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This is one of my favorite songs. I've listened to it numerous times as it is such a wonderful healing message.

Trese0 - I am reading that book now (The Body Keeps Score) but can only do it in doses. Although he covers various causes of PTSD, it can be triggering in general for me. But what a great book with a lot of good information.

I did start The Courage to Heal back in my 20's on my own (I was in therapy, and trying to heal from SA/EA/Neglect). I found it helpful too. I never did finish as I could only do pieces at a time.

Yes, I definitely think it is PTSD related. It seems she is feeling uncomfortable, perhaps not in control and fearing being hurt so she is starting to dissociate or numb up by thinking of something non-intimate and bringing it up. She definitely is not doing it to hurt you, embarrass you etc. It sounds like a protective mechanism is kicking in. Perhaps the way to help is to take things slowly, make sure she is prepared for the intimacy, wants to do it, and that if she starts to feel afraid that she feel comfortable enough to tell you. Sometimes easier said than done. Good luck.

Yes though I didn't know the age until I was discussing the abuse with my mother (it was her father who did it) and she said the house I was in at the time, I was age 2. So yikes. And a babysitter, I was able to figure out my age at the time based on the fact that we were watching Jaws on tv (me, my bro and sitter). I was able to research to determine what year it came out on tv, and then determine my age at the time (3). It's sad, and it hurts to realize that it started so very young. But unfortunately for me, it lasted for years so the age I was when it started does not affect me as much as knowing it lasted for years and no one helped me or protected me. That is what upsets me the most now. The neglect, the fact that no one protected me from it, the fact that my mother continued bringing me around the man she knew had touched her daughter (as he had also abused her and all her siblings). It's just messed up.