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How did it turn out?  It's so hard when you've invested so much of yourself in a friendship to finally admit how toxic and unbalanced it is and how unhealthy it is for us.  I hope things are going better, but I know it's still sad even when it's for the best.

I just stumbled on this today, I feel like I could have written it and parts of the responses.  I'm starting to feel that one of my problems is I misinterpret that sort of "honeymoon period" when I meet a new friend and think they have a lot of empathetic traits as I do.   But I start to realize over time, that just hugging people and saying "I love you friend"  doesn't an empath make.   Actions have to match.  And I struggle the same with worrying my expectations are too high, but how low is too low conversely?   Tired of being the "that's okay" with unbalanced friendships 😑