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Development of CPTSD in Adulthood => Causes => General Discussion => Topic started by: LizB on December 27, 2017, 03:38:07 PM

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Post by: LizB on December 27, 2017, 03:38:07 PM
Hello,I am Liz and have CPTSD.Was recently diagnosed with this and it was last week.In my 10 year marriage,my ex husband did do infidelity cheating on me and this hurt me.I went through a lot for what he did to me.I knew he was cheating on me,seen credit card receipts with him buying jewelry he bought for these 3 women he cheated on me with.Included wearing clean clothes the next day smelling perfume I never used on the clothes he wore the night before.He did lie to me about it and caught him in the act knowing what to do.I kicked his butt out of my house and filed for divorce which was in June.The divorce happened in August and I am free of what my ex husband did to me.Therapist said it was from his infidelity cheating on me.It was my family knowing something was wrong with me and they were very concerned about me.I listened to them and that is when I decided to get help for it.
Title: Re: New here
Post by: Dee on December 27, 2017, 06:19:55 PM

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Post by: Rainagain on December 27, 2017, 06:59:51 PM
Hi Liz,

I hope you read around here and work out what your diagnosis means for you.

Lots of good people here with insight as well as factual resources, welcome !
Title: Re: New here
Post by: LizB on December 27, 2017, 08:12:16 PM
Thanks and I have moved on since the divorce became final.It answered this question: Did I need to go through more of what he did to me?I knew the answer was no and deserved better.I do credit my mom helping me move on,she is a Martina McBride fan and introduced me to this song to me that has helped,
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Post by: JamesG on January 04, 2018, 08:34:38 AM

No, you didn't need to go through anything so painful. Looking for reasons and explanations can be counter-productive tho, sometimes there is no other reason but that the people we trusted and needed don't possess a moral compass and if we are in their way, they WILL run us over without a seconds thought. It's a shock to the system and it is the root of C-PTSD, that incredulity and betrayal.

Recovery is all about repetitive positive messages and the employment of as much logic as you can at the story til it settles down. The brain is a creature of habit and it wants to return to patterns it knows, so keep reminding yourself of the basics again and again until the balance shifts: it was not your fault, it was wrong and you deserve better.
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Post by: Mussymel on January 04, 2018, 10:45:50 AM
Hi Liz welcome