The thing that has me tied up in knots in my work relationships - CPTSD is also the thing that makes me good at what I do. It's a double edged sword. So - I'm a teacher. And I "get" the kids with behavioral issues, the kids who struggle, the kids who aren't successful in other classes. So - I get the kids. Year after year. And this year - again - I get a whole bunch of them in one class. Don't get me wrong - I love working with kids who have struggled. It's an important part of what I do. But when there are too many of them in one class, I get overwhelmed and I can't help any of them - and it has a huge impact on me and my health. And then when I complain - I am told that I am "imagining" things and that classes are really placed fairly. I know that this isn't true - and my principal knows it isn't true - but there isn't really anything I can do about it.
This year will be the worst year, because the group I am getting are very severe. So I have asked for a meeting, again, to lay out my case. I have practiced with my T. And even that was traumatic because the realization that I can't discuss a conflict without my body going into full "fight mode" was rather frightening to me. The conscious attention I have to give to slowing my breath and speech, softening my facial muscles, relaxing my body posture, and all while I have to carefully think about delivering a message in a non-threatening way has me wanting to just not go there. But it's more than just me. I have this whole class of kids that will be affected too. Feeling sick to my stomach.
This year will be the worst year, because the group I am getting are very severe. So I have asked for a meeting, again, to lay out my case. I have practiced with my T. And even that was traumatic because the realization that I can't discuss a conflict without my body going into full "fight mode" was rather frightening to me. The conscious attention I have to give to slowing my breath and speech, softening my facial muscles, relaxing my body posture, and all while I have to carefully think about delivering a message in a non-threatening way has me wanting to just not go there. But it's more than just me. I have this whole class of kids that will be affected too. Feeling sick to my stomach.