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I am aware that CPTSD can make us feel younger than our actual age. Is it ever possible to grow "out of " that feeling?
I am struggling more and more among other people to have my behavior and opinion match my actual age (25+), and it is getting more difficult for me. I panicked because some of them actually commented on how childish I was. Combined with my paranoia and fawning response, I feel I'm just losing it in front of the others. I can't follow or catch up with conversations (I just don't understand the arguments people make, whether what they say is what they mean, why they are satisfied or frustrated); and with the things I thought I knew, my solutions and opinions are constantly put down as "naive" or "short-sighted". I don't think it was this bad before. Maybe it is just that my age keeps going up, but internally I'm always stuck at an earlier stage (I believe it's the twelve-year-old me for some reason)? But I don't even know how to work on it. When I ask myself the question about being a grown-up, I just don't know what it means any more. I used to think it means handling everything by oneself without asking for help, and hiding or even suppressing any emotion. I know these are messed up answers, but I don't have any alternative.
Does anyone know how should I start tackling this problem? Is it related to the inner child or something else? I thought inner child was the hidden self? But I am constantly feeling actually being a child. Every time I talked to someone in real life I just feel hopeless about my status, the constant disconnection from everyone else, feeling much younger and hence inferior to the "real" adults in my life. At this point, I think I can accept not being able to grow up at all, but I need to know at least how to keep pretending in order to survive. Any suggestion and advice will be greatly appreciated.
Camille
I am aware that CPTSD can make us feel younger than our actual age. Is it ever possible to grow "out of " that feeling?
I am struggling more and more among other people to have my behavior and opinion match my actual age (25+), and it is getting more difficult for me. I panicked because some of them actually commented on how childish I was. Combined with my paranoia and fawning response, I feel I'm just losing it in front of the others. I can't follow or catch up with conversations (I just don't understand the arguments people make, whether what they say is what they mean, why they are satisfied or frustrated); and with the things I thought I knew, my solutions and opinions are constantly put down as "naive" or "short-sighted". I don't think it was this bad before. Maybe it is just that my age keeps going up, but internally I'm always stuck at an earlier stage (I believe it's the twelve-year-old me for some reason)? But I don't even know how to work on it. When I ask myself the question about being a grown-up, I just don't know what it means any more. I used to think it means handling everything by oneself without asking for help, and hiding or even suppressing any emotion. I know these are messed up answers, but I don't have any alternative.
Does anyone know how should I start tackling this problem? Is it related to the inner child or something else? I thought inner child was the hidden self? But I am constantly feeling actually being a child. Every time I talked to someone in real life I just feel hopeless about my status, the constant disconnection from everyone else, feeling much younger and hence inferior to the "real" adults in my life. At this point, I think I can accept not being able to grow up at all, but I need to know at least how to keep pretending in order to survive. Any suggestion and advice will be greatly appreciated.
Camille