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I really just wanna hybernate.

I really get this, DF!      to you. On the surface you seem to be dealing with more IRL than I am too. Tho I know that comparing isn't specially helpful, especially not towards myself in this instance.

In fact, I have been doing a lot of hibernation recently.

[Phoebes]

I know this is a very old thread and also that Phoebes hasn't been around for a while. However it's easier for me to respond here than set up a new thread, tho if you happen to come back on Phoebes and want me to make a separate thread, just say so and I will!

I feel as if my friends are dropping me like flies and I'm actually OK with that. If they think I'm that unhealthy emotionally-speaking without noticing their own character flaws...

Possibly my friends and acquaintances feel as if I'm dropping them like flies atm? I'm turning into a recluse partly due to shame about what I've made out of my life by this stage of the game, with that I often feel very different. 55 yo, can't work anymore, going on 80yo kind of thing. But feel too young to join in activities for seniors so hide at home.

I also find contacting people more strenuous than I used to and I do notice their character flaws / unhealthy behaviour emotionally-speaking. But maybe that's just 'normal' and I should put up with it to have some friends? Oh there's that 'should' again. But if I do put up with it for a while, I tend to go into shutdown. It's lonely here though. So, I no longer feel OK about dropping others like flies or them dropping me, or whatever is going on exactly. Tho otoh I do NOT like being with people who make assumptions about me, without knowing and without giving me a chance to say: "No. Not true." To be clear, I also notice my own unhealthy behaviour emotionally-speaking and my character flaws, but they seem a given for people around me, as in of course BB is all messed up. 

[TheBigBlue]

Thank you for bringing this up, TheBigBlue. Language does matter! Shaming us doesn't help, except to maybe help those who shame us. They can feel all healthy, and smug.

Kizzie, I appreciate the response of your son and his fellow students!

   to you Desert Flower

Welcome to the forum 

I hope you find this place as supportive as I have over the years.

Welcome to the forum, TheBigBlue

Free Encore Weekend starting Sat. 22 November at 7am Eastern Time and running for 48 hours. Idk if you can still sign up or if it's just for people already signed up, who will receive an email with the link on Saturday. You probably still can though because the hosts are into selling permanent access and the speakers' books and programs - that's the reason for an Encore Weekend, they're not doing it 'just to be nice'.

1) The sun is shining again

2) I put one of my prisms up in the window a couple of weeks ago and I enjoy seeing all the big and little rainbows appearing on my walls

3) I collected a load of apples and pears from an elderly friend who has too much garden fruit for his own usage and is very happy for it to be taken and used by people who appreciate it

1) The sun is shining

2) Snow lying in gardens and on fields, but not on the roads.

3) I've been putting items to sell on the Internet classifieds, after practising copying photos from my camera onto my hard-drive with OT this morning. It's a good feeling of purpose and accomplishment.

I've heard a few interesting talks so far. Today there was one with an exercise in self-compassion, which made me feel calmer.

This was disappointing. Generally I like Alex Howard's stuff, but idk it seemed he and Diane P.H. were wasting time,a bit. Or I'm not as patient as I used to be   Plus the last 15-20 minutes were all about trying to sell their upcoming series that you have to pay for. Oh well.

1) I'm on the upswing again

2) I'm better able to clean and tidy atm

3) I did two things today that I've been putting off for months: collected my new orthopedic insoles and washed a window

4) I feel better able to go out among people

Hi LadyBoar,

If I haven't yet said "Welcome to the forum", here it is now

Thank you for adding more insight to this thread!

I work quite a bit with imagery and imagination techniques so you giving me a visual is especially helpful.

Now make the cube a shape that has hundreds of sides that can only be seen in different angles.

This ^^ part of the image is particularly apt for what we're dealing with re: cptsd I think.

I'm sorry you've had dissociative episodes too, and of course relating to hitting the same nail over and over again. Tho when I'm not in a bit of or a lot of an EF, I can usually see that there's been a tiny change to the nail - bit smaller, bit chipped off etc. But I'm very often in EFs and don't notice.

From the blurb: For me, the biggest thing I had to push through wasn't the outside world — it was my own self-limiting behaviors.

Not getting enough sleep.
Spending too much time on YouTube.
Not fully completing tasks.
Not taking full responsibility for the results I wanted to create.
Letting my untamed inner child run the show instead of connecting with him and bringing him onboard with my vision.

All of that was keeping me from the personal growth, joy, and contribution that I now know are possible. I used to think it was a lack of discipline. But it wasn't. It was old wiring — subconscious patterns designed to protect me that had long outlived their purpose.

Once I learned how to rewire those patterns, everything changed.

That's the journey I'll be sharing more about during my interview this Wednesday, where I'll talk about how breathwork and awareness helped me transform my self-limiting behaviors into clarity, purpose, and freedom.



We've brought together 50+ world-class experts in neuroscience, psychology, and transformation — including Jim Kwik, Kristin Neff, Peter Levine, Jessica Maguire, Dave Asprey, Nicole Sachs, John Gray and many more — to help you uncover the patterns that hold you back and rewire them at their source.

...

Warmly,
Michael Stone
Co-Creator, Rewiring to Break Free from Self-Limiting Behaviors Summit
Founder, NeuroDynamic Breathwork® & NeuroDynamic Institute

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