I have discovered something about myself that I never really knew of, even people around me never suspected this part of me: using humor to deal with difficult subjects
I first began to notice this new behavior in myself as I spent time in-patient in two clinics. I noticed that with the other patients there I began to joke with them and kid them. This felt so new and good to me that I looked forward to other group settings where I could be the same way. But in my everyday life at home, with my family, I rarely joined in the conversations, and everyone was used to that.
As time went on I began by voicing my opinions more and more openly with my husband (the children, three daughters, were already grown and moved out) This was rather unexpected by my husband and he responded most often with "Why did you never say this before?" because he had assumed for years that I shared his opinions on almost everything.
When I was with my daughters I exercised my new found freedom to "be myself" by making unexpected comments and joking with them - very unexpected
To keep an already long story from being even longer I feel most inclined to use my humor to handle stress, tension, even anger, and it works so well for me that I use it regularly to encourage others
Any one who is interested, I can tell about a recent example where I got my sister laughing about some of the tragic aspects of her Parkinsons
I first began to notice this new behavior in myself as I spent time in-patient in two clinics. I noticed that with the other patients there I began to joke with them and kid them. This felt so new and good to me that I looked forward to other group settings where I could be the same way. But in my everyday life at home, with my family, I rarely joined in the conversations, and everyone was used to that.
As time went on I began by voicing my opinions more and more openly with my husband (the children, three daughters, were already grown and moved out) This was rather unexpected by my husband and he responded most often with "Why did you never say this before?" because he had assumed for years that I shared his opinions on almost everything.
When I was with my daughters I exercised my new found freedom to "be myself" by making unexpected comments and joking with them - very unexpected
To keep an already long story from being even longer I feel most inclined to use my humor to handle stress, tension, even anger, and it works so well for me that I use it regularly to encourage others
Any one who is interested, I can tell about a recent example where I got my sister laughing about some of the tragic aspects of her Parkinsons