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#1
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: New to OOTS
June 24, 2025, 02:57:27 PM
Welcome She  :heythere:
#2
Welcome Trius  :heythere:
#3
Hi Dalloway,
I wanted to send you a supportive hug, if that's ok  :hug:   I related a lot to what you wrote in your last posting here in your journal - the powerful impact of the terrible feelings and emotions and their physical effect, and how that's difficult to describe with words, but I think you described it in a way that made it very relateable and clear.  I am glad that you were able to open the valve a little, and that you feel some relief from that, but I also very much feel that you acknowledged the fear concerning the potential death of the little baby.  I am so glad that you were able to survive everything you've been through, and that you can be here today.   :hug:

I hope that nothing I've said here is upsetting, as I read what you wrote earlier today, and couldn't find any words, but I've come back and tried to write something, because I wanted you to know that I related and that I feel support towards you.

Hope
#4
Hi Blueberry,
There is so much in what you wrote, and I am so glad you were able to take those actions and get the help you needed, and I think it's a very big thing to have done that.  I am sending you a hug as well  :hug:
Hope
#5
Checking Out / Re: Checking Out in the good way
June 23, 2025, 02:51:41 PM
Take care CactusFlower.   :grouphug:
#6
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#7
Recovery Journals / Re: Hope's Journal 2025
June 19, 2025, 10:13:29 AM
Hi SanMagic & SenseOrgan,
Thank you both for what you said.  I appreciate your support.
 :hug:  :hug:
Hope
#8
Recovery Journals / Re: starting over
June 19, 2025, 10:12:48 AM
Hi SanMagic,
That's great that you are sleeping better.  You're doing a lot at the moment, and I hope you are able to get all the things you want to do done, but most importantly that you get some restful breaks.
 :hug:
Hope
#9
Hi StartingHealing,
I hope that the Universe will figure some positive things to come your way.  I admire your cautiousness, as listening to your gut and vetting things is by no means a bad thing. 
Sending you a hug of support  :hug:
Hope
#10
Recovery Journals / Re: Hope's Journal 2025
June 17, 2025, 10:42:45 AM
17th June 2025
So I'm still having night terrors, but less intense, and quite often I'm not aware of them - i.e. my partner tells me what's happened in the night, and sees me experiencing some night terrors, but thankfully I don't necessarily have knowledge of those things the next day - but I do like to know whether I had them or not - I don't ask him, he just tells me.

But it's much improved from how it used to be in past years - i.e. I no longer end up jumping out of bed (and potentially hurting myself in the process of that) - I tend to have relatively short lived experiences, and as I mentioned, I don't necessarily have awareness of them in the same way that I used to.  I think this is progress.

I am reading Mary Bratton's book about CSA at the moment, and I have noticed that whereas in the past I would have felt too scared to read it - I am currently able to read it and stay present whilst doing so.  I think I am therefore managing my emotions better and regulating them in the window of tolerance rather than outside of that.  However I also noticed that some defensive parts have come out and are more prominent in various ways in the day - BUT I am aware of them, and I take a moment to centre myself and notice that a part of me is triggered, and acknowledge it, and then it doesn't impact me the same way that it would have done in the past - i.e. I don't act on those things, and I put them in the context of being a natural reaction to some stuff.

I am trying to lose some weight at the moment, and it is difficult.  I have had a tendency to comfort eat in past years, and whilst I haven't been doing that - I notice that when I'm controlling my portion sizes and therefore feel hungry on occasions, that I have to be careful to not fill that void - i.e. is it an emotional hunger or an actual hunger.  Difficult to tell.

Mary Bratton wrote that "Survivors have disconnected feeling words from what is happening inside their bodies" and I relate to that very much.  I think it makes it more challenging then to separate out where an emotion comes from, and even what it is - what a physical feeling means etc.  But I am continually trying to link and notice my feelings inside and put labels on what they might be.  I think I am making some progress in that, but it's challenging to do.

I am making some progress in losing a bit of weight - but it's going very very slowly.  But I will keep going.

Glad to be able to update here in this journal today.
Hope
#11
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Remberin
June 12, 2025, 06:14:25 PM
Welcome back Remberin  :heythere:
#12
Welcome Wooboyattachment-trauma,  :heythere:
#13
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Hey there
June 12, 2025, 09:15:26 AM
Welcome tigrlily.
#14
Checking Out / Re: Taking a break
June 06, 2025, 01:02:01 PM
Hi WabiSabi,
Wishing you the best with the things you need to focus on, and sending you a hug  :hug:

Take care,
Hope
#15
I have no idea.  But I did see it.   :)