by the people that inhabit the porch with me. If I do sleep here, just watch over me a bit if anyone is here tonight. This is a magical place, but I know my feelings of hyper vigilance will take time. It is good to know someone is probably around tonight.

Anyways, there is a warm blanket and comfy porch chair calling my name tonight. I may not be lively company tonight, but if anyone needs me I will be there
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on October 25, 2017, 04:26:14 AM
I'm around too, my dog Ben and I will be watchful.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 25, 2017, 04:44:00 AM
Thank you. I am glad to have you and Ben around tonight. I know it sounds silly but it eases my mind
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on October 25, 2017, 05:17:09 AM
Doesn't sound silly at all ;)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 25, 2017, 01:48:06 PM
Glad it didn't sound silly. It helped me get to sleep   :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on October 26, 2017, 08:19:59 AM
I need this porch today. Not sure what I'll do here.. but I just need a safe place
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Kat on October 26, 2017, 09:43:13 PM
I haven't been here in quite a while.  I need it today.  I'd like to just curl up under a blanket and doze for a bit.  A cup of tea would be nice, too. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 26, 2017, 09:53:51 PM
I make excellent tea, whichever kind you would like.  :hug: I will be here to supply tea and company to anyone that needs it tonight.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on October 28, 2017, 07:29:55 AM
Some tea sounds lovely, spicy one for me please. No sugar or milk!  :bigwink:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 29, 2017, 03:40:54 PM
I have a lovely spiced chai irl that you would enjoy. I will make some on the porch for you  :)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on October 30, 2017, 07:20:12 PM
I've just dropped by to see what you've all been doing the last while.  I think I should spend some more time here.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on October 31, 2017, 09:21:57 PM
i'm here the rest of the day, just to nap, rest, relax.  thinking of carving a pumpkin to place on the railing tonight.  just a bit of fun for halloween.  so good to be with everyone here.  twirling my skirts for a minute and spreading love around.  that feels good.  big exhale.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on October 31, 2017, 10:31:06 PM
Dropping by to say hello. I used part of this porch in an imagery today, where all versions of me could feel safe.

San, I will carve a pumpkin too and drink some warm tea for a bit of Halloween.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on November 01, 2017, 01:12:16 AM
yay!  jack o lanterns on the porch tonite.  how very cool.   my very favorite costume that i ever wore was - i covered myself in a pink sheet and taped a flip flop to the top.  know what i was?  a piece of bubble gum stuck to the bottom of someone's shoe.  giggle giggle giggle. 
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 01, 2017, 01:23:16 AM
Haha I love that San  :) perfect costume. My mom made a princess jasmine costume for me one year. It was my favorite because I always thought she was so strong and feirce. A princess I could actually get behind
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Combine59 on November 01, 2017, 01:30:22 AM
I'd like to join in the porch fun too. As a kids I vacationed in Maine at an old house that looked like a haunted house with a big wrap around porch. We got up early, went to check out the tidal pools down the road and came back with blueberries picked on the side of the road to make blueberry pancakes. After breakfast with all the cousins everyone rode their bikes and tricycles around the house. Thanks for helping me remember a good point from childhood 🙂
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on November 03, 2017, 03:06:59 PM
hey, combine, welcome to the porch.

i'm gonna be here for a bit, healing.  i need to relax from trying to rush myself into being better.  it's only been a week, for crying out loud.  i'm expecting myself to be all ok already.

i will sit in my rocker, a blanket of healing wrapped around me, flowers next to me, maybe a necklace made of some, a daisy chain perhaps.  lemon tea, lemonade as the spirit moves me.  being with you all, enjoying you and your energy.  it's all healing here, and magic.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 07, 2017, 07:58:00 PM
Therapy kicked my tail irl today...

I am going to be here for a while today, probably with my nose in a book. I welcome company though, I just need a peaceful place to rest after such an intense session. You all are such a safe, warm group to spend my time with. Thank you for that.

If anyone wants tea, or coffee (that magically doesn't make you jittery) let me know. I am making some for myself, and would love to help others with that.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on November 07, 2017, 08:08:11 PM
Hey Elphanigh, therapy kicked my butt today too. I'd happily join you on the porch. I want to be covered up in a warm blanket that magically takes away all my physical pain.  If you have any spiced apple-chili tea that would be great.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Wife#2 on November 07, 2017, 08:54:18 PM
Don't let me startle anyone. I've been around, quiet, listening. I have soaked up the love and caring of each other like a cactus in a spring shower.

All of you, even our new friends, have been in my heart and on my mind. I'm sorry that I'm not in a place to participate much, but I hope that is coming. Soon.

When you hear a whisper on a breeze, settle back in and be calm. It's just me saying, 'Thank you' to you for being you and for being here.

