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My husband of 15 years has constantly blamed everyone else for anything/everything that goes wrong in his life. Every job loss ( and there have been more than I care to count) has never been his fault. When he is "caught" & can no longer play his "blame game", he resorts to other tacticts. He is in constant flight mode. He sleeps with his car keys & wallet.  The cell phone never leaves his hand or pocket. He has no shame at all. He calls friends (mine usually because he has very few left) he calls my grown kids & tells lies about me, makes up outrageous stories, cries "suicide", etc, etc... I have recently found out about the term gaslighting. WOW!  I have been a victim of this by him for years! He shifts the blame, tells me (& others) how crazy I am & also says my memory is slipping..he never said that, did that, etc.. It is enough to make a person feel like it's true! Sometimes I feel like I am losing my mind. The stress is crazy!!!  Has anyone else had any experience with gaslighting? 

Hi All.  Glad to have found this site. Hoping that others are going through the same thing may help-hopefully.