Topics

You taught me to never assume
That when we do, we get consumed
Imma teach you the same lesson
Don't assume you can be messin'

Around with me, my ride or die
You respect and you don't defy
Following intention with an action
Talk's synonymous with inaction

You seem to have assumed
That I'll always come back to you
Like I am a boomerang
That you could just go and throw away

You got me so confused
Saying I'm not being used
Look it's only temporary
But all I feel is quite contrary

Baby, to what you say
Lately you got me feeling played
Cuz you be out here throwing shade
Feel like I'm the one who should be ashamed

You seem to have assumed
That I'll always come back to you
Like I am a boomerang
That you could just go and throw away

You're insane 
For lying to my * face
Crying is a * waste
Try me and I'll give you a taste

Of what it feels like when a true love dies
When healing us is not a matter of time
And that you don't always get back what you lose
So be careful of what you choose to do

You seem to have assumed
That I'll always come back to you
Like I am a boomerang
That you could just go and throw away

Feeling like deja vu
I'm in this same place again with you
Telling me what's your ideal
That which can't manifest for real

You can run but you cannot hide
That which haunts you late at night
And I know that I'll be in your dreams
The ones you wake up to and * scream

My friend and I have been together for more than 4 years and are both kind of young (24, 26). We refer to each other as friends because we feel that labels create a lot of expectations. Basically, we've had a close friendship and have had sex with each other pretty consistently during that time. Within the past year, we've tried to move towards more of a partnership as I expressed to him that I don't think I could hold up more than one significant romantic relationship, so I was looking for more of a primary partner in an open relationship. He said he was looking for the same thing. We believe that sexual attraction is not something that should have guilt associated with it. However, there are challenges to this type of relationship - primarily, jealousy and trust. We've both needed some space lately and have been on Tinder trying to meet new people since loneliness is still a thing. Tonight, he's going to hang out with someone and he told me about it and I'm feeling jealousy and triggered because I fear betrayal and abandonment, but I really appreciate him telling me and I hope he has a good time. He isn't looking for sex and told me so. I would love it if I could get thoughts. And thank you for letting this be a platform where I can freely express myself.

[Red Table Talk]

Hey guys,

It's been a real struggle being in relationships - they're always way more intense than relationships I hear about. I have been in mine for about 4 years and we both have our issues and are both young (24 & 26). We decided last year that we'd both like to try to be life partners for each other. We think our relationship based on honesty, communication, and self-growth is something we'd like to support and be there for. Long story short, easier said than done, and being so young, there's a lot of wisdom to gain in order for us to not hurt each other.

Red Table Talk https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/ which is a show hosted by Jada Pinkett Smith, has been extremely helpful to me in giving me the strength I seek to be in a relationship style I want. I hope it's helpful to at least one other person as well. Thank you.

Hi,

In the middle of a really hard time making decisions to be NC with a mother with severe mental and physical health issues. Leaning very heavily on friends right now and feeling irrational fear of abandonment with my partner. Reading the posts have been helpful for calming me down as I've been awake for the last hour trying to gain control of my panic. I am so grateful I can relate to the dilemmas people face and hope to contribute in the healing for everyone.