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I'm so glad you're here and thank you for sharing! You are not alone! I'm so sorry you've felt this way your whole life, I struggle with the same feelings too. You have something worth saying and you deserve to take up space in this world!  💕

Thanks so much!!

I know, right? That would be so nice! Thanks so much! Time outs are a great idea, I definitely need to do more of that so I don't end up overwhelmed. 🤗💕

Does anyone else have a hard time traveling with complex PTSD? I'm currently away right now for a little birthday trip with my husband. I've been having a wonderful time today visiting one of my favorite cities where I used to live. It's a very familiar place which I thought would help ease my anxiety. I've been trying to overcome some of my fears though so that I don't stay isolated, traveling being one of them. But perhaps it's been too much? I'm currently wrapped up in bed with twinkle lights on and some candles lit trying not to have a panic attack feeling really shaky. It's so frustrating! Can anyone relate?

Wow! This is so true, I always believed that I was a lazy person bc that's what my abusers projected onto me. Then all that was reaffirmed in my adult life bc I've always had less energy than most and I believed I couldn't handle anything. This article was really helpful to read especially today bc my anxiety was really bad. I took a break and felt guilty all day but feel better after reading this post! Thank you!

Hi!

This is such an interesting post and something I've wondered about myself very often. I think I either have hyper vigilant days where I'm trying to prevent something bad from happening and then days where I'm distracting myself from the pain through most positive tasks.  For example, I can become obsessive about my health sometimes, or I triple check that I've done something correctly bc I have this terrible feeling * is going to hit the fan. Or I'll check my front door multiple times during the night bc I can't seem to believe that I'm safe. I can also obsessive over anything related to my job by becoming a perfectionist.  There are other times when I try to distract myself from all of the pain through working a lot
or creating beautiful experiences for myself like going to a coffee shop and knitting. I also have different seasons where I'll be really into say folk music from the 70's and I'll just dive into learning all about that. I think for me these may be ways of dealing with all of the pain. Sometimes I wonder if hyper vigilance is the result of an emotional flashback? I also wonder if when I'm distracting myself through work that is my flight response to pain? Sorry if this was all over the place, hope this was helpful! Xo

Does anyone else have trouble saying no to people? I find myself in a flashback every time I have to say no. It's something I'd like to work on more but I'm not sure where to begin. Thanks for your help!