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Was lying awake in hpervigilant state when i cranked up my tablet and found this porch. Meeting all of you here was so peaceful that i now realize I'm hungry which explains why I'm awake. So I'm gently drifting away now to go get a lovely bowl of cereal.

Hi a_bunny. I totally hear you. And similar to you, I've been in years of good help and therapy, and done well with it. However, only this year did I learn how to respond in the moment. And in learning how to do that, the nighttime replaying of conversations in my mind has largely disappeared. In other words, I had to learn the skills of standing up kindly to bullies and difficult people. I thought I was too intimidated to learn, but I learned.

All it took was watching a few youtube videos by a guy named Dan O'Connor. This guy is soooo helpful. Once I started imitating what he says to do, I became empowered in a new way. Here's one example, but look around on youtube for the videos by Dan O'Connor that suit you best: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CuvNW1RnRjg

I hope this is helpful to you