A continuation of Three Good Things a Day, which grew to 21 pages :D
Original thread can be found here http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=6252.0
Thank you, Blueberry!!!
Here aren't my three things today.
1. It is beautifully sunny and I get to enjoy it
2. I feel more like myself today
3. My cat has been amazing today
1. It's gorgeous outside. (It snowed over night.)
2. One scan I've been fighting for is finally scheduled for early January.
3. I get to visit with a friend today.
This is awesome. Thanks for keeping this going!
- I have new leads on therapy options, and am on a wait list for DBT.
- I was able to control my fight response before anyone got hurt.
- My cat loves me and tries to help me feel better; she is laying on my lap and licking my arm.
I'm enjoying reading all the things that brings you joy, guys.
@Elpha, sometimes the simple things can be beautiful, aren't they? I've never seem to appreciate weather as many people do so here. Maybe I should try it.
@MelodieRose. It's nice you get to have your scan. After waiting for so long, when you finally get it, it can be a pretty great feeling.
@Jazzy. I've been in fight mode once in my life before, and I relate to the satisfaction in being able to do something about it. That's great to hear.
My 3 good things :
1. I didn't have much on hand once today, just a water bottle and some books. So I used the books as pins to the water bottle as a bowling ball and a bottle as a character setting.
2. I've created a language with a few words that all include the word "Bloop". I made it to express frustrations without anyone knowing what I was saying, but it just expanded itself to be a lighthearted joke to confuse people with quirky sounding words.
3. I found a university that provides several free ebooks from their curriculum. . . including Systems thinking for a side project of mine. My nerdy heart is overjoyed.
1) I finally got out of bed
2) I'm listening to some music and I did get up and move to it a bit
3) I had some homemade soup left over from yesterday to warm up and finish, meaning I didn't have to cook anything else.
1. I got offered a new job!
2. I had a great meeting with my mentor which has really helped me to get a different (less personal) perspective on getting fired
3. I haven't drunk in 5 days
(4. It's sunny here for a change)
Great job on the offer!!!
1. I got to sleep, after days of not sleeping well.
2. I had a good two hour break
3. I am challenging my ef better than i would have previously
Awesome stuff everyone! Reading your posts encourages me to think more about the positive things that happened to me.
1) I was more assertive with my psychiatrist today, and got some important details straightened out. Among other things, he changed my diagnosis of bipolar disorder to CPTSD, which will go a long way to help me getting some good (the right type of) therapy.
2) I was given a peppermint mocha latte from the coffee shop near the pharmacy for free.
3) I got some much needed rest/deep sleep for the first time in a few days.
1) I finally got up and went out of the house.
2) I met a few people one by one and stopped to chat to all of them
3) The sun was shining
A few more:
4) I finally had my shower and washed my hair
5) I feel better, in fact I'm coming back out of my EF
6) I practised for choir, but I'll allow myself to decide tomorrow whether or not I'll go.
7) My new signature might help me make decisions based on what's good for me and not based on others' expectations.
Thank you for posting here Blueberry! I was staring at this last night, but it was a tough day and I didn't end up posting anything. Good job on breaking the silence! Yay for you! ;D
1) I relaxed today and do something more fun for a change.
2) I stayed in where it was warm.
3) Chocolate bar!
Thank you all for keeping this post going. When I started it, I was very faithful to posting in here, although now I don't post as much. It helped me see it in my daily life as I move through my day though.
1. I found out my s is having a girl, it will be my first niece. I find that I am truly excited to be an aunt
2. I have been able to enact some self care things when my migraine decided to be a full fledged one.
3. I am more able to control my tendency to over worry more than I used to. It has been notable in the last few days
Need this post today more than ever.
1. I did some excellent self care today
2.my anxiety level is almost normal
3. I have some wonderful friends and got reminded of that today
Three Good Things in past few days:
1) 3 days ago I went to a talk about how Christmas is celebrated in some of the countries from which refugees are presently coming.
2) I bothered to leave the house again in the evening to get there, even though it was snowing.
3) I saw a place advertised where I could possibly apply for some part time work.
1. I got too sick and feverish today to go to a Christmas party for the students where I study. I was happy to hear that my friends missed me, at least.
2. I remember making a joke by going up the stairs in slow motion recently. There was one stranger nearby and he was laughing at how slow I was — cheering me on when I go up— and getting surprised when I walked backwards. Heh.
3. I was able to voice my concerns to a therapist — something I have trouble because I believe my ideas aren't worth considering. Score!
Nice DR! That's some good stuff.
Some basic stuff for me today, but it's been rough going lately. It makes the little things much bigger.
1) I've gotten quite a bit of housework done. Yay for productivity, and cleaner environment - 2for1
2) I did a bit of basic grocery shopping. Huzzah for food.
3) I'm feeling a * of a lot better than I was a week ago. Although there's a way to go, I'm so thankful it only got that bad for a week.
