Thankyou for your reply Sanmagic.
I am a firm believer in this secondary wounding as Matsakis shows. For so long I believed I was the cause of the family "problem" that I simply accepted that. When I found out some truths I could not contain myself in finding it wasn't me after all and my CPTSD surfaced. But so called "friends" were uncomfortable with any suggestion of mental dysfunction ...
I believe you are right....familiar is the word. Bad treatment is what we were used to.
I now have learned of course, that ALL people are not so cruel after a long time in my isolation and self-protection. As the writer says, we survivors are somewhat prone to black and white thinking. And I learned that I need to take care of who I entrust much about me.......
I am a firm believer in this secondary wounding as Matsakis shows. For so long I believed I was the cause of the family "problem" that I simply accepted that. When I found out some truths I could not contain myself in finding it wasn't me after all and my CPTSD surfaced. But so called "friends" were uncomfortable with any suggestion of mental dysfunction ...
I believe you are right....familiar is the word. Bad treatment is what we were used to.
I now have learned of course, that ALL people are not so cruel after a long time in my isolation and self-protection. As the writer says, we survivors are somewhat prone to black and white thinking. And I learned that I need to take care of who I entrust much about me.......