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Podcasts, Videos & Documentaries / Intro IFS Capacity Work
« on: June 03, 2020, 05:40:31 PM »
(...sorry for the late info as this is starting tomorrow (June 4) at noon Pacific time, but I only just found out about it.)

"This introductory webinar shows how IFS and Capacity Work can be combined to enhance your personal growth."

I had to look at what they mean by capacity work -
"Capacity Work focuses on the healthy capacities you would like to have to live your life more fully, joyfully, and effectively. Here are some of the capacities you can develop:

IFS Capacities... To help your IFS work be even more effective.... Self-Compassion, Inner Curiosity, Respect for Parts, Patience, Mindfulness, Focus, Connectedness. To help you communicate better, especially in potentially conflictual situations.... " and there was such a long list of others that it was really too long to put here. I'm going to attend, I am really liking IFS so far.

Web Sites, Support Groups & Organizations / NAASCA Zoom meetings
« on: May 20, 2020, 05:07:01 PM »
I've been attending online meetings via Zoom, hosted by NAASCA (National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse, I'm finding them very helpful, and there are plans to continue them after the current social distancing procedures are relaxed.

I would encourage anyone who wants to put a face on their co-sufferers (for lack of a better word) to register for these meetings, It's a quick and easy process, they just email you a personal link to join the meetings, and that's all there is to it.

Meetings are held Tuesdays, Thursdays and Sundays at 2:00 pm Eastern Time (11:00 am Pacific). You can choose to appear on camera or not, to speak or not.

(This is not a 12 Step group although several participants have backgrounds in 12 step groups and sometimes references are made to 12 step meetings. References are sometimes made to higher powers, but not everyone in the group believes in one and no attempt is made to proselytize.)

Not everyone in the group is diagnosed, or identifies with having, cptsd. Most are survivors of sexual trauma. Some have backgrounds of other abuse as well.

At the last meeting, the hosts asked if we could help promote and get the word out about these meetings. Presently there are about 20 people who attend regularly, about 12 or so people in each meeting. They'd like to see more.  :yes:

Frustrated? Set Backs? / I am aghast... **trigger warning**
« on: April 07, 2020, 12:53:15 AM »
I'm absolutely floored by the decision to aquit George Pell and release him from prison! I'm speechless. How could this be???! It's not right!

So angry....

I'm having physical symptoms - nausea, heart beating weird.

What were they thinking!

Checking Out / Leaving again
« on: November 22, 2019, 03:18:31 PM »
I have to leave again. I'm not feeling well, mentally or physically. I will probably be back after I feel better. Hope everyone here stays on a path that leads them to the best healing there is. You've all been supportive and I'm Thankful.

Holidays & Other Important Days / Opting out of Thanksgiving
« on: November 20, 2019, 09:30:36 PM »
Just not feelin' it this year. Not up to the whole cleaning, shopping, cooking, visiting thing. And what's more I don't feel bad, or guilty, or ashamed about it - I actually feel very positive. I've already told/texted everyone. I'm not even worried about the responses. This feels like progress.

General Discussion / News from Australia's Blue Knot Foundation
« on: November 09, 2019, 03:53:08 AM »
On October 31, 2019, The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation announced that it has endorsed guidelines for the treatment of trauma, originally published by the Blue Knot Foundation.

"The original guidelines were unique: the first such clinical guidelines published anywhere in the world. In fact, they were endorsed by ISSTD, the first time the organisation had ever endorsed treatment guidelines from another organisation."

(bolding is mine)

Personally I think this is huge! One step closer to having treatment guidelines in other countries that are unique to cptsd without categorizing it under the umbrella of ptsd. I'm excited!

Books & Articles / “The dots were just not being connected.”
« on: November 02, 2019, 07:42:12 AM »
Excellent article on Scarlett Franks, a young Australian woman living with cptsd - she has some very good insights.

Some excerpts -

“I was receiving labels like anxiety, severe depression, mood disorders, eating disorders and self-harming disorders. All these disparate issues were being labeled and tackled in isolation,” she told Mamamia. “And I was experiencing all these somatic symptoms like non-epileptic seizures, random unexplained vomiting, unexplained fainting, unexplained chronic pain.
And the diagnoses kept coming. Dissociative identity disorder, borderline personality disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder. Collecting them burdened Scarlett with a sense of helplessness; they located the problem within her, rather than the trauma she’d experienced.
'Asked what it was like to be out of home, she paused.

"I don't know. It was a mixed experience, because there was both a sense of grief and fear, but also a sense of relief. And then there was guilt about that sense of relief.... "'
“[Adolescence] is already a time when people are unsure of themselves, and to feel like you are imposing upon people, when you've already been told that your entire existence is an imposition on your family… it’s like an existential crisis. It's a great sense of dread.”
She was bounced from doctor to doctor, therapist to therapist, service to service, until at the age of 22, she’d saved enough money to get into a private outpatient care program.