1. I did my laundry
2. I am having smoked salmon for dinner.
3. I know where my daughter is and who she is with.
1. I enjoyed decorating a candle to give to a friend for Christmas.
2. Drinking lots of hot tea.
3. A friend from out of town phoned unexpectedly today and we had a good long chat.
1. The paperwork for the lease for next year is done and out of the way.
2. I have a therapy appointment tomorrow.
3...The weekend is over.
1, I made dinner.
2, I worked a full 8 hour shift.
3, I know where my daughter is.
I had an interview for a job, it felt like it went well
I am posting
I breathed through listening to what I had done while dis-associative without succumbing to an angry outburst of physically attacking myself
Yay Macandrui :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
1. I'm going to work.
2. I ate breakfast.
3. I did a sun salutation.
1) My cold is much, much better. That's almost miraculous because it usually takes me about a week to just stop feeling faintly feverish.
2) I went to choir practice, where I didn't sing much because of my throat but it was still worth it.
3) Last night after I was on here I did some colouring in.
1) I'm sitting in a very cold room (can't change that, I'm not at home) so I'm very happy that I've finished Mod work for the day, and can go somewhere warmer!
I should have been coming here for days, but haven't been able to. Today I can though
1. I feel more like myself than I have in weeks
2. I finally slept a full seven hours
3. Christmas shopping is done!
4. I am a very excited aunt to be
5. I have folded laundry
6. Self care has been my mission today and I have succeeded
7. I am actually looking forward to two holiday get togethers tonight
That was a lot of them but I felt like writing them all was productive today
1) Yesterday somebody phoned me and left a message that she needs me to do xy by tomorrow and I decided that I'm not doing it. I feel quite good mood-wise, not triggered or anything, and can envisage being able to do more or less everything I need to by Christmas Eve afternoon, including things I need to prepare for the 26th. But that's it. I can quickly collapse because of taking on too much. So "No!" Not doing it. :thumbup: for me.
1) I had mince (aka ground beef) for dinner. Very good quality, from the farm where I help.
2) I seem to be always welcome to go up to the farm and do some work. Of course, they're happy to have help, but it's not just that, I really am welcome as a person! They now also accept my limitations, without complaint or question. If you actually live there for a number of months or years, more flexibility and especially longer hours are expected. I can't give them that. Lots of seemingly easy work, like cooking a meal for 5 - 15 people, would trigger me so I refuse to do it. They accept that now and are grateful that I wash the dishes afterwards instead.
2a) I also know that if I stop working for them for a while, I can start again. Almost as if I'll always have a place there to help out, with really good quality food in payment.
3) Today I saw them at the farmer's market and two of them reiterated how helpful it was that I was there two days this past week helping with cheese 'care'. "We wouldn't have got through the week without you" As often, a bit self-deprecating, I said they would have, but they would have just gone to bed a bit later. They retorted that on Friday they went to bed at 9:30 pm (late enough for people who have to be up by 5AM, and then work 6 hours at the market) and if they'd had to do the cheese 'care', it would've been midnight! So I now accept their thanks and appreciation. :)
4) I keep getting up from my seat at the computer to move to music - helps me process! But it's good I'm allowing myself this.
1) I finally had a shower and hair wash.
2) last night, well no, this morning when i finally went to bed, I put rose-scented skin cream on my feet, whose skin was in sore need of it.
3) Yesterday I delivered a Christmas card to a friend's letter box and I had a feeling as if I was putting something in a Christmas stocking for somebody. Going up to her door in the dark and slipping it into her letter box.
4) She has an illuminated red Moravian star outside her door - it looked really pretty.
5) I got out of bed this morning and went to church.
6) I got replies to my posts on here from yesterday. I'm (almost) OK with not replying individually, though that would be polite, because I'm still too exhausted. Seeing and reading them did me good.
7) I found my wool socks!! I couldn't figure out where most of them had gone. Better to find them in the middle of the winter than at the end of it ;)
8 ) Also found a piece of gardening equipment which had been blown away and then covered in snow.
9) I've been posting on here for me, rather than Modding.
10 ) I did quite a few self-care things before even coming on the computer, like having breakfast, drinking tea, taking my meds, doing a little cleaning and tidying as well as laundry.
11) More realisations are coming about exhaustion when I'm working.
Hey, Blueberry, glad you're allowing to type more posts for yourself. Even long ones. You seem like you need more of a break these days, so I'm glad for you.
My 3 good things.
1. Went back to do some programming exercises I've been avoiding in the site codecademy as well as read a really exciting mystery book called "1Q84".
2. I have this habit of getting easily hurt by insults or direct critcism — even if its insults made for others online since it reminds me of some bad memories — so I practiced exposing myself to the dark places of the internet to desensitize myself to it. I've got to the point where I wasn't hurt at all by them.
3. I treated myself out for a cinnamon bun, some coffee, and several new books on different non fiction and fiction genres. Merry Christmas. Bwahahaha.
Quote from: DecimalRocket on December 26, 2017, 03:25:13 AM
Hey, Blueberry, glad you're allowing to type more posts for yourself. Even long ones. You seem like you need more of a break these days, so I'm glad for you.
Thank you. Yes, I do need a break. It's become obvious to me.
1) I'm not going to the retreat but I am getting most of the money back in the form of vouchers.
