This is aimed at people who currently have a strained (or no) relationship with their parent(s) as a result of having been abused/neglected by them. As I'm still going through my own processing of my dysfunctional relationship with my father, I'm wondering about what others have experienced and whether there's a lot of commonality, or whether it's more case-by-case. Also, I'm trying to collate feedback that I may, in summary form (and anonymously—no reference to monikers or even this site), eventually try to make available on social media. The target audience for that content would be parents of estranged adult children who (parents) feel confused about the rift and are genuinely looking for clarity and solutions. If they're not able to communicate with their own child, at least they may benefit from hearing the main themes that emerge from this compilation. I feel like there's not enough information out there coming from the child's POV in this case of family estrangement. Maybe this can help someone, one day
If you're willing to share (no pressure, needless to say!), please try to be succinct, and feel free to skip any of the questions for any reason. Also, if the parent(s) in question is no longer alive, please discuss within the context of while they were still living. Finally, if you're interested in participating, but don't wish to post here, feel free to PM me your response
-Have you chosen to go low- or no- contact (i.e., LC or NC)?
-What is the thing about your parent's past and/or present behavior towards you that most bothers you and/or best explains your reason for LC/NC?
-Do you think your parent understands what the problem is? Have you articulated it to them, and how? How have they responded? If you haven't communicated your reasons, what stopped you?
-Is there something you want from your parent that you think could help you heal? If so, what is it, and how much would it help?
-If you're LC/NC, do you think there's anything your parent could do to make you agree to more contact, and what is it?
-Is there anything about your dealings to date with your parent that you regret? Anything you'd do differently if you could? How?
Thanks to anyone willing to respond
If you're willing to share (no pressure, needless to say!), please try to be succinct, and feel free to skip any of the questions for any reason. Also, if the parent(s) in question is no longer alive, please discuss within the context of while they were still living. Finally, if you're interested in participating, but don't wish to post here, feel free to PM me your response
-Have you chosen to go low- or no- contact (i.e., LC or NC)?
-What is the thing about your parent's past and/or present behavior towards you that most bothers you and/or best explains your reason for LC/NC?
-Do you think your parent understands what the problem is? Have you articulated it to them, and how? How have they responded? If you haven't communicated your reasons, what stopped you?
-Is there something you want from your parent that you think could help you heal? If so, what is it, and how much would it help?
-If you're LC/NC, do you think there's anything your parent could do to make you agree to more contact, and what is it?
-Is there anything about your dealings to date with your parent that you regret? Anything you'd do differently if you could? How?
Thanks to anyone willing to respond