There, she started to receive psychiatric explanations for what was happening to her, the full story of her mental health, and how her brain had adapted to her traumatic upbringing.

It’s called 'structural dissociation'.

“When you've had to grow up with disorganised, chaotic caregivers, where your survival depends upon submerging yourself and trying to anticipate what they will do next, those parts of self become siloed, partitioned,” she said. “This is a neurophysiological mechanism; it's not a metaphor.”

Checking Out / Taking a break
« on: September 30, 2019, 06:18:40 PM »

General Discussion / Woman's DID alt personality allowed to testify
« on: September 25, 2019, 04:12:05 PM »
This Australian woman suffered horrible abuse and developed DID. Her story is that of a wounded person who fights for her vindication, pursuing her f to put him in jail for what he had done.

An Australian court gave one of her alternate personalities the permission to testify in court against her f. This personality was the one who held the memories, which were unavailable to other alts. An illuminating, educational, inspiring story of a survivor's journey through unspeakable horror.

EXTREME TW Although the explicit details are not discussed, there is enough information given here that you know what she endured.

Checking Out / A note to the missing
« on: August 29, 2019, 05:08:15 PM »
Some of those who have posted in the past have gone quiet. I want you to know that you are missed. Your insights were and are valuable. I won't list names. But just know, you are missed.  :hug:

A friend of mine had her blood tested and her copper levels were high. Her Dr discussed copper toxicity with her and how common it is these days.

Here's a partial list of symptoms the article states may be linked to copper toxicity.

academic underachievement
Learning disabilities, ADHD, autism
emotional meltdowns/frequent anger
ringing in ears
poor immune function
sleep problems
poor concentration and focus
hair loss
chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia
agitation, panic
over stimulation, racing thoughts
severe PMS, dysmenorrhea
endometriosis and fibroid tumors
autoimmune disorders

"Copper is also central to cellular energy production, and thus many patients with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue conditions related to mitochondrial dysfunction have disorders of copper metabolism."

Full article

The Cafe / Micro photography - tears
« on: August 20, 2019, 02:38:39 AM »
Stumbled upon an interesting article re a photographer who has managed to capture photos of different types of tears - for example, tears of joy, grief, etc - which show that these different tears are also visually different. There is a brief article explaining her work.

Music / "The Last Goodbye" by James Morrison
« on: June 19, 2019, 02:09:33 PM »
I don't believe you
And I never will
Oh I can't live by your side with the lies you've tried to instill
I can't take anymore, I don't have to give you a reason
For leaving this time
Cause this is my last goodbye

It's like I hardly know you
But maybe I never did
It's like every emotion you showed me, you kept well hid
And every true word that you ever spoke, was really deceiving
Now I'm leaving this time
Cause this is my last goodbye

I've got to turn and walk away
I don't have anything left to say
I haven't already said before
I've grown tired of being used
And I'm sick and tired of being accused
Now I'm walking away from you
And I'm not coming back

I don't believe you
And I never will
Oh I can't live by your side with the lies you've tried to instill
I can't take anymore, I don't have to give you a reason
For leaving this time
Cause this is my last goodbye

Oh I, I've got to turn and walk away
I don't have anything left to say
I haven't already said before
And I've grown tired of being used
And I'm sick and tired of being accused
Now I'm walking away from you
And I'm not coming back

And I don't believe you
And I never will
Oh I can't take anymore, I don't have to give you a reason
For leaving this time
This is my last goodbye
My last goodbye

Source: Lyricfind
Songwriters: James Morrison / Steve Mcewan / Jimmy Hogarth
The Last Goodbye lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group

General Discussion / Differences that men face p3
« on: June 11, 2019, 10:38:16 PM »
An infographic

The infographic can be viewed at

Men's mental health statistics

U.S. Male population 151,781,326
Males affected by depression per year: 6,000,000

Male depression often goes undiagnosed. Men are more likely to report fatigue, irritability, loss of interest in work or Hobbies, rather than feelings of sadness or worthlessness.

The highest suicide rates in the U.S. are found in Caucasian men over the age of 85.

Suicide is the 7th leading cause of death among males, accounting for 2.2% of all male deaths in 2011. Gay males are at an increased risk for suicide attempts, especially before the age of 25.

More than four times as many men as women die by suicide in the US. In 2010, a total of 38,364 Americans died by suicide and over three-quarters (79%) of these suicides were men.

Men are less likely than women to seek help for depression, substance abuse and stressful life events due to social norms, reluctance to talk, down playing symptoms.

General Discussion / Differences that men face p2
« on: June 11, 2019, 10:19:59 PM »

While mental illnesses affect both men and women, the prevalence of mental illnesses in men is often lower than women. Men with mental illnesses are also less likely to have received mental health treatment than women in the past year. However, men are more likely to die by suicide than women, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Recognizing the signs that you or someone you love may have a mental disorder is the first step toward getting treatment. The earlier that treatment begins, the more effective it can be.

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