2) I had an urge to drink a particular type of herbal tea which helps centre you and strengthen your outer boundaries. So I did drink it. It's a bit on the bitter side but I enjoyed it and will have some more later. Yay for listening to inner voice! :cheer:
3) I made the decision to go to church this morning, it's only a one-minute walk, I also decided not to go to a church 5-minutes away where there is brilliant music always on Boxing Day. No, I went nice and close by. And listened to less strenuous music.
4) I enjoyed the carol singing and sang loudly whether or not I hit the right notes. The congregation is big enough for that not to matter. Again with the congregation being so big, I sang the chorus of one carol in English.
1) I cleaned the stairwell since it was my turn. Instead of using a mop and bucket, I used a cloth and bucket. Takes longer, but for some reason emotionally easier. It actually chased some of the exhaustion away.
2) I did some tidying in my apartment.
3) I listened to music and moved to it.
4) A friend invited me round for lunch and we had a nice chat too.
5) I went to a sung prayer service at church and left some of my emotional burdens there, at least it felt that way.
1) I wanted to go for a little walk and at the same time I didn't want to; I went anyway. It did me good.
2) A friend dropped by unexpectedly.
3) I did a bit of de-cluttering by taking 3 books to the Neighbourhood Book Exchange. (Every little bit helps).
1) I played keyboard and sang. That chased the ruminations away.
2) A friend is away today, I can go over and use her bathtub - and I will shortly. That's enjoyable self-care for me.
3) She was offered a couple of free tickets for an outside Christmassy lights event tomorrow and asked if I wanted to go along, which I do! Even if a bit of effort getting as far as the train station...
1) Last night when I couldn't sleep I remembered that I can put all that anger towards FOO in my bank vault and sink it in the lake. I had to do it several times, but then it worked!
2) First post of the New Year in 3 Good Things a Day.
1) I set FOO a boundary.
2) I talked to a couple of friends and told them about it.
3) I noticed after setting the boundary that I had a little more energy and impetus to do a little cleaning and tidying up, which I then did.
Good job here Blueberry!
You've done awesome continuing to post in this thread. It's really encouraging, and I appreciate it a lot.
I've had a rough day today, I wrote a story about it in the other forum. I really don't have anything good to say, except the basics... but honestly, that's a lot to me right now.
1) I'm alive, and not completely insane at the moment.
2) I'm fairly warm, and in less physical pain than I have been the last couple weeks.
3) I have my cats with me. They're also warm, safe, and well fed.
~_^ I've actually had worse days.
Thank you Blueberry. Keep up the good work! :cheer:
Quote from: Jazzy on January 07, 2018, 10:34:53 AM
I really don't have anything good to say, except the basics... but honestly, that's a lot to me right now.
Exactly. Basics are very important. I used to keep a Diary of Daily Joys, I did that for several years. These Diaries are full of the basics as well as 'small' stuff: the sun came out for 5 minutes; my pets are happy; I saw the first first spring flower...
Quote from: Jazzy on January 07, 2018, 10:34:53 AM
1) I'm alive, and not completely insane at the moment.
2) I'm fairly warm, and in less physical pain than I have been the last couple weeks.
3) I have my cats with me. They're also warm, safe, and well fed.
:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
Thank you for keeping this alive. I am determined to post here more often.
1. I decided to become a moderator, and have been switch over. I am excited to be able to do this
2. I saw a good friend today
3. I have scheduled social things for this week but no more than I can handle
QuoteI decided to become a moderator, and have been switch over.
:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
Thanks Three Roses! I love the cheers, great encouragement :cheer: :hug:
Things for the day
1. I get to spend my evening with a friend
2. Have done some moderating today, feeling better after having read the guidelines like five times
3. My kitten is finally getting along with my other cat
Good stuff you two! :)
1) I got some decent rest today. It's helped my mood and mindset considerably.
2) I did some laundry. Huzzah for clean clothes!
3) My sister contacted me today, which is an uncommon pleasantry.
1) I have a new client.
2) Working with her is easy.
3) Concrete signs that my self-consciousness is down. :cheer:
That is such a great list Blueberry :cheer:
1. I have today off work
2. I have completed 10 days of yoga in a row
3. My injured shoulder is starting to heal
I am trying to be more true to this thread again, like when I first started it. So here are today's
1. I have a job interview om Tuesday for a small second part time job.
2. I finally get to buy groceries today
3. I am remembering my healing goals
1) Somebody from LETS came by and did some cleaning for me
2) The fact that she was coming helped me do some tidying before hand and while she was cleaning.
3) I finally put the mattress cover back on my bed and changed all my bedding. I'll finally be sleeping in a normally made bed instead of in a sort of rat's nest.
4) Yesterday I recontacted somebody who had been interested in work (mine) but isn't anymore due to changed circumstances. I'm not devastated; not thrown into an EF. I'll get on with contacting a company about some totally different brand of work. :cheer:
Car wouldn't start, and probably won't try again 'til next Wednesday/Thursday.
But...
1. Heard (phone call) from someone who 'gets me', can relate to aspects of my life better than most, values my expertise in a certain area, and mostly values me for being me.
