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#1
General Discussion / Scared Kid?
July 27, 2023, 10:26:21 AM
Here I sit at 6 AM, less than 4 hours of sleep over the last 40ish hours. It's becoming more frequent. I've kind of always had this problem but it's suddenly so different. With my recent cPTSD diagnosis this lack of sleep has changed A LOT for me.

 I've always been very answers driven and obsessed over the consumption of knowledge. Yet I've only recently began to consume the knowledge that is my own psyche. This has led to an odd feeling, an explainable yet not understandable feeling for me.

Only recently have I begun to really connect with myself. And I've noticed this facade of being a big, strong, unbreakable, and unwavering "man" that I've carried for possibly 20 years of the 26 I've had. Truth is I feel like a scared and terrified little kid deep down.

I realize that there are two very distinct "sides" of me.

One consists of PURE FIGHT.(thankfully fully conscious and unclouded decision making accompanies this.) Now I realized a LONG time ago I had a very large tendency as a pre-teen and teenager to resort to violence. Thankfully I made this connection and realization early on and began to focus on anger managing techniques.(I can honestly and happily say I very rarely have outbursts now, and I will never get physical unless there IS a threat.)

Now the other side of me is the one that is currently wreaking havoc on me, and has only recently surfaced. It's the soft spoken, approval seeking, and extremely empathetic "child-like" psyche that CRAVES love. I can't seem to manage it. I try to comfort myself by engaging in my favorite activities or even openly discussing this with my Fiancé. But for some reason my heart just hurts so much.

I'm bringing this up to see if anybody else has felt or feels this way. If so, what is/was your process or your "escape" to achieve mental clarity and work through it? I don't want to run from this! I need to face it head on, because I know and understand that is the BIGGEST step to see that light again!


With Love,

OnePercentBetter

I'M NOT OKAY! BUT THAT'S OKAY!

#2
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Hello everyone!!
July 27, 2023, 08:59:19 AM
Hello from Florida!!

I want to start by expressing how grateful I am to have found such a strong community! You are ALL AMAZING!

A little about me!! I'm not okay, but that's okay! I'm 26 years old and I was recently diagnosed with cPTSD. This came as quite a shock to me to be honest but so much is starting to make sense.

I want to keep this short on my first go around, so I'll get right to it. I lost my mother 9 months ago(having already lost my father many years ago), this has slowly taken a toll on me. I've always been very "strong" and "put together" as others would say. But for the first time in my life... I broke. I had a full blown mental breakdown less than a month ago which has led to this new discovery.

I plan on sharing much of my story in due time, but I'm not 100% ready for that. I'll leave you with this, I'm not hurt I've the loss of my mother. I'm hurt because I'll never have the answer I've so dearly wanted for so many years. Why did she treat me the way she did? And I honestly hate myself for that.



That's enough for now. As you can see, based on my name, I have a very strong goal in place and it's honestly something I've lived life by. Focusing everyday on getting one percent better has helped me get this far and I won't stop now! Coming here is step one! It's only up from here.

With Love,

OnePercentBetter

See you soon!