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I feel that treatment can be more effective when the therapist and the patient can dig deep to find the root cause of the diagnosis. I found a therapist who was also a Psychiatrist back in the late 90's early 2000's who understood what was happening to me. I have been a victim of scapegoating in my family so he helped me manage my triggers from the abuse. For many years thereafter, I was unable to find a counselor or therapist who can do this intellectual work to help me, until now. I recently found a therapist who has extensive knowledge in this area of abuse. Often when a victim is scapegoated early in life, they continue to be scapegoated throughout their lives by society. It's a cruel dysfunctional dynamic to experience. My current therapist is working with me to change my mindset so that I eject myself from the scapegoating role. Thus far, I found a really good job that I am successful at. I am able to pick up on the dysfunctions at work and handle it with intellect instead of emotion. It takes a lifetime for victims to undo all the abuse that was inflicted upon them but eventually, we all reach a point where we become more peaceful.

This also happens in dysfunctional families where one or more family members have severe mental illness. This type of abuse is associated with scapegoating, which is the worst type of abuse one can experience. The family member(s) typically a parent will blame the child that does not have mental illness for all the family problems and they will project their mental illness on to that child. This is very complex type of family dysfunctional dynamic. The scapegoating occurs when the child is an infant and the child experiences various types of abuse early on in life. When the child becomes old enough to realize what is happening, the abuse becomes more subtle and passive aggressive to drive the target to paranoia and mental breakdown. It's a very cruel practice, I didn't realize people are still behaving this way. 

Hi everyone,
I just joined this forum and I've learned so much already; so thank you. I have a long history with trauma so for me, any type of PTSD is the norm. I was beat up on a bus 3 years ago and that traumatic experience pushed me over the edge. I was bedridden for over 7 months, evicted from my home, and I now walk with a limp. My whole life spiraled downward. My son became traumatized as well. It ruined my relationship with him as he suffered other traumas in his life as well. I've had a stalker for over a decade and he escalated and had me beat up. I am finally working with law enforcement and other government agencies to bring him to justice. In the meantime, I am slowly but surely reconciling my relationship with my son, and getting my job situation and finances back on track.
Growing up, I suffered all types of abuse including abandonment, rejection, and neglect. My mother and sister had mental illness and my dad and I did not. My dad and I suffered tremendously for being who we were. My dad passed away at a very young age so I was left to fend for myself all these years. Eventually I broke away from my mother and sister in my early twenties. My mother has now passed. I paid the price for breaking away though. I am now 55 years old and still fighting to survive. I feel like there is a shift though, that will finally bring justice, healing and relief.
I survived a lot in life but that doesn't mean I am strong. I am broken, but I keep going.
Thank you for the support.