2. Was able to contribute some 'vibes' via internet to others.
3. Found a pair of winter boots I'd needed for about 3 months.
Bonus...the cold symptoms that seemed imminent subsided to where I can function alright again; plus I found my scarf/balaclava wrap to survive the 600 ft. snowy round trip to the mailbox in wind chill blasts of -40F. Plus I got enough food in last week to make it through this icy round.
Three things today :cheer:
1. It snowed, I adore it
2. My brunch date canceled because of said snow but I am going anyways because I adore brunch and shouldn't have to not get it just because I am single (said date was a friend not a suitor, if we can call them that)
3. I set boundaries with my mildly toxic boss so I am not working extra for him today
Quote from: Elphanigh on January 14, 2018, 03:17:16 PM
2. My brunch date canceled because of said snow but I am going anyways because I adore brunch and shouldn't have to not get it just because I am single (said date was a friend not a suitor, if we can call them that)
3. I set boundaries with my mildly toxic boss so I am not working extra for him today
Way to go with self-importance (in a really, really positive way - you alone are enough to go for brunch!) and setting boundaries! :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
Thanks Blueberry! Seeing the :cheer: really made that feel more important and good than I had given it credit for.
A few good things while OOTS was down:
1) I discovered I could write in my paper diary without even SH (not that I was aware of anyway)
2) Writing in my diary did help me immediately - I was able to go to sleep right after
3) I started rereading my old Joy diaries (which are a lot like our 3 Good Things a day thread here)
4) It was my birthday. I had intended to do a particular activity but ended up staying in bed processing. The time was right for processing and I decided that was most important. Mostly took place in dreams, not even nightmares, felt pain-free. Had a good activity in the afternoon though. Felt that was enough. Day felt whole, complete. :cheer:
Another few from today or last few days:
1) Today, I finally washed my hair and had a shower. I feel better because of it.
2) Working out some of my holiday plans since i need to get dates sorted for some clients
3) My final client did come today.
4) The other day I put some rose oil in my stone diffuser next to my bed - it smelt really good
5) later when I went for a walk I had a real live memory of the scent in my nose (!) even though none of the oil was anywhere on me
1) I'm consciously making an effort to write this
2) The sun came out this afternoon and it was quite warm
3) Cycling outside town
4) Looking at a present a friend sent me. I haven't even opened it yet because it's so pretty to look at in its wrapped up form with turquoise paper and gold ribbons
5) I took on another very small piece of contract work today
Thanks for keeping this thread alive, Blueberry! It's so important!
1) I woke up in an unusually good mood
2) I participated in group (without running out of the room in EF's, visual flashbacks, or general shame!)
3) I noticed and acknowledged my own progress
4) I let mom's negative side remarks go and avoided engaging in it, and validated her when it was actually needed
5) Ate a big burger without shame or regret
6) Sent a difficult text-message. Which was quite fruitful
7) I created a DBT skill cheat-sheet in my native language. I intend to give it to the group, if they are interessted.
1) OOTS is back up and running properly :cheer:
2) I bothered myself to go to church this evening and I really enjoyed singing the hymns
3) I washed a big stack of dishes, which always helps me keep on keeping going.
4) I finally showered and washed my hair and am now feeling much cleaner
5) I noticed a big difference to my self-confidence and general good feeling when I was wearing a clean and polished pair of boots this evening as opposed to earlier in the day a pair that is in desperate need of being polished.
1. Our forum is back
2. Spring is closer
3. Healing is possible
1) I spent a couple of hours doing something creative but that is also work-related. It was fun, also a challenge, and interesting. It doesn't matter that it's unlikely I'll ever earn any money off it.
2) I allowed myself to sleep most of the afternoon because I needed that.
3) I had some fruit.
1) I did some work with a client this evening and it did me good
2) Afterwards I bothered myself to go to a group meet I sometimes go to. There is always a simple meal of some sort - tomato/herb soup today. There was some left which they re-heated for me.
3) Simple, healthy, warm food that I'm otherwise having difficulty getting myself to eat atm.
4) I'm promising myself to close down now, put some music on and move a bit. And then see what I have an impulse to do, that is to say which of a number of tasks I need to do. ;) Even want to, deep down, to get them accomplished and over with.
1) I sent three FOO emails :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
2) They were all succinct, to the point and non-JADEing!
3) The sun is shining and I'm about to shut PC down and go and enjoy a bit of it.
Wonderful stuff, Blueberry!
1) Had a great time in therapy today
2) walked over 10 000 steps (my daily goal for now is 5000, slowly getting used to the habit)
3) I studied
4) I am going to do some dungeons and dragons soon!
Great things everyone! Here are mine
1. Everyone keeps this thread alive while I am not on it. Warms my heart to see it alive
2. I have finally eaten three proper meals in a row
3. I finally feel like I am out of my EF from Sunday.
Sceal, I love Dungeons and Dragons! Have been watching Critical Role a lot today
Quote from: Elphanigh on February 06, 2018, 07:32:48 PM
1. Everyone keeps this thread alive while I am not on it. Warms my heart to see it alive
I'm glad to help keep it alive because it's a great tool! :yes:
Today so far:
1) I've started
accepting that atm I like working and doing all sorts of stuff in the late evening, which means I end up going to bed at all hours and am tired the next morning. But don't seem able to change. So accept it.
