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Hi all,

There is a guy in my life who I briefly dated three years ago, then became friends with. Recently we got involved again. I spent loads of time with him last weekend and he spent the night... he is now acting all distant and not texting or calling me. It is quite a contrast because beforehand he was paying me loads of attention. I feel dismayed and also ashamed.

I don't know if he just used me for sex, or if there is more to it than that. Tbf he recently broke up with someone he was with for 2 years, so maybe he is confused. But i feel kinda betrayed. As he was my friend, I thought I could trust him.

I am feeling really lonely in lockdown, and now I feel cast aside. Maybe I could talk to him about it, but right now my instinct is to give him some space and also try to look after myself. I think I need to get into a better space mentally before taking to him.

It just touches on my abandonment wound- ouch.

My therapist thinks I have trouble being kind to myself and that I need to learn how to do that.  She seems to think that my trauma related neediness scares other people off and that I have to meet my own emotional needs. I find myself feeling really angry and tearful after our session. I feel it is a bit like victim blaming to point this out. How the * am I supposed to meet my own emotional needs when everyone else seems to find them too much? It feels like an impossible task, and that I am being set up to fail. I feel she is being smugly telling me what is wrong with me without providing any clear road map to recovery.

Hi,

I live in the UK and we are currently in a covid 19 lockdown. I cannot begin to describe how triggering this is for my CPTSD. We are being told to stay home and avoid socialising. I live alone. This is sheer torture for my abandoned inner child. It seems like it will be going on for months which is bringing up feelings of interminable dread. I have a great therapist and good friends who I have been video calling, but it is not the same as meeting in person. I have no idea how I am going to get through this. I guess many people will be experiencing the same thing.

Hi,

I am having fertility treatment now. My third egg freezing cycle. Today I am tearful and feeling really sad about my breakup from my narc ex a year ago. He discarded me in a really brutal way and it brought up a lot of unresolved grief from childhood emotional neglect amongst other things.

I decided to freeze my eggs after that as I am 38 and didn't want to lose my chance to have a child.

I was expecting to feel hormonal /tearful at this stage in the process as I did during my two previous cycles. So I have managed to maintain some perspective and not completely get lost in the flashback feelings. Went to yoga earlier, then had my lunch outside in my garden, and that helped.

Still sucks though. Nothing much to say really, just wanted to put it out there.

Two more weeks till I am done with this cycle...