Pretty much EVERY time the topic of my co-parenting situation comes up and I make an attempt to confide in someone, I get the typical unsolicited advice of how I should call my lawyer, file this, that, etc. go to child support enforcement, blah, blah, blah...all the stuff that yes, would be the logical solution if dealing with even a half normal person but does nothing or makes matters worse when dealing with a NPD.
I find myself getting angry, defensive as if "Really! Ya seriously think I never F'ing thought of/tried that?" I feel MORE invalidated, traumatized, ALONE as a result of peoples well meaning logical outlook on what has become my miserable crazy life where I've spent almost $50k in legal fees to end up worse off than I was when I was actually with this whacko that I was never married to but had a child with.
Love being told how amicability is really whats best for my daughter, etc. by people who have no idea how I could be so literally fearful for my life around someone who I admit, never laid a hand on me.
How do you folks shut people down. I need to get a tactic for this down as each of these types of interactions sends me into a PTSD episode.
I find myself getting angry, defensive as if "Really! Ya seriously think I never F'ing thought of/tried that?" I feel MORE invalidated, traumatized, ALONE as a result of peoples well meaning logical outlook on what has become my miserable crazy life where I've spent almost $50k in legal fees to end up worse off than I was when I was actually with this whacko that I was never married to but had a child with.
Love being told how amicability is really whats best for my daughter, etc. by people who have no idea how I could be so literally fearful for my life around someone who I admit, never laid a hand on me.
How do you folks shut people down. I need to get a tactic for this down as each of these types of interactions sends me into a PTSD episode.