Yesterday, I was at my Dad's helping him recover at home after being discharged from the hospital. Another relative came in from out of town to relieve me. I guess I didn't trust her to take care of Dad as good as I feel I can. Problem was I didn't bring enough of my meds, and I let myself stay almost a full day longer than I had meds for. I really set myself up for some awful consequences.
While still at my Dad's, I called my siblings about an important decision so we could talk about it over a group video call. My overpowering brother would not let me speak. He kept interrupting me as I would try to speak and he would talk over me.
Normally I am pretty meek about this type of behavior from him and I just sit back and let him take charge. However, this is about my Dad's health and I wasn't about to let myself go unheard. Also, I was heightened emotionally because I had missed my meds.
After about two minutes of him talking through me constantly, I stood up and just started saying very loudly for him to "shut up". I also spoke to him that he doesn't need to always be in charge of every conversation. Finally, he stopped talking and I looked at my other two siblings who were on the call with us and they were giving the most sheepish looks to me.
I did get out what I needed to say and my brother was very short with his words.When I got back to the table where my dad was sitting, he asked me if everything was OK because he's not used to hearing my voice raised. And I told him what it happened, and he said "I like to hear your voice like that". And I asked him what he meant. And he said, "I like to hear you using your voice and getting out what you need to say."
That really surprised me because my brother is the " Prince" of the family. I was surprised to hear my Dad's words about the situation.
My brother responded via text later basically saying how he realized after the conversation that all I wanted to do was to be heard. That really surprised me that he was able to come to that conclusion.
So, That was actually a good thing that happened yesterday. Are used my voice I'll be at yelling and my brother actually acknowledge that that's what I was trying to do to be heard. However the consequence of not having my meds that day was not good at all. I had a really really hard night last night and really really hard morning this morning. I can't do that again.
While still at my Dad's, I called my siblings about an important decision so we could talk about it over a group video call. My overpowering brother would not let me speak. He kept interrupting me as I would try to speak and he would talk over me.
Normally I am pretty meek about this type of behavior from him and I just sit back and let him take charge. However, this is about my Dad's health and I wasn't about to let myself go unheard. Also, I was heightened emotionally because I had missed my meds.
After about two minutes of him talking through me constantly, I stood up and just started saying very loudly for him to "shut up". I also spoke to him that he doesn't need to always be in charge of every conversation. Finally, he stopped talking and I looked at my other two siblings who were on the call with us and they were giving the most sheepish looks to me.
I did get out what I needed to say and my brother was very short with his words.When I got back to the table where my dad was sitting, he asked me if everything was OK because he's not used to hearing my voice raised. And I told him what it happened, and he said "I like to hear your voice like that". And I asked him what he meant. And he said, "I like to hear you using your voice and getting out what you need to say."
That really surprised me because my brother is the " Prince" of the family. I was surprised to hear my Dad's words about the situation.
My brother responded via text later basically saying how he realized after the conversation that all I wanted to do was to be heard. That really surprised me that he was able to come to that conclusion.
So, That was actually a good thing that happened yesterday. Are used my voice I'll be at yelling and my brother actually acknowledge that that's what I was trying to do to be heard. However the consequence of not having my meds that day was not good at all. I had a really really hard night last night and really really hard morning this morning. I can't do that again.