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Thanks for everyone's replies it's just so comforting to find a place like this where people have had similar experiences with these types of perpetrators. I honestly believe narcissists and psychopaths are another species of human beings altogether. The thing I really beat myself up about is if I'd told my mother right from the start I could have dodged a bullet so to speak and none of the abuse would have happened. That is what I'm mostly struggling with at the moment. God knows how those who have suffered within their own families feel, that would be unimaginable for me.
Thanks again for reading,
Gstar
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So im new here and so glad I found this forum. I'm not sure if my experience is shared by others but my childhood I would say was happy. I grew up with a loving mother and brothers and a close network of friends, family and friends of family. At 13 years I became friends with a girl in my class at school who seemed really nice at first, seemed to love everything about me, wanted to hang around with me and my friends a lot, was fun to be with. Not long after I turned 14 she suddenly and out of the blue for me publicly falsely accused me in front of my whole class at school of hitting her, being nasty to her for "ages" and that I had got my friends to be nasty to her. All lies, all projection. But everyone believed her. This was the beginning of a 6 year nightmare for me. I believe she was a psychopath and a narcissist and the next 6 years involved the most horrific emotional and psychological abuse for me. I didn't tell anyone in this whole time, not even my mother because I was so scared and perceived this girl to have so much power that it wouldn't help even if I did tell my mother. I've read all about psychopaths, narcissists and the cycle of emotional and psychological abuse and my experience fits it's to a tee. I have read Judith Lewis Herman's book 'Trauma and Recovery' and I can relate so much to this book, especially the parts where she is describing the perpetrator and how they become the most important person in your life (not out of choice I tell you). There's so much more to my experience but I'd thought I'd keep it as brief as I could. Can anyone else relate to this? Someone outside of your family and a child the same age as you as that who is the perpetrator?
Sorry if this is a bit long but thanks for reading.
By the way it is now nearly 20 years since I managed to get this girl out of my life but the whole traumatic experience still affects me now.