Recently told my emotional abuser to not come back. I wanted to go no contact because I am constantly triggered and there are also attempts at manipulation on his end. I needed to see him in person to switch a car title into his name (he had my car, in my insurance, and was drinking and driving). I brought a friend with trauma/cptsd for support, thinking that she would understand. He of coarse started his manipulation and I was triggered. I got emotional. She started to try and reason with me, telling me that I should do certain things and I was being unreasonable if I actually wanted him out of my life. I feel that I have the right to be in my place if he insists on pacing his own things. I don't trust him. Her attempts to "mediate" (which was not why I brought her) only made me feel more out of control and triggered. I lost it and told her to get out of my car.
My question is, how do I get my point across, how this made me feel, Without taking all the blame or putting it all on her. I want to make sure that she understands how what she did affected me, without placing blame.
My question is, how do I get my point across, how this made me feel, Without taking all the blame or putting it all on her. I want to make sure that she understands how what she did affected me, without placing blame.