2) A client cancelled, which means I have more time to continue working on my backlog of admin work.
Great things, Blueberry :hug:
1. I woke up early today, and feel like i have actually slept
2. The snow out my window looked beautiful this morning
3. I am looking forward to a few full days at work
Quote from: Elphanigh on February 06, 2018, 07:33:30 PM
Sceal, I love Dungeons and Dragons! Have been watching Critical Role a lot today
Me too! I've only recently become aware of critical role!
1) Today I got notified that I got a spot in a particular professional development seminar I really, really want to do! (I was on the waiting list)
2) I lay in bed most of the day to re-group
3) I did some volunteer work in the evening and I'm glad I got my act together and went because it was fun and did me good
1) I got out of bed reasonably early, even though I've potentially got quite a lot on today, which often leads me to give up and stay in bed.
2) I had a healthy breakfast and took my meds.
3) I phoned my godson for a chat.
1) I felt a physical need to go for a walk and I acted on it :cheer:
2) I managed to find a few rays of sun on my walk
3) Bit by bit I'm finding solutions for all the individual problems in the contract work I'm doing.
I haven't written here in a long while, but I am always thinking of it.
1) I am being kinder to myself today
2) have an early day off work!
3) the sunshine is gorgeous today
- got compliments on my new super short haircut
- read informative book on watercolors
- remembered to buy my lunch when i forgot mine at home
been a long day so i thought taking a minute to look at some good things would help me out :)
1) Just deleted 176 emails
2) Did some cleaning this morning that I had been putting off
3) Figured out what was wrong with my printer and got it going again. While I was about it realised why loudspeaker on my computer stopped functioning a while ago and got it going again too.
it's only 9AM and I just started my shift but :cheer:
1) even though I never drink it, I had some coffee this morning and feel GREAT!?
2) did some drawings before work!! :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
3) got to enjoy an hour of sunshine before the clouds took over :cheer: :sunny: ;D
Sounds great tea!
1) I'm sitting up straight which is a sign I'm feeling more in control of my life and which helps me to continue to feeling this way
2) Having a long nap in the afternoon got rid of neck-ache. :blink:, :Idunno: but I'm happy.
3) It's OK to just have 2 things.
1) I'm sitting up straighter atm too which means same as above
2) I've got lots of energy and lots of creative ideas for one particular problem today
3) My feet feel lots better today
1) I got my piece of contract work done
2) I put some music on and moved around to it i.e. let my body move the way it wanted to
3) Amalgamated some garbages and put them out for collection - always feels good :)
4) Drinking juice/water mix cuz really need to stock up again on liquid
1) I'm wearing perfume today, well since the afternoon, and I'm enjoying its scent
2) Noticing lots of emotional progress today which I posted about on other threads
3) I was out in the garden today poking about and seeing what's growing - snowdrops mostly - but there are some signs of spring on my currant bushes too and some of the edible weeds are sprouting already
1) The sun is shining, on and off.
2) I got help from another colleague on something I was stuck on.
3) I got out of bed early without any problem.
Hi Blue! :wave:
1) The thread Trumped out was sad, so I cheered myself up by reading Donald Trump x Kim Jung Un romance fanfiction. Also Donald Trump x Shrek fanfiction. Hahaha.
2) I found a calculator shortcut that inputs an x value without repeating the value over and over. . . I'm a genius. This baby is the latest scientific calculator available here. :whistling: I bring it everywhere with me.
3) I managed to make some progress with my occupational therapist with my Sensory Processing Disorder. I was deeply motivated by recovery. . . also I have a crush on her, so . . . very motivated.
Hi DR :wave: Glad I'm not the only one on here. I don't really understand math but could imagine finding a calculator shortcut would be cool if you're a math person
1) I got out of bed today eventually
2) Before I did I suddenly caught the rose scent off my stone diffuser
3) Yesterday when I delivered some work, I got on my bike instead of the bus. Cycling's a bit more effort but it was good to get outside in the fresh air and take a bit of exercise.
4) I considered going to a store and buying myself a whole bunch of sweet stuff. But I didn't do so. Came straight back home and went into the remains of Sat. eve church service.
Things have been rough, so I will try to post here more often.
1. I am back to moderating today, finally feel up to it
2. It is raining out, which I adore
3. I finally have a full day off work, without any major triggers!
1) I went to a Games Evening, which was mostly board games. It was fun. Did some games I know and some I didn't. Finally got to try one of my own out that nobody has ever wanted to play with me before ( a bit like Trivial Pursuit).
2) Got talking to one of the other women who quite often goes. She suggested we meet up together some time privately and play games. Seeing as I'm sorting out my feelings in friendships atm, this is good. It's easier to speak up for myself when I'm not frightened somebody'll tell me where to go if I do and then I'll have no friends left.
