I'm feeling broken.
The bully who bullied me out of both my faith community and a community project we were both involved in, smeared me so severely that I have been planning to move to another city and start afresh next year (this isn't anywhere near a full summary because this is a small place and the damage has gone far wider than the membership of these groups) - that delightful person - has managed to do me more harm.
Last month she and her supporters moved out of the faith community to worship separately, in large part because of the "slander" caused by my telling some people what had happened. I left that community two years ago. I felt it was a power play. Almost all in that group and everyone in the other group have ostracised me. But I still have two friends from the faith community. But it seems it wasn't good enough to have anyone still speak to me.
It was predictable given the close-knit nature of the group, just a matter of time really. One friend tried to talk me into saying that my feelings from previous abuse had been projected onto the bully. She also hinted I had other reasons for unfairly accusing this person. I was shocked but managed to politely reject that, but things have changed now in both friendships and I feel I have now been completely socially annihilated
The bully who bullied me out of both my faith community and a community project we were both involved in, smeared me so severely that I have been planning to move to another city and start afresh next year (this isn't anywhere near a full summary because this is a small place and the damage has gone far wider than the membership of these groups) - that delightful person - has managed to do me more harm.
Last month she and her supporters moved out of the faith community to worship separately, in large part because of the "slander" caused by my telling some people what had happened. I left that community two years ago. I felt it was a power play. Almost all in that group and everyone in the other group have ostracised me. But I still have two friends from the faith community. But it seems it wasn't good enough to have anyone still speak to me.
It was predictable given the close-knit nature of the group, just a matter of time really. One friend tried to talk me into saying that my feelings from previous abuse had been projected onto the bully. She also hinted I had other reasons for unfairly accusing this person. I was shocked but managed to politely reject that, but things have changed now in both friendships and I feel I have now been completely socially annihilated