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#1
General Discussion / UK support groups
August 27, 2018, 06:28:03 PM
I'm looking for an in person support group for CPTSD and haven't had much success to date. I feel like connecting in person really helps me. I attended a group last year via Meetup for a while but it closed down after a couple of months.

Today I went to an AcoA meeting ( Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfuntional Families) https://adultchildren.org/ I was physically and emotionally abused by my parents, they weren't alcoholics but I wanted to try it out to see if it would be relevant. I'm not a natural '12 step person' as I'm not religious, but I went a lot to an eating disorder recovery one about 5 years ago which did help. Anyway, I wondered if anyone has any experience of ACA or anything else like it that might be useful?

It can feel pretty lonely going through this alone, and I've found that in person groups can be really useful in grounding me. I'm not sure on the ACA group, but will try out a few meetings to see how it goes.
#2
Hi,

I started to go low contact with with toxic family members a few months back. I didn't realise there was a term for it, or that it was a thing at the time of doing it, what drove me was my need to protect and preserve my recovery. One of my family members specialises in guilt trips and martyrdom and has tried to to make me feel bad for distancibg myself... but I feel a lot better. For almost 20 years, I felt stuck in a cycle of being the fixer, appeaser and parent, and am in a way grateful for an event two years ago that triggered flashbacks and hyper vigiliance that wasn't so bad all I'm could do was sleep, work and eat. I I was exhausted and had reached my absolute limit.

Following that, it took a couple of years of counselling and EMDR to get to the point of wanting to take care of me first.

It's not always easy being LC, it can feel quite 'grey' for me, being a 'black or white' person. But NC isn't a an option as I want to maintain contact as two of my siblings have children.

I'd be interested to hear how others find LC?
#3
Hi,

I'm new to the forum. I'm 39,and was diagnosed with CPTSD 2 years ago. Needless to say, it's affected all of my adult life, and some of my childhood. Being diagnosed was a relief in a way - I assumed that I was broken in some way, and addiction, hospitalisation, medication and failed relationships and friendships underlined the feeling.

I've been in EMDR for just over a year, it's helped a lot, but I'm still pretty much constantly hyper vigilant, and EF and disassociation can creep up on me when I'm not being 'mindful'.

My Mother was physically and emotionally abusive, I was the scapegoat, and it started when I was around 6. My Dad was an enabler, and abusive in similar ways.

I wanted to thank everyone here for making such a helpful and supportive community. I've been lurking here for about a year, and it's helped me feel a lot less alone.