surprising response from H's lawyer to mine...he actually agrees to the divorce and sent an offer!!
that's the good news...the bad news is he offered nothing.
no spousal support, "on account of our equal ability to support ourselves from work"...even though i currently don't work
no division of assets, he keeps everything he controls, which already moved to his new accounts
no division of property, we each keep everything we currently have. after i left our apartment with what i could fit into a rental van (not to mention, the valuable items which somehow were mysteriously not available to pack...who knows what happened to those???)
no equal share in our retirement plans, because the amounts are "relatively equal"...right...after he brought me to a country where i was not legally permitted to work
no help paying the legal cost, which i have already accumulated ~$7k from previous attempts to divorce
and I waive my right to be awarded damages by the court
when i first posted about this, i said i'd do anything to divorce, now i don't know anymore.... if i accept the offer we can file and in a few months i'll be free of him.... but, the offer feels like a slap in the face.... if i take it, am i paying for my freedom? or selling myself short?
that's the good news...the bad news is he offered nothing.
no spousal support, "on account of our equal ability to support ourselves from work"...even though i currently don't work
no division of assets, he keeps everything he controls, which already moved to his new accounts
no division of property, we each keep everything we currently have. after i left our apartment with what i could fit into a rental van (not to mention, the valuable items which somehow were mysteriously not available to pack...who knows what happened to those???)
no equal share in our retirement plans, because the amounts are "relatively equal"...right...after he brought me to a country where i was not legally permitted to work
no help paying the legal cost, which i have already accumulated ~$7k from previous attempts to divorce
and I waive my right to be awarded damages by the court
when i first posted about this, i said i'd do anything to divorce, now i don't know anymore.... if i accept the offer we can file and in a few months i'll be free of him.... but, the offer feels like a slap in the face.... if i take it, am i paying for my freedom? or selling myself short?