3) Feeling better able to let things go, especially objects. I'm a bit of a hoarder, so this is good!!
It is only 9:30a.m. today but feel like I can already post.
1. I am currently sitting at the grand opening of a new coffee shop by my house, social interaction but also went by myself!
2. They make a wonderful dirty chai, and lemon poppyseed scone
3. I have already spoken to two friends this morning
1) Went for a cycle in the lovely sunny weather - enjoyed seeing blue sky, remains of snow, green coming back in the fields...
2) Bought some clothes at a 2nd hand store I like which is closing down including getting a really good deal on a raincoat, which I need!
3) The items I was trying to sell there - I left them there to be given to charity instead of taking them back home, except one thing which still fits
4) Been sorting through other things today to get ready to give to charity. It feels good.
1. I remember during finals recently, I messed with the absentee and tardy list on the board. I wrote hope and your dreams in the absentee list, and your will to go on in tardy. People laughed themselves off at that one. Now my inner critic can't tell me I make too many bad dark overlord jokes. I make bad jokes about other things too!
2. I'm grateful for the basic needs in life. Food, water, shelter, love, and a fast wifi connection.
3. I remember having to write a story in therapy to show how I organize my thoughts. I wrote a story about a tribal village where everyone is half animal in some way, and foreigners have come to promise that to make them all one species for equality as social commentary. Inspired by that My Little Pony episode where Starlight Glimmer took everyone's talents away so everypony can be equal.
Yes, I have learned much wisdom from magical-talking-princess ponies in my life time.
1) I didn't read all the new / updated posts!
I was in crisis mode night before last and had to call a help line, a local health/human resources representative, and my therapist. Sounds not so good...true enough, but here's the 3 good things:
None of them uttered anything like the useless line of "just get over it" :blahblahblah:
The last thing someone having a hard enough time needs to hear is the often used cliches that are more dismissive than helpful for someone needing real help. I'm still recovering from a rough night but at least I feel safer knowing I'd experienced a skilled trio of helpers who truly earned the title of care-givers, all 3 of them. :applause: :applause: :applause:
Wow woodsgnome! None of them said that dreaded sentence! :woohoo:
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1) I was able to watch a calf being born at the farm today. I've never seen a person or animal being born before
2) I feel as if all sorts of progress is happening in me - suddenly new ideas and possibilities are opening up
3) There were a lot of good vibes on the farm today - long before the calf was born. Not that there are usually bad vibes, but today somehow exceptionally good ones
For past couple of days:
1) Rousing Easter hymns are replaying themselves in my head
2) I sang with the choir this evening
3) Nobody, especially not our director, asked why I'd missed the last two rehearsals - they just accepted I was back and/or welcomed me with open arms (e.g director)
4) I finally did a load of laundry yesterday and hung it up
5) Did a load of dishes today
6) Points 4 + 5 mean things are flowing again
7) I'm allowing myself to skip reading all posts this evening (mods don't have to read them all anyway, but I sometimes do kind of hypnotically).
8 ) Singing! Singing with the choir minus self-conscious feelings, belting it out whether correct or incorrect. :D
1) I did some gardening today, especially de-mossing
2) Those edible spring weeds are up and I've started snacking on them. :)
3) I did some cleaning. I just started with a wet cloth in one little spot and then kept finding new little spots to clean. Lots of dust bunnies in my apartment. Now a lot fewer though ;)
Nice going, blueberry! Thank you for keeping the thread alive. It's a good reminder to look for the small things.
Last couple of days:
1)Did alot of laundry
2. started drawing my dad's birthday present
3) been to the gym twice in 3 days
1) I had a good night's sleep
2) Some window sill gardening
3) Made a healthy meal for myself (including some garden produce!), did some tidying in the kitchen and washed a load of dishes. (I always feel a bit better in my apartment when the dishes are done.)
Wow looking back to yesterday! One very similar entry as for today. Didn't realise till seeing it here.
1) I had a big colourful salad today whose basic leafy ingredient was a nice, mild-tasting garden weed, freshly picked.
2) Finally had a shower and a hair wash.
3) Looking at the flowers in the garden, including my squash plant.
I had the good fortune to attend a 'healing memories' workshop at a retreat center (ironic in that I live in my private retreat center in the woods). Anyway, the good things:
1) chance to discover an amazingly beautiful place I hadn't visited before, even though not terribly distant from my home.
2) was able to attend via a scholarship.
3) like this site and forum, it was valuable to meet and share with others (10 participants, including facilitators) all of whom have traveled their own hellish paths and are still here to tell the tale (and release if possible) while desperately clinging to something vaguely resembling hope. As many reading this can appreciate, it's extremely rare to find others who'd understand half of what this journey is like.
1) Finished an artwork for dad's birthday and gave it to him
2) Focused on the therapy session today
3) Didn't make too much dinner, so I avoided feeling guilty about not eating it all up, or eating too much. Loads of veggies too.
1) Being in garden seeing all the new flowers blooming and picking weeds to eat
2) Eating large bowl of weeds for lunch
3) Sowing a bunch of new seeds in mini greenhouse and mini-makeshift greenhouses in kitchen.
