Since I have been in recovery and working on my CPTSD, I am going through something that I have never felt so strongly. Could be because I am not numbing anymore but man is it rough.
Here's the story. I met a lady about a month ago and we have been on 3 dates. We really it it off well and truly enjoyed each other's company. We are about the same age and have both been separated from our spouses for about a year and neither one of us have been in a meaningful relationship since then. My fears of rejection right now are almost debilitating. I send her a text and if she doesn't reply within a given period of time, the negative thoughts begin. See proof she doesn't want to see me, as I expected she's seeing someone else etc etc based on...absolutely nothing. Then she replies and my feelings subside and then I reply and here we go again. It is just awful. I asked her to go out on Wed and she said she would love to but she may have friends coming in from out of town. Logically, I think ok makes sense, she has only known me for a month and she does actually have a life. But then the negative self talker kicks in and it says, well if she really cared she would make time in her life for me, or figures probably another guy and on it goes. A year ago I would have numbed by acting out and all would have been well. Now though the power of these emotions is overwhelming. It s not even like I have a relationship to destroy but I would certainly like to explore it to see where it goes and I am fearful that I will ruin it before it even begins. Sigh - any ideas would be helpful. Thanks for listening.
Here's the story. I met a lady about a month ago and we have been on 3 dates. We really it it off well and truly enjoyed each other's company. We are about the same age and have both been separated from our spouses for about a year and neither one of us have been in a meaningful relationship since then. My fears of rejection right now are almost debilitating. I send her a text and if she doesn't reply within a given period of time, the negative thoughts begin. See proof she doesn't want to see me, as I expected she's seeing someone else etc etc based on...absolutely nothing. Then she replies and my feelings subside and then I reply and here we go again. It is just awful. I asked her to go out on Wed and she said she would love to but she may have friends coming in from out of town. Logically, I think ok makes sense, she has only known me for a month and she does actually have a life. But then the negative self talker kicks in and it says, well if she really cared she would make time in her life for me, or figures probably another guy and on it goes. A year ago I would have numbed by acting out and all would have been well. Now though the power of these emotions is overwhelming. It s not even like I have a relationship to destroy but I would certainly like to explore it to see where it goes and I am fearful that I will ruin it before it even begins. Sigh - any ideas would be helpful. Thanks for listening.