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• Arabi, S. (2018) How Society Gaslights Survivors of Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Psychopaths (A Guide for Therapists, Law Enforcement and Loved Ones)

Thank you very much for this article. I feel constantly angry at society, and this is the reason. 20 therapist who have denied my experience, until i found one who had been abused by a parent.

I am not sure if this has been posted already, but I read this very useful article today - on "How Narcissistic Parenting Affects Children" and I relate to all the things listed there.  The article is in Psychology Today and was originally posted in February 2018, it is by Karyl McBride, and a link is here:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201802/how-narcissistic-parenting-affects-children
Hope 

yes, i remember reading that article, that woman knows her stuff. It is very rare for a therapist to understand what you went through.

I just posted this link in my journal but thought it might be helpful to share here as well. From reading this forum I have come to realise I may have a narcissistic mother. Anyway I found this article helpful:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/eating-mindfully/201804/how-survive-narcissistic-mother

It could be useful to know there are two kinds of narcissists. The covert sensitive narcissists. And the overt narcissist.
The covert ones are the hardest to detect. Nobody will ever believe you if you say she is a narcissist, cause she acts like mother theresa toward everyone.

'coercive control'

yeah in the workshops that i attended of narcissistic parental abuse, coercive control was also explained. It is something very real, but cannot be seen by many others. In some countries coercive control has actually started to become a criminal offense.

what name do I give to "my parents" who caused my CPTSD (childhood development)?

In my talk group they are generally referred to as, unsafe parents, people from the dark side, difficult parents, narcissists, toxic people or dysfunctional home.

If you haven't had contact with the abusive parent for a long time, have you ever concocted fantasies or "scripts" of what would happen if you confronted them, even if it's highly unlikely?

I personally don't see them as all bad, only half bad because of stuggling with their own issues and nobody ever told them how to resolve them.
you could say i have to much empathy for them. in some ways i have.