hi all -
i've just discovered OOTS but was a very active member of OOTF some years back, going through my "lightbulb moments", leaving and navigating an unnecessarily horrid divorce with 3 kids. the 16 year relationship i escaped was emotionally, psychologically, financially and sexually abusive as my ex partner has some sort of PD - my guess would be covert narcissist, but i've long since given up trying to find the right label or even understand what goes on there
i'm about 4 years into "parallel parenting" with 50/50 access and a strict "no contact" rule bar text and email. this was of course challenging, not least for the kids having so much contact with a disordered individual, but working as close to "ok" as these thing can until a year ago when he decided to up sticks and move from the family home half a mile away from my flat to a very large and imposing house just 7 doors away. moving away is not currently an option and since then the practicalities of the kids living between 2 homes have disappeared, but my c-ptsd, which i had really begun to think i was making headway with, has returned with a vengance.
so here i am ...
i've just discovered OOTS but was a very active member of OOTF some years back, going through my "lightbulb moments", leaving and navigating an unnecessarily horrid divorce with 3 kids. the 16 year relationship i escaped was emotionally, psychologically, financially and sexually abusive as my ex partner has some sort of PD - my guess would be covert narcissist, but i've long since given up trying to find the right label or even understand what goes on there
i'm about 4 years into "parallel parenting" with 50/50 access and a strict "no contact" rule bar text and email. this was of course challenging, not least for the kids having so much contact with a disordered individual, but working as close to "ok" as these thing can until a year ago when he decided to up sticks and move from the family home half a mile away from my flat to a very large and imposing house just 7 doors away. moving away is not currently an option and since then the practicalities of the kids living between 2 homes have disappeared, but my c-ptsd, which i had really begun to think i was making headway with, has returned with a vengance.
so here i am ...