1) It didn't rain even though it was forecast. I appreciated cycling without rain.
2) A client agreed on my price and conditions for another piece of contract work.
3) I got in from the farm very tired this evening, and after falling asleep at the table, i allowed myself to go to bed though only 7pm
1) It's sunny.
2) I did two loads of laundry and hung them outside. I enjoyed standing in the sun hanging up laundry.
3) I'm trying out a little part-time job on Thursday. I didn't even have to write a formal application.
1. It's sunny again
2. My 2 loads of laundry on the line since yesterday will be dry.
3. I asked for and got a reprieve on my contract job.
4. I'm feeling a little less foggy in head.
1) I got help and understanding coming out of a "fading out" + visual flashback
2) I was welcomed with enthusiasm, smiles and demanding of hugs by two twin babies
3) Joined the first BBQ party of the year. Despite lacking of sun!
1) this forum
2) allowing myself to spend time here
3) I finally had a glass of water
1) Got up much earlier than past few days (not very early, but still an improvement)
2) Phoned a friend for a chat
3) Ate a bunch of weeds in garden, spent time in the sun, enjoyed seeing all the colourful flowers.
Haven't posted here in a while, but I do come to read it quite often. I love all of your good things, here are mine
1. I am finally trying grocery delivery. It is a perk of living in a big city, basically like getting pizza delivered but better. I am sick at home so this is a huge act of self care, taking a step to ensure I get to stay home and rest but get food for myself.
2. I find myself accepting that self care is important every day
3. The weather here has finally turned into spring. I make a point to get some sunshine every day
Quote from: Elphanigh on April 29, 2018, 04:35:34 PM
1. I am finally trying grocery delivery. .. I am sick at home so this is a huge act of self care, taking a step to ensure I get to stay home and rest but get food for myself.
2. I find myself accepting that self care is important every day
:cheer: :cheer: :cheer: Great self-care! I hope you get better soon. :hug:
Thanks Blueberry! I was able to cook a healthy dinner so that is a huge plus . More myself I guess :cheer:
1) I had a fun time this morning with a friend and her children
2) Walking to the train station in the sun and seeing all the flowers blooming, the trees green etc.
Just this evening:
3) I washed a pile of dishes and cleaned up a bit in the kitchen
4) I listened to, swayed to and even sang with a bit of music
5) I'm meant to be helping out somewhere tonight but apart from taking the time for 3) and 4), I also took time to hang up wet laundry and now posting this here. It's self-care.
Those are all wonderful Blueberry, great self care!
Here are mine for this morning
1. I am home taking another self care day (even if slightly forced on me it is good)
2. Being sick has meant I got to catch up on movies I have missed but wanted to see
3. I was able to listen to my emotions about some bad new I got without being overwhelmed by them
All before noon today :cheer:
1. My job interview went well!!
2. I am up for two jobs that are majorly better than mt current
3. I have an apartment we can fill papers out for this week!!
4. It is gorgeous outside
Not even 11:30am today!! :cheer:
1. I get to start wearing my spring/summer dresses again! I didn't used to like being girly but I have come to accept that part of me. Dresses are my favorite and I shouldn't have to deny that. So wearing a pretty emerald green out today!
2. On that note the weather is beautiful
3. Doing hopefully the last apartment tour for this year today. I don't expect this will be what we pick but it is good to have options
Past two posts sound brilliant Elpha :cheer:
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1) It's lovely weather
2) I'm back from my healing retreat with energy and motivation for getting things done, including laundry and hanging outside.
3) Tried on and sorted out a huge pile of clothing. Most of it will be going to 1 or 2 charity places.
4) Decided not to try and contact new employers today (hard to get hold of Mondays) but wait till Tues. meaning I wouldn't be working till Wed. This means less stress today and more time for letting me see where my energy/motivation lead me. You're recommended to take at least one day off after healing retreat. So I'm doing this. Won't be MOdding on here either till later today. A break is a break.
Sounds so good Blueberry! Glad you are back :cheer:
1. I got up and went to yoga this morning. Means I get to feel refreshed and energized. I was the only one there which meant some really good one on one time.
2. I didn't panic at that idea, instead embraced it and really enjoyed getting to focus on my practice.
3. I practiced good self kindness when I accidentally hopped on the wrong bus on my way back.
More great self-care, Elpha :cheer:
1. I allowed myself to stay in bed a bit late this morning massaging my stomach because it was achey. The ache went away :)
2. A friend was passing by our front door when I was out cleaning this late evening. I had a nice chat with her.
3. Spent quite a bit of time in garden, clearing some beds of weeds, plants I have too many of etc. so I can plant out my squash plants and some other stuff that's still inside on my kitchen window ledge.
4. Lovely warm sunny day.
Have one more huge one today :cheer:
4. I made major progress in therapy today!! I feel so much lighter, and free. I feel strong and brave, dare I say I feel good. Wow I have never felt this and it is amazing :cheer:
:cheer: Elpha! It's amazing!
