I wasn't quite sure where to put this memory, but I would like to ask if anyone thinks it could be a potentially abusive memory - TW intimate content:
My M used to insist on putting lots of talc in my vaginal area - she always made a big thing of saying that I should ensure I have talc in 'all my nooks and crannies' - and this gives me a horrible image as an adult, as if she's trying to dry out all my fluids and make me dry and unhealthy. I also think that people who do that are at risk potentially of cancer - because surely it's not healthy to use talc so much. I don't do it as an adult, but I did used to do it as a child and teenager and probably into my young 20's as well.
I just wondered what other people think of that. Do you think it's an abusive thing, or just a weird behaviour? I know I've never asked her why she did that - but she used to do it to herself as well - and make a big thing of telling me about it. Strikes me as weird.
For some reason, that memory has been popping up more frequently, so I thought I'd write about it, and see what people think.
Hope
My M used to insist on putting lots of talc in my vaginal area - she always made a big thing of saying that I should ensure I have talc in 'all my nooks and crannies' - and this gives me a horrible image as an adult, as if she's trying to dry out all my fluids and make me dry and unhealthy. I also think that people who do that are at risk potentially of cancer - because surely it's not healthy to use talc so much. I don't do it as an adult, but I did used to do it as a child and teenager and probably into my young 20's as well.
I just wondered what other people think of that. Do you think it's an abusive thing, or just a weird behaviour? I know I've never asked her why she did that - but she used to do it to herself as well - and make a big thing of telling me about it. Strikes me as weird.
For some reason, that memory has been popping up more frequently, so I thought I'd write about it, and see what people think.
Hope