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I finally got him today to agree to a new counselor. I asked him to separate from our old one (he continues to see her) and really focus on the new counselor and us. I am going to bring up the PTSD original diagnosis and talk about C-PTSD being more directly how I feel. I am hopeful that he will be open to accepting this and learning with me how to cope and work through our seperate difficulties and challenges together. Thank you for the link, I will check it out!

My fiance and I have been together for a long time. My prior marriage to this was abusive. I was sexually molested by cousins at a young age and as a result I grew up way too quickly and allowed men to take advantage of me. I was a classic "if he thinks I am sexy" he will love me teen and probably why I married a narcissistic alcoholic..hindsight right? I am now in a relationship with a man who 80% of the time is a warm, caring and loving man. I believe some of our issues result from his anxiety and ADD mixed with his very unstable exwife (legal conflict with custody of their son never ends, she stole and got a class A misdeameanor charge...list goes on and on) being a constant source of contention and stress in our lives. She attacks me publically with slander and at one point I had to have a PO on her to stop the stalking....clearly as you can imagine the triggers on my PTSD were and are immense. I just read more on C-PTSD and feel this is a more accurate diagnosis of my PTSD. I am in the process of finding a great counselor but until then, I need to figure out a way to get him to stop calling me crazy when HE triggers my reactions more often or not. He has never physically abused me, ever but when he yells and gets angry I literally want to crawl out of my skin and go into fight mode verbally to protect myself.  I am sure to him I appear crazy, but something has to be out there that helps those we love understand more about what this is doing when they call someone with PTSD o CPTSD crazy when having an episode...ok that was a lot but I am just happy to have found a place that maybe gets it and can help. we are going to start with a new marriage counselor this week and I pray this one understands PTSD. (Our first couples counselor had no clue and made it worse)