I've been waking up with EFs most mornings for almost 4 years. Lately I have found out something about myself, but I'm not sure yet if it's really true (will watch it for some time). It's quite astonishing for me: when i get a small Ef for some little trigger, i get by emotions. Not really bad, but not in control what's happening. And this is what causes a really big EF, because i get terrified for getting flooded (i.e. being helpless, which is a really big trigger). So what really helps me out of it is telling myself: I am afraid because I am flooded and i am stopping this now. And then i can stop it by labeling the panicky part "only a part of me" and actively activating another part of me that's talking to the scared part. So I'm no longer helpless, and it becomes manageable.
It really would be great if it keeps going on like this and i have finally found a way to deal with my morning EFs! I feel really dumb for having so much of them and being disorganised every morning, and it's not always easy to be friendly and compassionate to myself about that.
It really would be great if it keeps going on like this and i have finally found a way to deal with my morning EFs! I feel really dumb for having so much of them and being disorganised every morning, and it's not always easy to be friendly and compassionate to myself about that.