Thank you, Sceal ;D
Writing things just after 8am today :)
1. I got up and went to sunrise yoga, such a beautiful practice!
2. I feel energized and ready to go without coffee
3. I am starting the day off positive and motivated
I'm writing here today, because I need to remember the good things about today and not only the difficult parts.
1). There was sun and wind outside today - which made the day a little brighter.
2). I got complimented on my art, twice from two unrelating people.
3). I asked for support, and I was met with kindness
4). I walked on the grass barefeet and made a flower-crown
1) I did some good self-care when I got in from work today, e.g. washing all the dust off, getting changed, and putting nice lotion on my dry skin like hands and arms and face (after all the dust).
2) I had 2 long cycles to and from work. This time I went a different route and it was a bit faster than last time. Lovely sunny weather and green, green , green as far as the eye can see, with some wild flowers mixed in too. :)
3) I started singing to CDs again (probably slightly delayed success from healing retreat).
4) I did some more gardening today, including planting some of the stuff from my kitchen.
1) I got going making some new advertising for my business window, on the spur of the moment, feeling motivated :cheer:
Two good things to look forward to today:
1) I can go over to a friend's and use her bath since she's away for a couple of days
2) Another friend invited me over for afternoon tea and to play board games
I did both those things later, as I'd planned. And they were good. :)
1) I felt a bit bad physically this morning and had the impulse to do a tiny bit of yoga, which I then did. I hadn't done yoga for months.
2) It was sunny again today (not raining like yesterday) and I was happy because I had about 18 km to cycle.
3) Enjoying seeing all the green grass, leaves etc and the colourful flowers while cycling
1) I enjoyed the sun, although very windy, after a rainy day yesterday
2) went out of the apartment and worked on a new art project
3) bought a summer dress 2 sizes down than I actually am ( I suspect it's a bit big in size - but I'm not complaining)
4) I had a hilarious and bizarre DnD session
1) From yesterday and today - I'm singing mantras to a CD again. Haven't done that for ages. It does me good and gives me joy.
2) from yesterday - I got the news that 2 Little Furries are being brought to me tomorrow. I'm going to look after them for 3 weeks. Little Furries on loan so to speak. :)
3) Not forcing self to think of third thing.
1) the Little Furries are here :) and they're reacting well to me already
2) I was out in the garden doing a little easy work
3) I have some more contract work, and I have at least started it ;)
4) I allowed myself to get the bus to the doc's this morning because feeling physically too weak/tired to cycle.
Blueberry, I am so glad the furry little ones are going well :cheer:
I need this today, so here I am.
1. I am present and not dissociated today
2. I have a job shadow for a potential job, if it goes well I will have a new job by the end of the day.
3. I didn't force myself to eat. Instead I was kind and did the best that my body could this morning
1) Finished my contract work for time being.
2) conversing with the Little Furries
3) did some colouring
1) I have eaten two full meals and am about to have a third
2) I played flute without the fallout today
3) I went for a walk to my favorite coffee shop in the beautiful sunshine this morning
1) I absolutely finished yesterday's contract work (client wanted to speak to me about it today and that's done. No more changes.)
2) Bought my new thyroid hormones
3) Enjoying time with Little Furries
4) Did a bit of easy work in garden, including planting some seedlings and picking greens for Little Furries
5) It's warmed up a bit again and the sun has come out
6) Allowed myself a few naps today
Got to sleep comfortably
Got to eat a decent meal
"Sane" enough to get some spring cleaning done
Found new music I really like
Sister is helping me get some new furniture
:cheer: Yay!
1) Garden
2) deep-red peonies are blooming
3) gazing at and talking to Little Furries helps keep me grounded
4) I always find something in the public library :) this time books on plants with lots of photos
Such great things, Blueberry ;D
1) I got given my afternoon off because they had too many people scheduled
2) I have gotten to enjoy two cups of peppermint coffee with a bit of almond milk in them
3) I recognized a small trauma response and was able to talk myself through it to maintain my peaceful morning
4) I am still just thrilled for vacation
New table ordered!
Naps without night terrors!
Found more good sales!
Huzzah! :cheer:
This was yesterday:
1) Had a helpful and triggering conversation with SA lady that I handled well
2) I asked for help from my SA lady after the anxiety got too big to handle on my own, and she sat with me for a while
3) I went to the gym and worked out for the first time in over 2 weeks - felt great!
4) I met up with a friend and stayed with a tour group despite being in the company of someone else in the group who are not so nice
1) New cat palace arrived, which I set up for them.
2) Phoned the tax man, making some progress sorting that mess out.
3) Made some further progress on (late) spring cleaning.
4) Household chores done early today!
Sounds great Jazzy! Hope the cats are ecstatic!
1) Slept til 0800 this morning without waking up during the night at all (that is a very rare thing for me)
2) phoned the student-loan people and asked for help
3) sunbathed outside in barely any clothes (yelp!) while reading a book I bought on my vacation - it's amazing
4) cleaned
5) Went to the gym with a friend
6)Avoided buying snacks
I am locking this thread and starting a "Part 3" as we are once again well over 5 pages (and that's a positive thing in my day ;D).