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Would it be helpful or harmful to communicate to acquaintances and family members that I have Complex PTSD, and to let them know what it is?  Should I keep it a secret and work hard to pretend to be "normal"?

I have "graduated" from therapy and have tried a local trauma recovery group.  I have read "Healing from Hidden Abuse", "Complex PTSD From Thriving to Surviving", and "Safe People" by Cloud and Townsend.  I am continuing to learn how to identify who my abusers were, and who potential abusers are.  I am also learning how to stop making excuses for, and excusing abusive behavior of my abusers.  And I'm learning how to create and maintain healthy boundaries.  It's good for me to acknowledge which people are unhealthy for me to be in relationship with.  Now, I am ready to develop healthy relationships.  I have very few healthy relationships.  I have a very loving and supportive wife, I have family members that understand and support me to varying degrees, and a friend that can relate and understand, but has his own issues to work out.  I do not have any friends that would be willing to understand, accept, and validate my condition that I can have healthy relationships with.  I do not want to waste my time, or have negative / unhealthy outcomes in developing relationships with people who have little or no interest in being authentic, genuine, and sincere.  It would be good for me to relate to people who know that it would be good for each other to have a healthy accountability within the relationship.  Has anyone had successful relationships along these lines?