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Mother's/Father's Day / Dreading motherís day
« on: May 12, 2019, 05:22:47 AM »
Itís been about a year and a few months since Iíve gone LC with Narc Mom. Last year for motherís day I just texted her and she told me she didnít want anything anyway, I guess that was her way of taking control of my actions. She has to call all the shots.

This year Iím contemplating not even texting her, and my hubby said I should text her.

Iím torn, curious what most of you guys do?

Introductory Post / Help needed, contemplating going NC
« on: May 05, 2019, 12:49:22 AM »
I had some intense therapy about a year ago. I felt my life was just spiraling and really couldnít figure out why. Iím not depressed, and had been misdiagnosed as bipolar back in my twenties, Iím now 44.
I guess I just really wanted to know why I was different from everyone I know.

I was able to peel back the layers of my life to realize that Iím not the ďproblemĒ. Iíve lived my whole life trying to please my Narcissistic mother. While that may sound harmless, itís made me very unhappy and now Iím dealing with Complex ptsd.

Iím very fortunate to have found a therapist who has been able to help me reach this conclusion. Itís just awful to feel unloved and invisible by a parent. Iím going to start seeing my therapist again.

Iím tired of being on the hamster wheel of ďwhyĒ this has happened to me. I seriously want to heal and just find happiness in my life.

I need some advice from those who have gone NC. Every time I have some little interaction with her it just sends me spiraling down. Itís definitely a trigger and I get sucked into a black hole of thinking of all the emotional abuse.

I am an only child, so I tend to give myself guilt about the whole NC thing.

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