I'm on the Ocean side of the porch, listening to the waves crash against the sand. Their heartbeat rhythm soothing to my soul. The salt in the air helps me breathe and reconnect with Mother Earth. I'm enjoying a hammock with one hand draped over the side, fingers drawing nothing in the sand. My blanket is courage. My drink is wisdom. I will be here a while.

If I don't speak, please don't be offended. I'm deep inside my own head right now. My social butterfly wings have been soaked in tears and need time to dry. I will return. I also want to reassure each of you that you matter. You are precious to me and you are a delight to my soul. Thank you for your friendship.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 07, 2017, 09:01:47 PM
Sceal, I definitely have that type of tea for you. It is the perfect temperature to drink all the time. This place is truly magical

Wife#2, take the time for peace in that hammock. I am glad to know you are here, and understand if you  are unable to participate much. I am in much the same place recently. Just participating in tiny bits as I can. You are welcome, loved, adored, and cared for here. I am so glad to call you my friend.

The ocean side of the porch is my favorite as well, I hope it is giving you the peace you need. If I can do anything let me know, I don't have a lot to give right now but am happy to do what I can.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on November 07, 2017, 11:38:48 PM
I'm alone most of the time most days. That's nice, but the energy gets stale; at least lately that's been the case. It's also what I don't need right now; it just reinforces the lonely side.

So I'm off to the healing porch; I'm not seeking anyone's presence there, but I know the energy of all  who've visited there will be abundant, and that will be plenty for me. I want to absorb the love you leave for others sharing the journey.

I won't see you, but I'll leave this note as a thank you. Thanks for being here, whenever it was you came by; as I sense your strength, honesty and courage--it will be more than enough to get me through. And, always--I want to soak up the peace that you've generously left here for others.

Here--beside the note I'm leaving un unlit  candle--please light it if you need; and let its light glow as a token of friendship from someone who needed this place today. I am so grateful it is here. Maybe make a wish as you blow it out, and leave it for someone else who might need it, too.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on November 07, 2017, 11:48:31 PM
Just dropping by the healing porch. Sitting in a corner in front of a hot stove, watching the snow floating down. I'm wrapped up in a very warm blanket too, covering me from top to toe. It's important for me to stay grounded and keep re-grounding when I'm making progress. Otherwise I tend to trip myself up, do self-sabotaging. Coming on to the healing porch can remind me to re-ground.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 14, 2017, 05:03:11 PM
I need to sit in this place today. Just feeling a lot of grief and pain today. Wanted to stop by here before therapy today to find peace and a sense of calm.

I am going to sit over looking the water in a blanket of comfort and tranquility. Maybe even walk the shore a bit to get closer to the water, it has always been a home for me.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 15, 2017, 12:50:07 AM
Definitely hiding out here tonight. I need a safe space tonight. Today's session qas particularly difficult and have had to calm down two rather big triggers.

I am going to sit in a corner over looking everything, where it feels safe. A blanket of comfort and reassurance. Just nice and quiet with nothing else going on. I need complete calm
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 15, 2017, 03:54:26 PM
I have been using this space a lot this week. Today I will be here on and off, I work but I need a safe mental space to go to when that gets difficult today.

I am going to hang out on the porch with a cup of tea, and a good book. Sitting curled up in a rocking chair that over looks the water. I think this time of day it is possible to enjoy a bit of sunrise while it is left. Thank you all for making this such a safe place to go
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on November 16, 2017, 05:15:07 PM
Having written a long post on realisations about M and her treatment of me, I'd better come and sit here for a bit. Hm, I'll have a look in woodsgnome's box of healing tools or maybe no I have my own Life Basket with me. So I can take my little wooden animals in my fingers so that massages my fingers and gets them moving again. I have a little tiny bottle of perfume to smell and then there's the picture of people dancing around and making wild moves to music to remind me to listen to music and move to it, to get back into my body. And not dissociate. Takes break to get up and dance to music.  :cheer:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on November 17, 2017, 07:17:50 AM
I've been so tensed up the past two weeks I can't seem to shake the physical pain. So I'd like to get wrapped up in a healing blanket that takes away the pain, while drinking a HUGE cup hot chocolate with cream.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 17, 2017, 05:21:02 PM
Sceal, that is a great idea for a blanket. My body is in much the same shape, especially after twisting my knee and then working on it for 6 hours yesterday. Is there enough hot chocolate and cream to go around?
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on November 17, 2017, 10:01:20 PM
There are plenty of healing blankets. In various colours, textures and heavyness. I prefer them heavy, and woolen, and in rustic colours.  It sure sounds as if you could need a healing one, especially for that knee of yours.

