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I think it's common after a traumatic relationship with a PD to ask ourselves "was it me?".   Women, in particular, are not infrequently mis-diagnosed with BPD when, in fact, they're suffering from the effects of trauma. 

I asked my T if I might be PD and he just laughed - apparently, I have too much empathy.  I did score highly on the effects of trauma.

Pretty much everyone with a normal ego has narcissistic behaviors, but the difference between 'healthy' narcissism and pathological narcissism is vast.  Often, we also leave disordered relationships with 'fleas', having absorbed behavioral traits from the PD partner/friend/parent/sibling.  These experiences also usually leave us with our attention focused inwards.

If it would help to reassure you, one way or the other, perhaps you could assess your own behaviors using the narcissistic personality disorder checklist developed for the DSM V? 

http://www.psi.uba.ar/academica/carrerasdegrado/psicologia/sitios_catedras/practicas_profesionales/820_clinica_tr_personalidad_psicosis/material/dsm.pdf

I discovered OTS over on OTF today - glad to have found this place.

I've been working through healing from a LTR with a diagnosed psychopath and, along the way, came to understand that my parents are also Cluster B disordered (NPD). 

The LTR relationship was probably the most damaging thing I've ever experienced, but led to one lightbulb moment after another.  It gave me answers to things that happened in my life that I hadn't understood well and brought me to the realisation that there were things I needed to fix.

So I found a therapist and was diagnosed with CPTSD.  After a couple of years' therapy, the panic attacks and anxiety may be gone, the emotional numbing may be evaporating but there are still ways of thinking and reacting that need to be worked on.....so here I am, very glad to have found this place and to be here.