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Hi Saylor,

Thank you so much for the kind and detailed response. It is so helpful to hear about your experiences. I'm really glad that you've managed to find happiness in your relationship, and that your partner is able to be supportive of you.

I have been researching insecure attachment since you mentioned it and it sounds familiar. I've also been looking into the Internal Family Systems therapy. I'm not sure if my partner will ever want to explore getting professional help, but it's good to know about the different options just in case.

I think you've given good advice about my partner's need to isolate not being optional. I'm going to try and focus on myself for now but will let him know that I'm here when he's ready.

Thank you again, and take care 

Hi all,

I’m new to the community with my partner recently having had symptoms of his cptsd flare up. For many years he was in control of his symptoms and they rarely troubled him.

Since March he has cut contact with me down to a minimum. He has explained that being close to people is triggering him at the moment, and this has happened before with his ex partners and family members. He’s always found a way to end things with ex partners and keep family members at arms length.

We have spoken about it at length and he recognises that it’s hurting me to be in a relationship with limited contact, and we both want to make it work.

Has anyone else experienced this? Any tips on how I can help him? I should mention he is not in therapy and is reluctant to try as he had a negative experience in his teens when he was first diagnosed. I’ve researched and seen loads of positive reactions to alternative therapies like EMDR. Does anyone have any experience of that in helping relationships?

Thank you