And there is definitively enough hot chocolate with cream. It's magic cream, it's the kind of cream that doesn't make your belly go upset if you can't handle milk.  :hug:
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 18, 2017, 12:15:37 AM
That is perfect Sceal, thank you. My healing blankets tend to be heavy, but extremely soft. Not like a silky soft, but like those kind of furry blankets. If you know what a costco is they sell them there irl. Soft things are a great grounding texture for me. My knee has certainly needed it, I have had to keep it wrapped all day.

Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 18, 2017, 09:52:06 PM
Going to use this place for a small while. I need to pull some strength and peace from somewhere to get me through the next 6-7 hours.

I will sit on the steps over looking the water with a blanket of calm, encouragement, strength and some physical healing (my knee is still a large chunk of the issue)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Sceal on November 18, 2017, 10:05:22 PM
I am building a snow iglo. I'm going to hide in my snow iglo, lying on the ground looking up at the little opening at the top staring at the stars far, far above.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on November 19, 2017, 06:48:22 AM
i just need to be here for awhile where no one is going to sidle quietly into my room and startle the crapola out of me, then chuckle, like it's so funny that i jump and put my hand over my heart cuz it's beating triple time and takes a bit before it calms down.

too much tension.  i'm going for one of those healing blankets, too.  the softest pink color, medium weight - my back is killing me.  it's moved up to my shoulder blades in the past 2 months.  i need some relief.  i know i'll get it here.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: woodsgnome on November 20, 2017, 03:26:12 PM
This place is so inviting. I've come to be alone.

What an oddity--I'm always/already am lonely in the extreme; and I'm seeking more?

It's not, as some might imagine, purely out of habit. Turns out I need huge portions of solitude; notice it's not loneliness, but solitude that's the key.

I've no idea what that key opens, but it seems essential to hold on to it. Someday...maybe I'll find that it will unlock my heart from its box of pain.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on November 20, 2017, 04:59:30 PM
I think I should put part of my soul here while the rest of me prepares for a client and goes through the 45 minutes with client. So my Little Ones are all going onto teh Healing Porch where they'll find toys and where they'll find gentle, friendly dogs to pet, maybe they'll even approach some of the cats. Some of the bigger children might wander onto the shore or ask if they can go up into the tree house or see if the bonfire is burning to sit by. Or some of them might take one of the younger children they feel closest too and read them a story e.g.

The hurt part of my adult who is dealing with all this #$&# from FOO will wander around finding which part of the Porch is most calming and soothing, my Life Basket in hand to help. Maybe even find a safe person or two from here for a hug. Not suggesting that any of you aren't safe-safe, but in my hurt stage I really need to check each and every encounter to ensure that it's really safe in the moment and that I'm not overriding any of my own boundaries.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 20, 2017, 05:59:56 PM
Blueberry, this sounds like a very healing idea. I am here today if you need me. Although most of it is my littles residing here so I can get some work done today. Part of my soul needs this restful place, the other part has a paper to be writing
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Blueberry on November 20, 2017, 07:18:49 PM
Thank you Elphanigh  :hug: I got through my work quite well anyway, better than for same client last week.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 20, 2017, 07:47:49 PM
I am glad you got through your work pretty well  :hug: Hopefully, you can take some down time to rest as well today.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: goth_mike on November 21, 2017, 01:15:58 PM
I'll just sit here for a bit then take your puppies down to the beach and teach them to play fetch if that's OK...
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 21, 2017, 02:56:28 PM
That is always okay. My dog milo love playing fetch at the beach. He will play for hours if you let him
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 21, 2017, 09:47:45 PM
I am taking the strength and courage this place gives me into my session today. 

Thank you for creating such a source of good
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: sanmagic7 on November 22, 2017, 10:24:32 PM
into my cave for the rest of the day.  so cozy, so embracing.  i love it.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Hope66 on November 23, 2017, 08:23:12 PM
Good to see you here SanMagic - I popped by - the first time I've written anything in this lovely 'healing porch' and it feels good to be here.  I was panicky earlier, but I am feeling calmer now - and I will imagine being here - relaxing on this Porch for a while -  :hug: to you SanMagic, and I hope that your Thanksgiving has been ok today - I thought of you.

Hope  :)
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Elphanigh on November 24, 2017, 03:47:43 PM
Glad you both came and joined the porch.  :hug:

I am coming here to give my mind and body the much needed rest it deserves after working 26.5 hours in two days with no breaks in the shift.

I will go curl up in the favorite chair on the porch with a cup of my favorite black tea and a good book. Anyone is welcome to join me, and I am up for helping others if they need it here today. I just need a calm space to exist in.
Title: Re: The healing porch
Post by: Three Roses on November 27, 2017, 04:06:37 PM
Hi everyone!
:heythere:

Since this thread is now 21 (21!) pages long, I'm going to lock this and start a new one with Wife#2's permission.

See you there!! :D http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=8269.0